Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Le recipe ayiyiyo yonke indawo, kodwa kwimeko xa umntwana ehlola imida yento evunyelwe, oku kunene.
1. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokubetha umntwana kubalulekile ukumxelela ukuba uhlungu kakhulu, kwaye awusayi kufuna ukuba akubethe.
2. Nangona kunjalo, ukubethelwa kwesibetho kuphindaphindiwe, zama ukuwususa isandla sakhe.
3. Ukuba umntwana usezandleni zakhe ngeli xesha, emva kokuzama kweyesibini, kuyimfuneko ukumvumela ukuba ahambe, ehamba kunye namazwi, ukuba unjalo unyango luyinto engathandekiyo kuwe, kwaye awuyi kuthetha ngawo. Ngaloo ndlela, kumagama, songeza izinto ezenza ukuba kubalulekile ukuba amagama athetha.
4. Ukuba umntwana sele eqale ukukhala, unokukhawuleza uyifake ezandleni zakho uze uzizisole. Ngenxa yokuba umsebenzi wethu awuyikuhlazisa kunye nokuhlwaya, kodwa ukuchaza. Umntwana unokubangela ukuba umsindo ongenakulindeleka usezandleni.
5. Ukuba, emva kokuphinda uthathe umntwana engxenyeni zakho, ukuphazamiseka kukuphindaphindiwe, kuphinda uthathe ezandleni zakho, kwaye uchaze ngokukhawuleza njengoko kunokwenzeka oko kungakufanelekanga ngokukodwa. Ukwenza oku, kubalulekile ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo okwenza kucace kwaye kuchaneke ukuba umntwana akabi, kwaye ukuziphatha kwakhe akuvumelekanga.
6. Ngokuqhelekileyo, emva kokuzama kweyesibini, awuyi kuthatha ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa nangaphambi kokuba uhlasele, akudingeki ukuba uyifake. Ngexesha elilandelayo ungayithatha ngesandla, ubambelele ngokusingatha umntwana.
7. Ukuba umntwana esezandleni zakhe, kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuhamba kunye namazwi ngezenzo zokuzicima. Umzekelo, ukuba udlala kunye, misa lo mdlalo, ukuba umntwana ugijime aze ahlasele, kufuneka ushiye eli gumbi.
8. Ukuba umntwana ubetha umama okanye ubaba phambi kohlobo okanye amanye amalungu omndeni, kubalulekile ukuba bangaphazamisi kule meko, okanye baxhase upapa okanye unina. Kulo mzekelo, kuyimfuneko ukuzisola ngexhoba, ukungahoyi ngokupheleleyo umoni. Kumntwana, umzekelo onjalo ubonisa ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo akuyona indlela ephumelele kakhulu yokutsala ingqwalasela, kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, ukuba le ndlela ayisebenzi.
9. Ukubambisana kubalulekile kuzo zonke ezi zinto. Oko kukuthi, ukuba awukwazi ukubetha unyoko, ngoko awukwazi ukuhlwa, kungekusa, okanye ekutyeleleni, okanye kwisitrato okanye nakweyiphi na imeko. Ukuze kulungiswe le ngxaki, njengomgaqo, kuthatha iiveki 2-3.
Iiphoso zomzali, xa uzama ukuhlangabezana nokuziphatha komntwana:
1. "Nika utshintsho" ekuphenduleni kwintonga okanye ukubetha ingalo. Esi senzo senu siphutha. Ngenxa yokuba abantwana bakopisha ukuziphatha kwabazali babo. Ngaloo nyathelo ubonisa umntwana onokuncedwa ngumsindo, unokubonisa ukucaphuka kwakho kwaye le ndlela iyamkeleka. Ngoko ke, nyanzela oko ungenako umntwana, awukwazi kunye nabazali.
2. "Ukuzenza sengathi uyakhala" ngumsebenzi. Asinakukuchaphazela ngokwenene inkohliso yenina, kodwa inyaniso yokuba umama ubonisa into ethile ngokwayo "ukuzonwabisa". Ikakhulukazi kumntwana ngonyaka kunye nesiqingatha. Kwaye ke kukho umngcipheko wokuba umntwana uya kuqhubeka nokuphinda amanyathelo akhe ukuba abone "umsebenzi" wakhe.
3. Kuyafana neendwangu zentlungu, ukumemeza, njl. Ukuba umntwana wakho akayikwesabisa, ngoko unokukwazi ukubona oko kwenzekayo ngokuthi "ukusebenza." Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kufuna ukuphinda kwakhona.
4. Ihlazo. Iintloni wena ... Ihlazo yinkalo yentlalo, leyo, ngenxa yeenjongo zemfundo, ukuba iyasebenza, kamva kamva. Leli lizwi nje kubantwana.
Ekuqaleni kwesi nqaku kubhaliwe ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo ukuziphatha okunjalo kukukhangela imida. Ewe, oku kunjalo ukuba umntwana kwintsapho ayiboni olo hlobo unyango. Yaye ukuba yena ngokwakhe uyabethwa, okanye umzali omnye uphakamisela isandla sakhe kwesinye, ngoko-ke kuyimfuneko ukuba siqale ukutshintsha loo nto nathi.