Ukuhamba nabantwana

Mhlawumbi, akukho babazali abangenakujamelana nemeko enjalo:

Uphuma ukuhamba nomntwana wakho kwindawo yokudlala, kwi-sandbox, umntwana wakho uqokelela amathoyizi akho amathandayo ixesha elide (ibhakethi kunye nama-spatula, iimbumba, iikhrayoni, i-spray soap), ilanga likhanya, umphefumlo uvuyo sele usuvulile ilanga elifudumele ilanga .... Kodwa yonke into iyaphikisana nomoya wakho wokuhamba kakuhle kunye nosana wakho othandekayo.

Amathoyi azama ukuthatha umntwana womnye, athulule umbhobho wakho wesepha, umntwana wakho ufuna ukukhangela kwiimidlalo zamanye umntu, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ufumana i-scoop okanye isanti emehlweni akhe ebunzini. Kwizimvo zakho ezinomsindo malunga nokuziphatha komntwana, unina onomomotheka omnandi uthi ukhulisa umntwana wakhe ngendlela entsha kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akunakwenzeka ukuba abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka yobudala bavumeleke nantoni na. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ubilisa ngentukuthelo, uhudulela umntwana okhalayo kwenye indawo, uvakalelwa yintlanzi, i-mood is lost, kunye ne-blue bruise ebonakala ebunzini lakho ... ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba abantwana abangenabo ababi kakhulu babone ukulwa kwabantwana kwi-sandbox, phakathi kwabo. Kukho amacala okubulala ...

Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho aphendukele kwi-angel ibe ngumtyholi omncinci, ufumana zonke iintsana, ezixhamla kwi-sandbox efanayo, kwaye uyanqunyulwa ukuba ubaleke ukusuka kwindawo yokulwa ukuya kumakhalo oomama abathukutheleyo, ethembise ukuba ulungiselele i-swill yakho indlu.

Kungenzeka njani ukuba uhambo aluyi kuvavanywa rhoqo kwixesha lamandla emisipha kunye namandla ebunzini?


- Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukuya kunye nokudlala nabanye abantwana

Musa ukuyinyanzela. Umntwana ngamnye unomyinge wokungena ngokutsha - umntu ngokukhawuleza uba ngumlawuli, kwaye umntu kufuneka abheke phambili ngokusondeleyo ukusuka kude, uzame ngokukhawuleza ukwenza abahlobo, kwaye mhlawumbi, badlala kunye. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana wakho akhuphe kude neenkampani zabantwana, mlandele. Ixesha liya kuza kwaye yena ngokwakhe uya kuthunyelwa kwinkampani jikelele, kwaye unokufunda incwadi ebhentshini.

Zama ukumfundisa ngokucophelela ukudlala kwiqela, fundisa ngomzekelo. Sondela kwelinye umntwana, zithi, buze igama lakhe, libize igama lakho, cela imvume yokudlala naye kunye nokuba enye inyane inqabe - ungagxininisi kumdlalo odibeneyo. Ukuhlonela iminqweno yomnye, umisela umzekelo wakho omncinane uze umxelele ukuba iimfuno zakhe ziya kuthathwa ingqalelo. Zama ukudlala nabantwana abafanayo okokuqala, ukuze umntwana wakho akamele ahlangabezane nobutsha obutsha xa engabandakanyeli ukuhlanganisana. Umgaqo-siseko uhamba kancane, ungagxininisi, ulandele umlinganiselo wakho womntwana.


- Kumntwana wakho, wathatha amathoyizi, waphula i-kurichiki.

Into ephambili ukuzola. Jonga indlela umntwana wakho ayenzela ngayo imeko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, into esiyibona njengento engekho sikweni ngokungafanelekanga ayiyonto yomntwana. Mhlawumbi akayi kucinga ngeli xesha. Ewe, ukuba oko kwenzeka njalo rhoqo kunye neyinkwenkwe yakho isebenza njengomxhasi kwididi yonke, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka. Ukuba umntwana akanakukwazi ukujamelana nale meko kunye neenyembezi zizalisa amehlo akho, zithathele imeko ezandleni zakho. Yiza kunye naye kumhlaseli, ucele ngokuzithoba nangokuzithoba ukuba ubuyisele into yokudlala okanye uyitshintshe, zama ukusa endaweni yakhe enye. Zama ukunikela enye into yokudlala xa umntwana wakho efuna oko. Ukuba akukho nto inceda, cela umnina, unqande ukuhlambalaza, ukuze ungangcolisi uhambo okanye yena, okanye kumntwana wakhe.


- Umntwana wakho udlala nabanye, kodwa akafuni ukwabelana nantoni na

Makungabikho ukwahlukana. Okanye unamahloni ukuba umntwana wakho uya kugwetywa njengesiwa? Ngoko ke kuphela ukucinga kwakho. Umntwana omncinci ungokoqobo. Iimpawu zakhe zinobuncwane bakhe. Ngaba unokwabelana ngeempahla zakho zobunandi okanye iingubo zobuncwane obalulekileyo? Kuyafana ... Nawe nawuphi na umzekelo, ungakhethi kwaye unganiki iitoni zakhe ukuba zilahlekelwe kwezinye iifana, nokuba zibancinci kuneyakho. Kule meko, umane ube ngumrhwebi kumntwana wakho. Kuvela ukuba unecala lomngceli ongaphandle. Kunoko, xelela omnye umntwana ukuba le nto yokudlala yintsana yakho, ngoko umcele ukuba angayithathi. Phakamisa omnye umntu ngokubuyisela. Ukuba umntwana wakho unikela abanye amathoyizi, qiniseka ukumdumisa. Kancinci, uyaqonda "iingenelo" zento enokubelwa ngayo.


- Umntwana wakho ungumloli kunye noxhaphaza

Yiyo xa uvela, abanye abafazi baqala ukuqokelela amathoyizi baze bafune enye indawo ukuba bahambe? Ungazami ukuhamba kunye naye kwiindawo ezizimeleyo ngexesha le-hour-off. Mhlawumbi usemncinci kwaye akazi ukuba ungayifumana njani imfuno yabanye kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Mfundise ukuba asebenze kwiqela. Yonke ixesha lichaze kwaye libeke ingxelo malunga noko kwenzekayo. Ngokukhawuleza xa ubona iinzame zakhe zokulungiselela ukulwa, uthathe umdlalo womnye umntu, umise kwaye uchaze isizathu sokuba kungenakwenziwa. Nifundisa ukuba ungakhethi, kodwa utshintshe. Baxolise baze bafundise umntwana wakho ukuba axolise xa ephosakele omnye. Ukuba ukukholisa akuncedi, yitshintshela kwesinye isifundo, dlala umdlalo ohlukile. Chaza ukuba kutheni wenze oku. Chaza ukuba xa eziphatha ngale ndlela, kuya kufuneka uhambe ekhaya. Kodwa ungasongeli, kodwa uchaze.

Mngene umdlalo onomdla kunye namadoda amancinci, izilwanyana ezincinane, iimoto kwi-sandbox efanayo, ukuze adlale ngokubhekiselele kwabanye abantwana kunye nemidlalo, kodwa wayexakekile ngomsebenzi wakhe.

Abantwana ngenxa yobudala babo, akukacaci ukuba bahlunguzana. Ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuyichaza ngokuthe rhoqo.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungahlali uphazamisekile kwimpikiswano yabantwana. Vumela umntwana ngokwakhe afune iindlela zokuphuma kwaye abonise ukuzimela. Eli thuba libaluleke kakhulu kubantwana. Ukususela koku kuqala ukukwazi kwakhe ukwakha ubudlelwane nabangaphandle. Emva koko unokuxoxa ngeemeko, imbangela yalo, ezinye iindlela zokusombulula kwaye udunyiswe ngomntwana wakho ekufumaneni indlela yokuphuma kwimpikiswano.

Harutyunyan Anna