Abanye abazali baxhamla abantwana babo kakhulu, ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba ayenzi kakuhle. Abantwana abaphangiweyo bayakhula, ngokusemthethweni, kuloo mindeni apho abazali bafezekisa yonke intshukumo yomntwana, kwaye zonke iimvakalelo ziba yinkolo ethile.
Abantwana abaphangiweyo, ukususela kwiminyaka emncinci bayicinga ukuba bayakhethwa, bahlakulela iimvakalelo ezinjengobuqili, ukuzingca, ukunyaniseka, ukungacacanga. Baqhelanise kwaye bahlala bekhalaza ngabazali babo, oontanga, nangona ininzi yamabango ayinaso isiseko. Ngabantwana abanjalo kunzima kubazali kuphela, kodwa nakwabafundisi kwi-nursergart, kunye nootitshala esikolweni.
Umntwana otshatyalaliswayo uhlala efuna ukunyamekela kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo uyabathanda inzuzo yabanye. Ngoko ke, abazali abaselula bayazibuza ukuba bangakhusela njani umntwana ophangiweyo. Kwaye oku kufuneke ukwazi ukuba uziphatha kakuhle.
Ngomnyaka wokuqala wobomi, kunzima ukuphazamisa umntwana, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukubeka isiseko sokutshatyalaliswa kwikamva. Ukuba usuku lonke umama akawuthabatheli amehlo kumntwana wakhe, uhlala emnika lowo, ke omnye uvuyayo, uzama ukumnceda, ngoko mhlawumbi unqumla isidingo somntwana ekuqwalaselweni nasekunyamekeleni. Ngaloo ndlela, emva kweminyaka embalwa, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba unina unamandla ngokupheleleyo.
Njengomthetho, abantwana baphuhliswa ngabazali aba:
- Ukulinda ixesha elide kulinda umntwana, kwaye ke ngoko kunika ingqwalasela eyongeziweyo, bayesaba ukuba abayi kuba nomntwana wesibini;
- baye bafundiswa njengengcali yeengqondo okanye utitshala kwaye ngoku bacinga ukuba kufuneka baqinisekise ubuchule babo;
- abaqinisekanga ngamakhono abo, ngoko ke baziphendulela kuba ngamakhoboka omntwana wabo, bambeka ithemba lokuba amaphupha awazalwanga;
- bazive bengamthandi ngomntwana wabo kwaye bazame ukuzenza kubo ngokuzalisekisa zonke ii-whims kunye ne-whims.
Ukuphangwa kaninzi kubantwana bokuqala, kuba ngomntwana wesibini, abazali sele benamava kwaye baziphatha ngokuzithemba.
Enyanisweni, abazali bafuna ukuba umntwana abe nakho konke okusemgangathweni apho umntwana akudingeki nantoni na. Ingane ifuna ukutya ngokumnandi kwaye imnandi ukugqoka - kubazali abaninzi le nto ibonakaliso lobuntwana obuhle. Nangona kunjalo, mhlawumbi le yimiqathango yokunwabalala kwabazali, kungekhona umntwana. Emva kwakho konke, inkunzi yenkwenkwe ayikhathaleli ukuba yintoni ixabiso lokudlala okanye i-T-shirt indleko. Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ahloniphe abanye kunye neminqweno yabo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kumntwana kukuthanda kwabazali kunye nabathandekayo, kungekhona izinto eziphathekayo. Akukho nanye yee-laptops ezibiza kakhulu aziyi kuthatha indawo yokuhamba ngemini ephumayo epakini okanye uhambo ukuya ekhwela. Indoda yangempela akuyena umntu olwa kwindawo yokudlala, kodwa umntu ojongene nezenzo zakhe. Ukuba uqhubeka u-pamper, ngoko kuza kufike imini xa abazali beba ngumxhelo wemali kuphela kumntwana, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kuye.
Ngezantsi imigaqo elula, ukunamathela kuyo, unako ukukhulisa umntwana ngaphandle kokuwucima:
Kubalulekile ukuchazela umntwana ukuba yintoni umahluko phakathi kokufuneka kunye nesifiso esingenasiphelo.
Amathoyizi apho umntwana engadlalayo kunye nezinto ezingasasifanelekanga ubukhulu zingabuthwa kunye nomntwana kwaye zithathwe kwiinkedama. Umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba kukho abantu kwihlabathi abaqalayo abanakho konke okufunekayo. Ngoko umntwana uya kufunda ukuva novelwano kunye nabanye.
Kubalulekile ukuba ulungele ukuba umntwana uya kuziqhathanisa kunye nabanye. Ukuthelekisa nabanye kubhetele ukuziphatha kwabantu. Umntu ngamnye kwinto efezekisa ngakumbi kunabanye, kwaye kwinto ehlehla ngasemva. Ngenxa yoko, imeko ivela xa umntwana efuna into ethile kuphela kuba kungomnye umntu. Thenga kule meko, into enokuyenza kuphela ukuba le nto iyimfuneko kwaye iluncedo. Ukuba le yinye i-trinket, ngoko akufanele uyithenge, kodwa kufuneka uchaze isigqibo sakho. Olunye ukhetho ukunikela umntwana ukuba "athole" le nto, umzekelo, uncedo ngemisebenzi yasendlini okanye amabanga esikolweni.
Ufanele ufundise umntwana wakho ukuba acwangcise iindleko zakhe kwaye agcine imali.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba azuze. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, akukona ukwenza umntwana azuze iimfuno zakhe ukususela ebuntwaneni. Kufuneka ufundise umntwana ukuba athole into yokusebenza. Makhe azame esikolweni okanye ancede unina.