Kutheni umntwana kufuneka ahlakulele ingcamango?
Iingcamango zibalulekileyo kunye nendawo enomdla ekuphuhliseni umntwana. Okokuqala, masizame ukuqhelana nemigaqo ethile kunye neenqobo. Wonke umntu unethuba lokuphuhlisa ubuchule kunye nokucinga. Abantu abadala banceda ukuhlakulela ingcamango yomntwana, ngokuqinisekileyo "ukufundisa umntwana", ukutyhila enkulu, inomdla kwaye inomdla.
Ihlabathi elidalwe ngcamango ye-macrocosm ayikho ilizwe elihle, liphila ngemithetho yalo. Iingcamango zomntwana zisekelwe kwimeko yomntwana ngokwakhe, ngubani na onobugovu bobomi boqobo. Ezi ziganeko, izenzo, imikhwa.
Abazali bafanele bakhuthaze yonke imbonakalo yokucinga kwengqondo yomntwana. Into efanelekileyo, eyenziwe ngumntwana, ingagcinwa kwifolda ekhethekileyo. Kuya kuba yimimiselo eyisiqalo yento engayifumana ngayo ngcamango yakhe okanye ngoncedo oluncinane kubantu abadala. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana angakwazi ukuvavanya "umsebenzi" wakhe ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba umntwana akayi kuhlakulela olu buchule, ukuphuhlisa kwakhe ukudala "kunokunciphisa" kufuneka aqonde ukuba wenze kakuhle kwaye kufuneka yini ukulungiswa. Abazali mabahlale besithi oku kulungile, kuba kutheni enye into.
Musa ukuvumela abantu abadala ukuba bamangalele umntwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba akayize, ukuba enye iphume kakuhle, ukuba awuyi kuwufezekisa. Amazwi anjalo akwazi ukuphazamisa unaphakade umntwana ukuba aqhubeke nokusebenza. Kwakhona, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntwana "adumise", egxininisa ukuba abanye abantwana abayizikhuphiswano kuye. Oku kuya kubakho ukuphazamiseka kokuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kwaye kube yinto "yelukuluku", eya kuba nzima ukuqhagamshelana nabanye abantwana. Bonke abantwana abaneengcamango eziphathekayo - ubuchule bokuqala. Oku kudla ngokuqulunqwa yiminyaka emihlanu. Kodwa kuxhomekeke kwixesha leengcamango zabantwana ezitshintshayo.
Iyintoni ingcamango yomntwana kwiminyaka eyahlukeneyo?
Xa uceba umsebenzi womntwana, umntu makangacinge ngeempawu zakhe ezinxulumene nobudala bakhe. Kubonakala kwinqanaba leengcamango kwiminyaka emibini. Kule nqanaba, ufumana indlela yokubonakalisa kumdlalo. Ingane, idlala, inako ukuphatha izinto eziqhelekileyo ngokungathi zicinga. Ngokomzekelo, i-cube ingaba ngumatshini, ibhokisi yegaraji, njl. Kodwa iingcamango zokudala zabantwana azikho kwimisebenzi. Umntwana akakwazi ukudala isicwangciso nokuyizalisekisa.
Ngeminyaka emithathu, yonke into iyatshintsha kancane. Abantwana kule minyaka bahamba ukusuka kwimidlalo ngokuxhomekeke kwendima-nxaxheba yendaba. Amava obomi babantwana aphuculwa, akwazi ukudala ngenjongo, ngokuphumeza ngamabomu isicwangciso.
Kwiminyaka emithandathu kukho intlobo yemidlalo kunye namabakala kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, iindima ezenziwa ngabantwana (izigulane-izigulane, intombi-unina, njl.). Ukucinga komntwana sele sele ukhula njengenkqubo epheleleyo yengqondo.Intana iyakwazi ukwenza ngokwemiqathango, imifanekiso eyahlukeneyo, izinto kunye nezenzo zemidlalo.
Indlela yokuphuhlisa ukucinga?
Izinto ezibonakalayo zengcamango ulwazi lomntwana emhlabeni jikelele. Emva kwakho konke, ukuthelekisa intyatyambo kunye nefly butterfly, kufuneka ukwazi indlela intyatyambo ibonakala ngayo kunye nokuba ibhathaneli limela ntoni. Umntwana kufuneka anikwe ulwazi oluninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukumqhelanisa nezityalo, izilwanyana, iintaka, iintlanzi, njl. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele oko inyana yakho ithande kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyathanda intlanzi, ngokokuqala ufunde ngeentlobo zeentlanzi, ngoko uthetha kwi-hominids abahlala kuzo, njl. Kuhle ukuqhuba umntwana kwii-excursions, i-vzoo, uze uthethe oko akubonayo.
Umdlalo wezingane ihlabathi apho ungayiqonda ngokupheleleyo ingcamango yakho. Kodwa umdlalo wabantwana uza kuzisa inzuzo xa abantu abadala bathatha inxaxheba kubo. Unokudlala imidlalo yezingane kwaye uzinikele ngobumnene - ngenjongo yokuphuhlisa ingcinga yakhe. Ungavumeli umntwana ukuba akhethe imidlalo efanayo ngexesha lonke - unikeze amatsha, ngeendlela ezintsha ezintsha.
Iingxelo ezihlolwe ixesha elidala zivuselela ingcamango yomntwana. Ukufunda umntwana ngokukhawuleza, zama ukuphazamisa ukufunda kwaye umbuze oko kuya kuba yintoni elandelayo. Umzekelo, uthini ukuba ukumkani uya kuphendula okanye njani ikati ypres. Umntwana unokucinga ukuba ukuqhubeka kwebali, kwaye uya kuqhathanisa imbali yayo kwile ncwadi. Kamva umntwana uya kuba neembali ezahlukeneyo kunye nabalinganiswa.
"Ukuvuselela" ingcamango yomntwana iya kunceda ngokupheleleyo indlu yaseshashalazini. Unokongeza amabali amatsha ngokusekelwe kwimbali yamagama. Unokwenza iindidi ezahlukahlukeneyo. Into ephambili kukuba iindima zisasazwa kubantwana kunye nabazali. Ukuba imifanekiso yamaqhawe athatha umculo ofanelekileyo, i-allal iya kuba yinto enomdla ngakumbi kumntwana. I-mini-midlalo iyimidlalo yokufunda emangalisayo yeengcamango, isimo sengqondo esilungileyo kwi-shishini, ukunambitheka kwe-aesthetics.
Ukubandakanya ekuphuhlisweni kwengcamango yabantwana kubandakanya ukudweba (amanqaku, amapende, ipensela, iikhrayoni ze-wax), ubumba (udongwe, inhlama enetyu, njl.). Unako ukudweba nokubunjwa kwiintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo. Ukufumba, umzekelo, amaqhawe efilimu, ungadlala ukusebenza.
Ingcamango ebalulekileyo kukuba ukwenza amatshini kwiirekhodi, amakhadi okubulisa. Kuhle ukuyenza nomntwana weephepheni (iphepha elinemibala, ubuhlalu, iingubo zokutshiza, njl.).
Kubalulekile ukwazi, xa usebenzisana nabantwana, ukuba enye yeevenkile izakuphazamisa ukuphuhlisa kwengcamango yomntwana, kwaye uya kufuneka udumise umntwana wakho ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye uyamxhasa kuyo yonke imizamo.