Akukho zikhokelo ezicacileyo ngokubhekiselele kuphuhliso lwabantwana, kukho imigaqo yokutyala kunye nemigangatho yophuhliso oluyisiseko, oko konke. Ukuphuhliswa kwentetho yomntwana osemncane kuyinkqubo eyinkimbinkimbi, kuxhomekeka kwiimeko ezininzi, iimeko zomzimba kunye nezezemfundo. Ukuba i-genetic predtional to talkativeness isingeniso sitshintshile, iimeko zokuphuhliswa kunye nokukhuliswa kuxhomekeke ngqo kubazali bomntwana. Emva koko, ndicinga ukuba wonk 'ubani uyazi ukuba kwiintsapho ezingasebenzi, abantwana bahleka emva kokuphuhliswa - baqala ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza, ukufunda, njl njl. Oku kubangelwe, okokuqala, ukuba umntwana ulahlwe nguye, akukho mntu usebenza naye , akukho mntu umfundisayo. Abanye bam bahlobo bamkela umntwana, ngoko emva koko inyanga yaqala ukuthetha ngokuthe ngentshiseko kwaye kwixesha elizayo ukuba bamangalise wonke umntu ngamakhono akhe. Ukuba umntwana wayenakho ukuthetha kwentetho, ngoko ke phantsi kweemeko ezifanelekileyo zokuphuhliswa nokukhuliswa, waqala ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo.
Kodwa kunjalo, ngeendlela ezininzi ekuphuhlisweni kwentetho umntwana angatshintshwa. Kule nto, okokuqala, kufuneka ukhulume kangangoko kunokwenzeka kunye nosana lwakho. Akunanto ngaphandle kokuba bacebise ukuba bathethe nomntwana ongakazalwa, echaza oku kukuba umntwana uvakalelwa yonke into kwaye uyayiqonda ngokwaneleyo. Le nxalenye yayo inyaniso. Umzimba wengxoxo yintsana inokuphuhliswa ngokwaneleyo ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuthetha nomntwana kaninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuba ungabhekiseli umntwana, kodwa ukuthetha ngezinto zonke ehlabathini, njengomntu omdala. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba uyamthanda njani, kamva utshele oko ukwenzayo, ilizwi, naziphi na izenzo, iimvakalelo. Ngoko, umntwana wakho akayi kuvakalelwa nje ukubaluleka kwayo, kodwa naye uyafumana ulwazi olubalulekileyo noluncedo, kwaye, ngokwemvelo, ukuphuhliswa kwentetho yomntu omncinci kuya kwenzeka.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, bonke abantwana abaseminyakeni yobudala (ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu ubudala) bafumana izigaba ezifanayo zokuphuhliswa kwezixhobo zokuthetha . Ngomnyaka umntwana sele uthethe ngokumalunga namazwi alishumi alandelayo, okokuqala, njengomama, "baba", "uba", "banike", njl. Njl. Malunga nemibini emibini, abantwana abaninzi banokuthi bathethe izivakalisi ezincinane ezimbini okanye ezintathu amagama, kwaye ngeminyaka emine, abantwana banokuthetha ngokucacileyo kakuhle, njengabantu abadala. Kodwa, ndiphinda, ezi ziimigaqo ezisisiseko zokuphuhliswa, kunye nokuphambukiswa okuncane kubo akusiyo into engafanelekanga.
Ngaloo ndlela, sinokuhlukanisa izigaba ezintathu ekuphuhlisweni kwentetho yomntwana osencinane:
· Doverbal yithuba lokuphuhliswa kwentetho yomntwana wokuqala kunyaka wobomi. Kule nqanaba umntwana akathanga nantoni na into, kodwa inkqubo yokwakhiwa kwentetho iyenzeka. Ingane inokukwazi ukwahlula intetho phakathi kwezinye izandi ezininzi, ukuphuhliswa kobubele kwimeko yentetho ngokwayo.
· Ukutshintsha kwintetho esebenzayo kukuphuhliswa kwezixhobo zokuthetha zomntwana wonyaka wesibini wobomi. Ingane imemezela amagama okuqala kunye namazwi amabini amagama amathathu. Kuphela ngeli xesha elibaluleke kakhulu kumntwana ukufumana unxibelelwano oluninzi lwengqondo kunye noqhagamshelwano nabantu abadala, okokuqala, kunye nabazali.
· Ukungapheleli kwentetho. Xa umntwana sele sele efumene izakhono ezithile zokunxibelelana, isigama sakhe samazwi angama-300 abalulekileyo, ukuxhamla ngokutsha kwintetho yentuthuko kwenzeka. Inkwenkwe engaphezulu iqala ukubonisa iingcamango zakhe, iyaqhubeka yokwandisa isigama sayo, ithuthukise ukubiza amagama.
Intetho yomntwana ingakwazi kwaye kufuneka iphuhliswe, kungekhona nje ngokuthetha ngokusebenzayo, kodwa kunye nokusetyenziswa okukhethekileyo . Abanye bakholelwa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kweentetho kubalulekile kwizibonakaliso ezizodwa, kwaye ngumsebenzi weengcali zentetho ukujongana nomntwana onenkathazo yokuthetha. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo. Zinokuvela iingxaki ezininzi, okokuqala, ekunxibelelana kakubi phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantwana babo. I-Slyukanie, ukubiza okungalunganga - imimiselo yeengxoxo ezingalunganga zomntwana wakho. Amantombazana amancinci, njengentonga, athabatha yonke ingcaciso, eyiyo kwaye ayilunganga. Abantwana abaselula baqonda kakuhle iifowuni zentetho, ngokokuqala, qwa lasela intetho yakho, kwaye sele ukhangele ilahleko entetho yomntwana wakho.
Ukuphuhliswa komntwana ekuzalweni kuyinkimbinkimbi kwaye ngexesha elifanayo inxaxheba enomdla. Impumelelo nemincinci encinci yentsana incike kakhulu kwi "ukukhuthala" kwabantu abadala, kuyafana nokuphuhliswa kwezixhobo zentetho yomntwana. Kubalulekile nje ukuthetha nomntwana wakho, kodwa nokukhuthaza ukuthetha kwakhe kwindlela enokwenzeka. Ukwenza oku, akuyi kubuhlungu ukulandela iingcebiso ezithile zeengcali:
Xoxa, thetha uphinde uxoxe nomntwana wakho kwakhona: ilizwi ngezenzo zakho, iimvakalelo kunye neenjongo.
• Phinda uphinde usenokushiya isandi-izandi: "ma-ma-ma", "mu-mu-mu", njl njl. Ngako oko, uya kuba nomdla kwintsana kwaye uxhasane naye "incoko yokuqala".
· Kubonakala ukuba ukuphuhliswa kwentetho kunye nezakhono ezifanelekileyo zezithuthi zihlobene ngokuthe ngqo. Ngako oko, vumela umntwana "azive" izinto ezihlukahlukeneyo kumgca, izinto ezihlukeneyo nobukhulu.
• Zama ukungaphenduli nje kuphela kubonakaliso obusweni bomntwana, ukubonakalisa isidingo, kodwa nokumkhuthaza ukuba athethe oko akufunayo, umzekelo, "unike". Myeke umntwana angabonisi kuphela oko akufunayo, kodwa ubuye abize izinto ngamagama abo afanelekileyo.
· Ukuba umntwana wakho unomdla kwiincwadi - le ndlela echanekileyo ekuphuhlisweni kwentetho. Ukufumana iincwadi zeefoto kunye nokufunda nomntwana kwilizwe elijikelezile: izinto zekhaya, izilwanyana, izenzo, njl.
· Ukuba oontanga lomntwana sele besethetha, kuya kucetyiswa ukuba umntwana angene kulo mbuthano lwabahlobo.
• Funda kwiincwadi zezingane, uhlabelele iingoma kwaye ungazami ukuthatha inxibelelwano ephilayo kunye neentsana zokuthetha.