Wonke umntu ufumana iindaba malunga nokuzaliswa kwakhona kwentsapho kwindlela yabo. Omnye uyavuya kwaye ekhala ngovuyo, ebambe uvavanyo oluxabisekileyo kunye nemichilo emibini, umntu uphelelwe ngumsindo kwaye athukuthele, athi, kungekhona ngexesha, umntu uyazifihla kwaye akabonakalisi iimvakalelo zakhe, kuba akaqondi ngokukhawuleza oko kwenzeka. Kwaye kwenzeka into enkulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ivakalelwa njani. Enkulu, kuba ukususela kumzuzu wokukhulelwa ebomini bakho, umgca owawuhlula ixesha elide ngaphambi nangemva koko. Kwaye ngoku yonke into iya kuba yinto eyahlukileyo-uxanduva lomntu omtsha, njengomthetho, ushiya umshicilelo kwimbali kunye nesimo sengqondo ebomini. Yaye ungesabi, yonke into yendalo, yonke into iyahamba ngokwecebo. Yaye yonke into iya kulungiswa!
Ndikhulelwe!
Akunandaba nokuba ulungiselela ukukhulelwa okanye kukumangalisa kuwe, ukugxeka kwakhe ukuxinzelela kwangempela kwintombazana. Ngenani leenguqulelo - endleleni yokuphila, kwaye ekucingeni - ulindele umntwana ushaya zonke iirekhodi. Umtshato okanye ukuguqulwa komsebenzi okanye ifulethini ayichaphazeli ntokazi kwaye ayizange ikwazi ukuqonda ngokufanelekileyo njengeendaba zokuba uza kuba ngumama ngokukhawuleza. Kufana nokuba ngokukhawuleza wawathabatha waza wabuyela kwindawo yokuhlala yokuhlala ngonaphakade kwelinye ilizwe ongaqhelekanga kuwe. Iingcali zengqondo ngaphandle kwesizathu zibiza i-trimester yokuqala ixesha lokumkelwa komntwana. Ewe, ukuthatha umntwana ebomini bakho, kungathatha iiveki ezimbalwa. Yaye yonke into yokuba phambili ilahleka i-specter yexesha elizayo, apho ungayazi into ekulindele kuyo. Mhlawumbi igama eliphambili apha "lingaziwa" -noko ke ukukhathazeka nokwesaba: Ngaba ndiza kuba ngumama olungileyo? Ngaba ndiya kukwazi ukuzala umntwana onempilo? Ukuzalwa komntwana kuya kuthinta njani ulwalamano lwam nomyeni wam? Ngaba siya kukwazi ukunika umntwana yonke into esiyidingayo?
Iqhayiya lakho liyaqondakala kwaye lichanekile, into ephambili ayiyikuzikhupha, kodwa ukuxazulula iingxaki njengoko ungena. Kwaye qala nge ... ukuthetha okanye ukubhala kumntwana wakho.
Oku kuya kukunceda ukuba ulungelelaniso lwengqondo lwabafazi abakhulelwe ekuzalweni, kwaye wamukele kwaye uxolelane nombono wokuthi umntwana sele sele sele ekhona nawe. Thetha kuye, njengokungathi uyisondlo sakho kunye nomhlobo onokuqonda. Uyabheka, kwaye i-toxicosis iya kudlula. Luphi ubudlelwane phakathi kwe-toxicosis kunye nokwamkelwa? Iingcali zenzululwazi zisaphikisana malunga nezizathu zesifo sokutywala i-toxicosis ye-trimester yokuqala. Ewe, kubonakala ngathi uyayiphendula "kwizinto ezingafaniyo zofuzo", oko kukuthi umntwana wakho, kuba uhamba naye kunye nobawo inxalenye yokuba kwinqanaba lomzimba libonwa nguwe njengento engafanelekanga. Kodwa kutheni abanye abafazi bengenayo i-toxicosis, iiveki zichitha kwi-embrace "nomhlobo omhlophe"? Ezinye izazi zengqondo zithi ukubonakaliswa kwe-toxicosis kuhambelana ngqo nokuphunyezwa kokukhulelwa. Ngamanye amazwi, i-toxicosis kwisimo somzimba ibonisa ukungathandabuzeki, uxinzelelo kunye nokungaqiniseki kowesifazane ukuba ulungele oko kwenzekayo. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo.
Wonke umntu unezizathu zakhe zokukhathazeka. Kwaye kufuneka uzame ukunqabisa uze uze ngokuvumelana nawe. Okokuqala, ukuvuma ukuba umntwana sele sele ekhona, ukukhulelwa ngeke "kulungelelanise", oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ulungele phantsi kwaye uphumule, emva kwayo yonke into. ebomini bakho kwaye kutheni uloyikisayo.Bhala kwikholam ukuxhamla nokuqhelana nokubonakala komntwana kwintsapho yakho, chaza iingxaki kunye nezindlela zokuzisombulula, umzekelo, ndoyika ukuba akukho mali eyaneleyo, ngoko mna nomyeni wam sinqume ukugcina imali kuyo yonke imivuzo ngokuzalwa komntwana kunye neenyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala Ndikholelwe, akukho ziingxaki zokufa, kunjalo nje, mhlawumbi, ngelixa uloyikisayo, awuboni indlela onokujamelana nayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukungazinzi kwemali kubangela ukwesaba okukhulu ngexesha lokulungiselelwa kwengqondo kwabasetyhini abakhulelwe ekuzalweni. Kwaye inqaku elithi "uThixo wamnika umntwana, uya kunika kunye nokokumondla" ngandlela-thile ayiyikudambisa wonke umntu. Mhlawumbi, kuba "ukutya" okungenalo ixabiso elikhulu ekunakekeleni umntwana. Ingondlo nje, xa umntwana usana usana, kukho nantoni na into yokutya. Kwaye uqala ukubala yonke into - ukudiliva, i-diapers, iinqwelo zemoto, izambatho zeengubo, iinkonzo zezilwanyana, iinkonzo, amaziko ophuhliso, emva kwakho konke, kwaye lixesha lokubamba intloko yakho.
Amanani aya kunyuka imihla ngemihla, ukunyuka kwamaxabiso kumanqanaba, kwaye uncedo lombuso alukwazi ukubizwa ngokuba luncedo. Bala kuphela kuwe. Kwaye akunjalo kakubi, kuba umntwana ngumyeni wakho kwaye kungekhona urhulumente. Ukuba sicinga ngokubhekiselele "ukungaqiniseki ngokuqinisekileyo", abantu babeya kufa ngaphambili, kholwani ngam, ngamaxesha onke - kwimbali yamazwe kunye nabantu ngabanye - kukho ithuba lokuba bacinge ukuba abafanelanga ukuzalwa kwabantwana. Ewe, uzala.
Kodwa ungalindeli imozulu elwandle, enethemba lokuba olunye lweentsuku ezelanga liza kuwela kwifa elivela kumalumekazi, oya kuzilungisa zonke iingxaki. Sidinga ukuthatha inyathelo ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, awukhathathelanga okwamanje. Qala ukuhlehlisa ngoku, nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba into ongayenza ngayo i-penny. Mhlawumbi, ngokukhawuleza le kopeck ayiyi kukwanela. Hlala phantsi nomyeni wakho kwaye ubhale isicwangciso sezemali kwiinyanga ezizayo, cinga malunga nalapho ungasindisa khona, kwaye apho ungenako ukugcina imali, apho ungayifumana imali eyongezelelweyo, yiyiphi iindleko ezizayo ezifunekayo, kwaye ngaphandle koko ungakwenza ngaphandle. Ngendlela, unakekele isonka sohla ngemihla, njengommiselo, indawo ekhuselekileyo yamadoda, ebetha iindaba zokukhulelwa komfazi. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba umfazi, ucinga ngentsana yakhe, uyothuka: "Ngaba ndiza kuba ngumama olungileyo?", Le ndoda iyahamba: "Ngaba ndingayinceda intsapho?". Kwaye nayiphi na enye indlela, eqinisweni, ukongezelela ukwandisa iindleko zentsapho, uya kuba nekhefu lokubeletha, oku kuthetha ukuba -cima umvuzo wakho kubhajethi yentsapho. Umthwalo wezemali uwela kumahlombe omntu. Kodwa musa ukwenza le ntlekele. Konke kunqabile, kuya kuba nomnqweno.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukugcina, kuya kuba mnandi ukuba nenkohlakalo yokubala iindleko. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubala ngokubalulekayo konke ukuchitha inyanga okanye ezimbini kubangela ukuba isibini sifumanise into ephawulekayo yokuba imali eninzi iphuma njengesihlabathi ngeminwe, akukho ndawo kwaye akukho nto. Kuyavela, kwaye akudingeki ukuba ulondoloze okuninzi, kufuneka nje "ukucoca" ukuchitha imali, ukunciphisa iinqununu zeendleko ezingalindelekanga kunye ne "Wishlist" yesikhashana.
Ukongezelela, kungekhona yonke into enicinga ukuba iyimfuneko, ufuna ngokwenene. Ngokomzekelo, ubhedu kunye nokulala ngokubambisana nabazali akudingi umntwana, kwaye endaweni yesigxina unokuthenga ityhilo ephathekayo kungekudala, ephindwe kaninzi. Awufuni ukushiya le nto yekhaya elincinci? Buza phakathi kwabahlobo abanabantwana abancinci. Ngokuqinisekileyo baninzi izinto abazifunayo kakade, kwaye ulungile. Kwaye baya kuba novuyo xa ubahlangula (ngokukhululekileyo okanye kwimali yokumisela) kulezi zinto.
Ulwazi kunye nokungazi
Ukuba ulwazi luyongezelela, ke ukwesaba kuyingozi: umama ozayo uya kuqonda into eyenzekayo kuye ngoku kwaye iya kwenzeka kwixesha elizayo (ngexesha lokubeletha, kwiinyanga zokuqala zempilo), ukungathandabuzeki kokuxhalaba kunye nokuxhalabisa. Ewe, ukukhulelwa akusisifo, kwaye ukuzala, akudingeki ukuba ugqibe isiko lonyango, kodwa kufuneka uqeqesho lwangundoqo lwezesengqondweni nolwenyama. Musa ukuzithemba ngethuba, ngoko uzibeka engozini. Kodwa unako, ngokubhalisa inkxaso yemvelo kunye nempilo yakho, zize uncede. Ukubeletha ngumsebenzi onzima kumama kunye nosana, kodwa akusiyo into ebomvu, njengokuba ezinye iimmmy zichaza ngezinye iindlela, ngendlela, njengomthetho, abo bangakulungeleli ngokwabo, ngenxa yoko, bebuhlungu Abaqeqeshi ekulungiseleleni ukubeleka baqinisekisa ukuba unokuzala ngaphandle kwentlungu!
Kuphela kufuneka ukwazi ukuba njani. Kwaye kwiikhosi zabazali abancinci, oku kufundiswa: iindlela zokuphefumla, ubuchule bokungabikho ngamachiza e-analgesia - apha nkosikazi yokunyamezela ukulwa, ukuxhaswa kwe-self-massage, baziswa kwiinqanaba zokubeletha kwaye kwenzekani kwinqanaba ngalinye. Kulula kakhulu ukuzilawula wena nomzimba wakho xa uyazi ukuba kutheni, kutheni na. Ukufundisa kwizikolo ezinjalo ngokuqhelekileyo kwahlula kwiiklasi zenkcubeko kunye neengcali, kwaye iibhloko ezihlukeneyo zahlula kwiintetho malunga nokukhulelwa, ukubeletha nokunyamekela umntwana osanda kuzalwa.