Kwintlalo yanamhlanje, umfazi omazi umntu ukuba alale ngesondo naye akasabangela ukungaqondakali nokugwetywa njengangaphambili. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akubona wonke umntu ocinga ukuba ukutshata nomfana ngesondo, kodwa oku akubangela ukuba i-resonance enjalo.
Ukuba ufuna ukujwayelana namadoda ngokwesini, ngoko ke ukhetho lwakho, owafika ngalo emva kwezimvo ezithile kunye neemeko zobomi. Ngoko ke, khawukhumbule: akukho mntu unelungelo lokugweba isenzo sakho, ngaphandle kokuba ulawule. Musa ukunyamekela ukuhleba xa beqala, kuba abantu abangenabo ubomi babo bahlale befumana umntu "ohlamba amathambo abo". Kule meko, nguwe kuphela umgwebi.
Musa ukuxhomekeka
Ukuba ufuna ukudibana nomntu onenjongo eyodwa, kungcono ukumxelela ngokukhawuleza. Ngaphandle koko, emva kwesondo, unokuba nevakalelo lokuba usetyenziswa. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza uchaza ukuba awufuni naluphi na ulwalamano kwaye ufuna ukuwanelisa kuphela izidingo zakho zomzimba, uya kupheliswa ngokukhawuleza ukuba ube intombazana "ekhulelwe" into ethile. Ukongeza, le ndoda iya kukwazi ukuba ufuna kuphela ngesondo kwaye ayiyi kuceba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kumadoda oku kwenzeka ngokungaqhelekanga, kodwa kwenzeka.
Xa ngokuqinisekileyo omaziyo enzekayo, amantombazana amaninzi aziva ukuba athengwa. Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, ungathathi nto kumntu. Okokuqala, inxulumene neziphuzo ezahlukahlukeneyo abafana abafana nokuphatha abafazi. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awuyi kukhulula, yulala kwaye uchaze ukuba ufuna ukuhlawula. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ungenzi njengowesifazane wesigxina kwaye uqale ukuthetha nomfana onokukwazi ukuzinzela kwaye awudingi abanye abantu. Yithi nje ufuna ukuhlawula yonke into ngokwakho.
Hlangana nawe
Ngendlela, ukuba ufuna ukwazisa ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezithile, ungazi ngokwakho. Kuyinto engavamile, kodwa akukho nto inomsindo ngayo. Ukuba uyithande ngaphandle kwendoda kwaye ufuna ukulala naye, ngoko kutheni ungathethi naye ngokwakho, kunokuba ulinde, ngokukhawuleza uya kuvuka kwaye aziqhelane nawe.
Ukuqhagamshelana nentsha, mxelela ngokukhawuleza ngenjongo yokuthandana. Qinisekisa ukuba abaninzi bakho abafana nokuziphatha kwakho ngqo. Enyanisweni, abayithandi ukuxoka amanga kunye nento emele ifike, ngokuthethileyo, ukufunga ngeluthandana ukutsala intombazana ukuba ilale. Kodwa amaninzi amaninzi avuma ukulala ngesondo kuphela xa bekholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba baya kuhlala nalo mfana de kube ngumdala. Ngoko ke, ukuba usondela kumfana osemncinci kunye nesiphakamiso sokuba akhululekileyo, ngoko kwiimeko ezingamashumi asithoba anesihlanu ngaphandle kwekhulu awuyi kukhanyela. Ukuba uhlala e-povuchal, ungabi nzima kwaye uphelelwe yithemba. Umntu ngamnye unesizathu sokwenza oku okanye ukhetho. Kwaye oku akuthethi ukuba unesabisa, uyatshitshisa, uyatshatyalaliswa kwaye awuxolelwanga ngenxa yezenzo zakho.
Xa kulunge ukuchitha ubusuku
Kukulungele ukuthetha ngokwahlukileyo malunga nokuba kukuphi ukulungela ukuchitha ubusuku kunye nentsha. Ngokubanzi, ukhetho olufanelekileyo yindawo yehotele. Ngaloo ndlela, awuxeleli omnye nomnye malunga nendawo yokuhlala kwaye ngokubanzi, loo mqathango ayikubopheli nantoni na. Kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu onokukwazi ukuwufumana. Ngoko ukuba kufuneka uhambe kwikhaya eliselula, khawuleza ubuze ukuba uhlala yedwa. Ukukwazi naziphi na izalamane kwiimeko ezinjalo azifanelekanga. Emva kwesondo, kungcono ukuba ungalindeli kusasa, kodwa uhambe ekhaya. Xa abantu bevuswa ebhedeni elifanayo, kakade kuthetha into ethile. Ngoko unokuziva ungonwabi. Ukuba ufanele ukumema umntu osemncinci, kuyafaneleka ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyavuma ukuba emva kwesondo uya kushiya ikhaya lakho. Khumbula ukuba abo baziyo abachazi iintlanganiso ezongezelelweyo kunye noqhagamshelwano. Njengoko nje umkhuba ubonisa, oomama abaqala nomntu ukuba babone rhoqo ukuze balala ngesondo bahlala bebathandana. Ukuba awufuni le nto, yenza konke ukwenzela ukuba lo mfana ubengobusuku obunye.