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Ngenye yemisebenzi yakhe uMarko Twain utshele intsingiselo enomdla malunga nemvelaphi yokudala, ngakumbi imbongi. Njengaye, ukuveliswa kwezilwanyana zesigqirha eziphindaphindiweyo zabantu babeselelwa yindlala. "Oo, inyama, o, inyama ebomvu!" Kwamangaliswa umpaki wokuqala egqoke kwiikhumba, ephuma phakathi kwesangqa salamanye abantu. Yaye yafumana ihlombe eliqhoqhoqho kunye nemali efanelekileyo-into eqiniweyo yokuphangwa. Ukudala kweTwain yaba yikhumbuzo seencwadi zehlabathi. Enyanisweni, kwihlabathi lezenzululwazi, enye inguqu ibanjwe malunga nemeko yomgaqo wokudala. Yayibekwe ngumsunguli we-psychoanalysis, uSigmund Freud. Ngoko, i-géeni yatsho: isiseko salo naluphi na ukubonakaliswa kobuchule yintlukwano yesondo. "Ewe, ndivumele ukuthungela umlilo!" - uhlabelelwe ingoma enomdla ngomntu ongenanto intombi. Nangona kunjalo, kungekhona kuphela ukungabikho kwe-sex detent kwenza abantu basebenze. Iingcambu zendalo, ngokwemfundiso kaFrud, zihlala zingenazi nto.
Iqokelela iimbambano (ukuvinjelwa, izibilini zengqondo) ezenziwe ebuntwaneni obunzulu. Oku kungase kube yinto yokuziphatha, imfundo yamaPuritan - xa umfana engavumelekanga, umzekelo, ukuxhoma kunye nabahlobo emva ko-9 ngokuhlwa okanye ugqoke iimpahla ezinamandla. Ingquzulwano yentlalo: ukuxabana phakathi kwabahlobo, ukuxoshwa emsebenzini (ukungakwazi ukusebenzisana kunye noogxa, kunye nabaphathi). Izibetho zingabakho intsapho-ukungabi nolwimi oluqhelekileyo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Zonke ezi ntlupheko zengqondo zizathu zokuguqulwa kwamandla angaphantsi kwesini-amandla kunye nobuchule (ngokwesibonelo, ukunganeliseki ngomsebenzi wakhe-ephupha ukuba ngumtoliki kunye nokusebenza njengobhala) kwimvelo. Kodwa isitena esikhulu senkqutyana (ngeendlela, eli gama kwi-psychoanalysis liye laziswa nguSigmund Freud) yonke into, kwaye kwakukho kwaye ihlala isondo. Kwaye igama elithi "ingxabano" akufanele liqondwe njengento engalunganga. Uvuyo luvuselela umphefumlo, lukhuphe uxolo oluxhambileyo. Ngako oko, abantu abonwabileyo othandweni nabo bakha amahle.
Ukwabelana ngesondo njengenjini
Uninzi lwabanqabileyo? Kuye kwenzeka ukuba yonke into ibandakanyeka ekuguquleleni kwamandla ngokwesini kwisakhono! Umkhiqizo ongcolisayo onika ungazi luphupha. Ngaba uphupha ukuhamba kwiindawo ezitshisayo, phakathi kweentonga ezibethelelwe nge-lianas kwaye ujabulele iintyatyambo ezinkulu? Okanye uphupha ukubhukuda ngamaza olwandle olwandle? Ngoko, abazange bafune, bazincancisa - babenomsebenzi wokwakha. Kwaye umphumo wale nkqubo yokudala yayiyiphupha elimbala. "Isigaba esiphezulu" somsebenzi ongenalwazi ngumdali owaziyo. Oku kudla ngokuba yizinto ezibonakalayo ezibizwa ngokuba yimvelo - imibhalo yokubhala kunye namabali, imifanekiso yokubhala, igraffiti engummangaliso kwiindonga zemizi-grey, ukulolwa komculo okubhalwa kwinqaku lomculo, ukudansa, ukudlala indawo yokudlala, kunye nokuyila i-interiors. Khumbula iintsuku zesikolo: ngubani ovela kwintombazana-abahlobo, abaye bebathandana nomfundi ophakamileyo, akazange alikhange into ethile kwincwadi yokubhala ngokukhanya kwesibane sasebusuku!
Nangona kunjalo, akukho ndinyana enye okanye idlala ipayiliyali ibonakaliso lwento yokudala. Ukunciphisa i-sublimation ingaba yinto yokuzilibazisa - umzekelo, ukuqokelela izitampu, amabheji, nezinye izinto. Ukutya okusanhlamvu kukuncedisa, ukuxhaswa. Ngaba uthanda ukufumana nokuxhasa iitalente, uthumele inxalenye yomvuzo wakho, uthumele amathoyizi okanye iimpahla kwiinkedama? Ngoko ungumdali, wenza okuhle. Ngamanye amagama, i-sublimation yiyo yonke into ejoliswe ekudalweni. Kwanesikiti eqhelekileyo, unokuba ngumdali ongenakunyulwa. Ngokomzekelo, ngoLwesihlanu kusihlwa, xa intsapho yonke ilindele isidlo sakusihlwa, bayilungisa isaladi ye-shrimp bayifake kwisiqwenga ngesimo senhliziyo, ngokuhlobisa iitamatisi zenthusi? Ndiyakuhalalisela, uguqule i-sublimation - amandla esini kunye nobuchule. Kule nkalo yenkcubeko, yona, ngendlela, iya kuyomeleza intsapho.
Ulwaphulo-mali luyakuthanda ukukhula komsebenzi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuhlaselwa ngothando, unokwenza ulungise kwaye uphendule iKhroshchev enamandla kwi-oasis encinci: kunye nefenitshala yefowuni esuka kumdiliya, kunye nezitya, izitya ze-ashtrays ngendlela yeziqhamo zangaphandle. Emva koko qhelana nabaqulunqi bezakhono kwaye qinisekisa ukuba kukho abantu abenza indawo engcono. Kwi-"nyikimazama" yesondo inqamle enye intlanano - intlalo. Umoya wokhuphiswano ukhupha. Isinyathelo esilandelayo sibhala ukulungiselela izifundo kunye nokufunda umsebenzi omtsha.
ULibido eengubo ezimhlophe
Ukususela kwingcamango ye-psychoanalysis, i-sublimation yendalo. Ngaloo nto, unokukhula ngokomoya kwaye uphiliswe. Yona isiseko sonyango lobugcisa (isikhokelo sengqondo, xa umntu esusa amava akhe ngamazwi ngokuklama: ukubunjwa kwiplastiki, ukudala amanzi, imidwebo). Apha, kunye nokuhlaziywa kwememori ye-muscle (ngubani ebuntwaneni engathandanga ukuyivula!), Kunye nokukhutshwa kwezibhengezo, iindibano. Kwiiseshoni zobugcisa bobugcisa, izithintelo zoluntu zisuswe. Umntu uphahlazela engenazi zinto, uvuselela aze asombulule iingxaki zakhe zengqondo. Iiseshoni zokuqhuba kunye nonyango ngesanti - uhlobo lobugcisa bonyango. Iingcali zengqondo zivame ukuphawula into enjalo: umntu omdala uvele nje efaka isandla sakhe kwisitya kunye nesihlabathi kwaye emva kwexesha uqala ukudweba into ethile ngeminwe yakhe, ukudala amanani. Amava akhe aqokelelwe ebusaneni, xa edlalwa kwi-sandbox, usebenza! Ngendlela, ukuphulukisa ubugcisa, unako ngokukhawuleza ube ngumlobi-mbhali womsebenzi wokubhala.
Uthando okanye udwebe?
Umbuzo oqiqayo: ntoni ukuba ngokubanzi ulale ngesondo, xa kukho i-sublimation? Ufumane ezininzi zeebhonasi: kunye nozuko, kunye nokwanda kwesikhwama, kunye nokukhula kwezobuchwepheshe. Kukho enye imbono. Kutheni uguqule ingqungquthela - amandla esini kunye nobuchule bokuthandana kwinto ethile? Ukwabelana ngesondo - lo othulileyo owenziwe ngendalo, unikeza into yolonwabo. Ewe, akunakulungele ukuyilahla egameni lokuzalwa kwepeyinti entsha okanye ummangalisa omangalisayo. Kodwa awukwazi ukulungisa ngexesha elinye. Ubunono buzaliswa ngamandla okomoya, lunceda ukufumana intsingiselo entsha yokuba. Yingakho abadali bahlala benenkanuko ebomvu emehlweni abo, kunye negalelo elinamandla nakwixesha elihloniphekileyo. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi: "Umfazi onomdla kumyeni wakhe akanandaba nanoma ubani." Ngoko ke kungcono xa ubulili kunye ne-sublimation zizalisana. Emva koko ubomi bonke buya kuba yintlangano ukusuka ekuvuyiseni kuya kuvuyo.