Phakathi kwabantwana nabazali kunzima ukuseka ukuqonda. Nangona kuthandana komnye nomnye, ngenxa yokubahluko ophezulu kwiminyaka ubudala, abantwana abahlali baqonda ukuba ngabazali bafuna ntoni kubo, kwaye nabazali baqonda ezininzi iintshukumo zabantwana zabo njengento yokuzilahla kwaye bangazami ukuqonda ukuphosa kwabo. Kodwa ukuba isizukulwana esikhulileyo nesincinane sinomlingana obunjalo, ngoko kusekho indlela yokufumana umnxibelelwano. Okubi kakhulu kunzima nakwezinye iimeko xa abantwana kunye nabazali bekharityhulam. Ngokomzekelo, kwiintsapho apho umama ongowokugqithiseleyo kwaye indodana ingeniswa kwangempela, akukho nto iqondakalayo, kuba umama nomntwana baneembonakalo ezahlukeneyo zehlabathi kunye neemeko. Kodwa nangoko bathandana, oku kuthetha ukuba bafanele bazame ukufumana umhlaba oqhelekileyo, ngaphandle koko abantu abanjalo baya kuhamba besuka kunye kunye nokuxhamla kwabo kuya kutshabalala.
Ukujongwa kwimeko
Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuthetha nomntwana wakho, umama, okokuqala, kufuneka ukhangele ihlabathi ngamehlo akhe. Xa kukho naziphi na iingxaki namava, umfazi-u-extrovert uhlala esabelana nabo nezihlobo zakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo uthetha kakhulu. Isingeniso esilungelelweyo sisicacisi kwaye sisithembile sizama ukungafaki iimvakalelo kwabanye. Abantu abaninzi ngokubanzi bacinga ukuba akukho nto i-Wintrovitts yale mvakalelo. Enyanisweni, isigwebo esinjalo sinokulungiswa. Ama-Introverts akwazi ukuziva. Bavele bafumana zonke iimvakalelo ngokwabo, zombini ezilungileyo kunye ezimbi. Izangethulo ezijikelezayo zingabonakala zihoxisiwe kwaye zingenakuxhamla, kodwa ngokwenene, abantu abanjalo abayidingi ukuthetha rhoqo kwaye bazive bengakhululekile kwiinkampani ezinkulu. Ukuba ungumama othungelayo, okokuqala, kufuneka ufunde ukujonga imeko ngamehlo enyana wakho. Xa kwenzeka okuthile, uzama konke. Kwaye akukuthi kuba ufihla into evela kuwe okanye uthembela umfazi wakho. Aba bantu nje baqhele ukujongana nemicimbi yabo ngokuzimela. Ukukhutshwa kulula xa bethetha malunga nomhlaba wonke kunye nomthonyama. Kodwa i-introverts, oku kuziphatha akuncedi nonke. Kungcono ukuba uthathe umhlalaphantsi, uhlale kwindawo ethule kwaye uxolo, cinga ngezinto zonke, uze kwiingqondo zakho.
Imeko nganye isingenise kwaye idibanisa ibone ikarine ngokubhekiselele. I-extrovert izama ukulungisa isisombululo, ixelela abanye, ifuna iingcebiso. Ukwazisa konke oku akuyi kwenzeka. Ubukeka ngobumnene, uyabuxabisa, uyabandakanyeka kwaye uya kucinga. Kwaye, ukuba akayi kuyenza ingqondo yakhe, akayi kuphakamisa isihloko, nangona kunjalo, ukuba le ngxoxo ingabikho ekufumaneni isisombululo esifanelekileyo. Ngoko ke, xa ubona ukuba umntwana wakho uvalelwe kwaye akafuni ukuthetha nantoni na, musa ukuthukuthela, ukhubekiso, uthi ungalunganga. Khumbula ukuba ama-introverts akhetha ngokuchanekileyo le fom ukujonga kweemeko. Ukuba umntu unento ekuthethileyo ebomini, uye waba ngumntu ongenamdla, akafuni ukuthetha nabanye abantu, akukho mfuneko ukuba uxelele umntwana wakhe ukuba uyisidenge kwaye akayi kuphila ngokubanzi. Kuye kubuhlungu kakhulu kuye, ngokuba ngoncedo lwaloo ndlela, uzama nje ukusinda ekulahlekelweni kwakhe okanye enye ingxaki. Akafuni ukuxelela umntu nantoni na, kodwa umamele imibuzo engapheliyo malunga nokuba unobomi obubi kangangokuba loo nto ayinayo nayiphi na iminqweno. Kungcono uhlale phantsi egumbini lakhe kwaye udlala imidlalo kunokuzama ukungena kuluntu okwangoku Isizathu sokuba umama afune ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umntwana eziphatha ngale ndlela aze axhasane. Ngaphandle koko, kuya kubangela intlungu eninzi.
Ukuba umntu uyazi ukuba unina uhlale ecaleni lakhe kwaye uxelela isinqumo sakhe kunye nesigqibo, ngoko ngexesha elide uya kukuxelela into, ukwabelana nawe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kuya kukwahluke ngokupheleleyo kwinto eyenzekayo phakathi kwezi zibini, kodwa kholwani mna, ngokuba ukuzisa ukuziphatha okunjalo sele kubonakaliswe ukuzithemba okukhulu nothando olukhulu. Yaye wena, xa unyana eqala ukuthetha into ethile, akufanele ulibale ukuba kufuneka ujonge imeko ngamehlo enkwenkwe kwaye ungamgwebi iindlela zokwenza nokulungisa iingxaki. Akulunganga kunye nokungalunganga, bavele babonakale behluke ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa kule nto akukho ntoyikekayo kwaye iyatshitshisa. Kakade ke, ama-introverts akakwazi ukuxhomekeka kumava omnye umntu, kodwa kule meko bafumana inhlanhla, kuba abanako ukuphazamiseka. Kodwa nakanjani, kufuneka uhlale uthatha indlela yokuziphatha yonyana, mhlawumbi uya kukuyeka ukuthembela kuwe, qiniseka ukuba awuyiqondi nhlobo kwaye uya kuvala ngakumbi. Kwaye xa oko kwenzeka, ngoko awuyi kukwazi ukufikelela kuyo.
Gcina wakho unyana
Ukuqhagamshelana neentetho, ukubonelelwa kunokunceda kakhulu. Enyanisweni, ngokuba umntu onjalo ubonakala ngokugqithiseleyo xa enesimo esihle sengqondo, kwaye xa ephosakeleyo, xa efuna ukuthetha into ethile, kuba ukhulumisana, kwaye xa kukufanelekile ukuthula. Ukuba abantu abasondeleyo abazami ukulungelelanisa rhoqo ama-introverts phantsi kohlobo lwabo loqhagamshelwano, kodwa bajonge nje ukuphendula kwabo nokuziphatha kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, ngoko ngexesha baqala ukuqonda abantu abanjalo. Ngokukodwa ungumama, kwaye intliziyo ihlala ikuxelela indlela enokuyenza ngayo. Kodwa apha umlingiswa unikezela wona, ngoko kunzima kakhulu ukuba uvale ukubulawa kweNkohlakalo kwaye ufuna ukwenza oko ufuna ukukwenza nawe kodwa awukwazi ukwenza oku. Yaye uya kuphawula ukuba indlela yokuziphatha iguquka ngayo kwaye iyancipha, njani ivala ingakumbi xa usebenzisa indlela engafanelekanga. Kodwa ngenxa yoko kufuneka ukhangele njalo loo mntu. Ewe, kunzima kakhulu ukuba kuqondwe ukuqonda ama-introverts, avela kuwo macala omabini. Kodwa xa i-extrovert iyeka ukucinga ngokuzithobayo kwaye ivule ingqondo nentliziyo yakhe ekuqondeni umlingani ochasene ngokupheleleyo nombono, umnxibelelwano uphuculwe ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye ukuqonda kuza.
Disobey
Omnye akanakuze atyala umntu, makungabi nanye umntwana, kuba unjalo. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba uhlobo lwakhe lokuziphatha alubi okanye aluqhelekanga, akunjalo nje. Kodwa ukuba loo mfana engabonakali iimvakalelo zakhe rhoqo, oku akuthethi nto ayithandayo. Uyamthanda unina, ufuna nje ukumthanda aze amkele njengoko enjalo. Yaye ukuba uyamemeza emntwini kwaye ucaphuke ngenxa yokuba engabonakali iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nemizwelo ngendlela onokuyithanda ngayo, le mpawu ivele iphule ingqondo yakhe. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uqala ukucinga ukuba akafani nomntu wonke, ephosakeleyo, ephosakeleyo. Ngaphezu koko, ehlabathini, apho kukho izinto ezingaphezulu, akunzima ukuba abantu abanjalo bazimelele kwingcinga yokuba ukuthatha into engalunganga. Ngoko ke, nangayiphi na imeko, ungamvumeli umfana ukholelwe ngokwenene, kungenjalo kuya kumlimaza yena nawe. Ngoko, nonke ixesha ofuna ukumemeza ngunyana wakho entliziyweni yakho, khumbula ukuba uyaphula umlingani wakhe kwaye ususe ukholo lwakhe kuwe.