Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umfazi ohamba naye wafumana abahlali abathandekayo. Nangona kubonakala ukuba ukubonakala kwazo kuyahluka: ukukhawuleza, ukucinga, ukunyamekela, ukungabi nantoni, ukuxhatshaza kubonakala kubammeli besini esomeleleyo. Uvela phi na? Egqithwe ilifa njengemibala yeenwele okanye ukuma kwempumlo, ibonakala ibudala okanye ikhula ngenxa yengcinezelo yeemeko zangaphandle?
Iingcali zengqondo zihlula iinqaba zamadoda kwiindidi eziliqela, ezixhomekeke kwiimeko zengqondo kunye neendlela zokuziphatha.
Iqela lokuqala lokuzaliswa kwabantu lithengiswa ngabantu. Basenokuthi bathathwe yilizwe labo. Ukunyamezela okunzima kunzima ukuwuthwala, kuba ngamanye amaxesha uyayethusa, kwaye kubangela ukunyaniseka okunyanisekileyo. Xa bexubusha, amadoda anjalo ashesha ngokuchitha amandla awo, kwaye iimvakalelo zithatyathwa yintswelo yokuxhalaba, ngakumbi xa kukho intombazana evuyokileyo, inomdla kwaye inamandla. Ngenxa yoko, baphoqeleka ukuba baxhomeke kwimizuzu yabo, bayeke uqobo. Oku akuthethi ukuba iqabane lakho lichasayo, indlela ocinga ngayo ngephutha, ngokuchaseneyo, uyathemba ngokupheleleyo kwaye uthemba ukuba uyayiqonda, kodwa ngenye indlela ayikwazi ukuyiveza.
Udidi lwesibini lomshanelo onokuhlangana naloo mntu luhlobo olunzima. Ziyasebenza, inamandla, i-enterprising and tempemament, ibeka yonke into emacaleni emashalofu ngendlela ethile. Xa lolu hlobo lwabantu luzimeleyo, lukhuni, ngoko nayiphi na ixabiso, baya rhoqo baya ekupheleni baze bafezekise iinjongo zabo. Indoda ayikwazi ukuziqonda, ayikwazi ukujamelana neengcamango zakhe kunye nezinto ezithandayo, ngoko uzama ukubuyisela umyalelo wokuphila kwakhe okwangoku kunye nobomi obujikelezayo.
Uhlobo olunzima luya kufundisa umfazi kwaye ummangalele ngokungakhathali, ngelixa becinga ukuba isichaso somfazi sikulungele kwaye sikulungele. Kungcono ukunxibelelana namadoda anjalo ngoncedo lwemvume epheleleyo. Le yimeko apho kukulungele ukuvumelana kunokucacisa isizathu sokuba umntu angafuni ukwenza oku.
Nangona kunqongophala okukhulu kobuthathaka, aba bantu banenjongo kwaye banokuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, batshintshe izithuba zabo, bathuthuke ngokukhawuleza ukuya phezulu, baze bafezekise into abaye bayithatha. Ngako oko, makayeke, aphumle aze athembele kumntu onjalo, uya kuba njengodonga lwamatye.
Udidi lwesithathu lubandakanya ukuxhamla . Kwimeko nayiphi na into, loo madoda awanelisekile kwaye ahlala ekhononda ngeengxaki ezahlukahlukeneyo ezingenakwenzeka kuphela kubo, kodwa kunye nabo bonke abanye. Ukunyaniseka okunjalo kusekelwe ekuxhaseni uxhalaba. Le mibhobho ihlala ixelela abanye abantu indlela yonke into embi ngayo kwaye imihla ngemihla iya kuba yingozi, kwaye bona ngokwabo banethemba lokuba baya kuqinisekiswa baze badideke. Olu hlobo lobuntu lubizwa ngokuba ngumgaqo-siseko wokudandatheka, ngoko ke into ebaluleke kakhulu xa uthetha nabantu abanjalo, musa ukusuleleka kwiimbono ezilukhuni ebomini nasekugqibeleni ngonaphakade. Uyazi ukuba akukho sizathu esifanelekileyo sokutshintsha isimo sabo sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kwinyani, kodwa ungakulibali ukuba izibikezelo kunye nexhala leendoda azithethi nantoni na. Naliphi na ibhinqa ebudlelwaneni nomntu onjalo uziva engakhuselekanga. Nangona kunjalo, kwindoda enjalo, ubuthathaka kunye nesidima. Akunakwenzeka ukuba atshintshe uze ushiye intsapho yakho. Baqala ukucinga ngokunyaniseka kwaye sele besicinga indlela iingxaki, izifo kunye nezihlazo ezilandelelana ngayo, kwaye ke zonke iingcamango "zokushiya" ziwela ngokukhawuleza.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kukho ezininzi zeebhola kunye neengqondo zengqondo ziye zafumanisa umfanekiso oqhelekileyo womntu onjalo kunye nezixhobo eziqhelekileyo kunye neempawu.
- Abakwazi ukwahlula okwesibini ukusuka kwinqanaba eliphambili, oko kukuthi, bahlala beqhekeza kwizinto ezincinci.
- Bathi banqatshelwe umva, kuba enye i-anecdote ingabangela ukuba ihlekise okanye ididekile, kodwa ingqiqo yefilosofi kuphela, leyo, ngokusemthethweni, iphelela kunobunzima.
- Ukuziphatha kwabo akufanelekanga, kunokuthi kwenzeke ngexesha, umzekelo, xa abantu bekhokela ingxoxo elula, elula, evuyokileyo, ngelixa ehlala kwaye efake iintente zakhe ezintlanu, ukuba yonke into embi okanye ukuba ibonakaliswe ngokungalunganga kwindawo ethile.
Nangona ukhethiweyo wakho wayengumntu, ungagxininisi ekuziphatheni kwakhe, kwaye ngaphezu koko, zama ukunyamezela kwimpembelelo yakhe. Yithatha nje njengento engekhoyo yindoda. Nangona kunjalo, nakweyiphi na imeko, ungavumelana nabo ukuba uhlale ucebile, kodwa ngelo xesha uyenze njalo ngendlela yakho. Ngenxa yoko, ibhinqa inobulumko, ehlelwe kakuhle ngobuqili.