Indlela 1, esemthethweni.
Kufuneka uyazi ukuba nayiphi na isandi esivela kumaphandleni angamakhelwane avunyelwe ukususela ngo-7 ukuya ku-23 ntambama, ngamanye amaxesha bonke abaqeshi bezakhiwo zepropati kufuneka bahlale bengathuli.
Kodwa kukho neentsuku, kwaye ngeentsuku zeveki kunzima ukukhanyisa ukuqonda ukuba ummelwane we-puncher usebenza yonke imihla inyanga. Kucacile ukuba konke oku kuphazamisayo, ngakumbi abo basebenza ekhaya okanye bahleli nomntwana omncinci.
Unelungelo lokufaka isicelo kwi-militiaman yesithili ngesicelo sokuchaphazela abamelwane. Ukuba ngaba bayazi abantu, baya kuthatha amazwi epolisa kwaye, mhlawumbi, banciphise isandi seTV okanye isikhungo somculo, zama ukubetha izitya okanye ukubetha iindonga ngaphandle kwekhefu. Kwimeko apho abamelwane bakho "bengqondweni yakho", kuya kufuneka usebenze ngokuthe ngqo.
Ukuqala, biza i-SES uze ufumane inqanaba lesandi evumelekileyo kwiindawo zokuhlala zesixeko sakho okanye kwisithili sakho. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba ligqithiswe kakhulu, cela ukuba ulinganise izinga lezandi uze wenze isenzo. Ngalesi senzo, unelungelo lokuya enkundleni uze ufake ifowuni malunga nabaqashi abakhathazekile. Kwimbuyekezo enkulu yokuziphatha ayifanele ibaleke, kodwa ikhutshwe, mhlawumbi, iya.
Ukuba bakho abamelwane bashushu ebusuku, bazive ukhululekile ukubiza amapolisa ngo-02. Ifowuni yakho kufuneka isabele, ngamanye amaxesha ukuhamba okunjalo akupheli ngokugxekwa okanye ihlawulweyo-kuxhomekeke kwimeko.
Ukuba ngaphandle kwakho kukho abaqeshi abaxhalabele ngomsindo ovela kwigumbi elingumakhelwane, fumana inkxaso yabo - izityikitya kunye kunye neenzame zihlala zisebenza kakuhle.
Ukuba kukho usihlalo endlwini yakho, nawuphi na umntu onoxanduva, kuyafaneleka ukuba usebenzise kuye. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kuba nako ukuphazamisa abaqeshi, kodwa ukuyilawula iyakwazi ngokupheleleyo, kwaye xa kwenzeka ukuphulwa uya kuba nomnye ubungqina.
Kubalulekile ukuhlala uxolo, ukubandakanyeka kwimfazwe enkulu. Musa ukubhala amanqaku angasichaziyo okanye asongelayo, ungamthuki ummelwane wakho. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uya kukwazi ukuthetha ngendlela ephucukileyo okanye ungathandabuzeki ukuba abamelwane bakho bangakwazi ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kumabango, ukunciphisa uxhulumaniso kubuncinci phambi kwamagosa karhulumente.
Indlela 2, uxolo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba oku kuyenzeka njani oku, abamelwane abaninzi bakwazi ukuxoxisana ngokuthula.
Okokuqala, cinga malunga nento engakufanelanga yona, kwaye ungathanda ukuthini ukuthetha kubamelwane bakho. Musa ukuqonda i-fuse, ngokuqhelekileyo oku kukukhokelela ekuxabaneni, kwaye kungabikho ukuxazulula ingxaki. Ukuba unesizathu esivakalayo sokuvakalisa amabango akho, unelungelo lokwenza njalo. Kodwa cingani, musa ukugcoba kuwe? Yinto enye yokulwa kunye nomculo omkhulu ebusuku, enye into ephakamileyo kakhulu, njengoko ucinga, ukuthetha kwifowuni.
Sondela kubamelwane bakho xa konke kuthula. Khawuchaze ngobuhlobo ukuba awuyithandi, kuba sisizathu siphi na indlela ophuma ngayo kwimeko. Umzekelo, ukuba abamelwane baqala ukulungiswa, kwaye unomntwana omncinci olala ekuqaleni, uchaze. Ukuba wena ngokwakho uzimisele ukuthintela abanye abahlali ukuba balale, cinga ngendlela uhlazo lwakho oluvela ngaphandle luya kubonakala ngathi.
Izindlu zanamhlanje azizitholi kakuhle, ngoko ke akusoloko kucacile ukusuka ngaphaya kweso sandi. Qinisekisa ukuba ubiza umnyango ofanelekileyo xa uza kwesivumelwano.
Yilungele ukwenza izivumelwano. Nangona ucinga ukuba ungumzekelo omelwane, musa ukumangaliswa ukuba kuvela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha unokuphazamisa umntu. Ngoko ke, vumelani ukuvumelana.
Ungasongeli okanye uhlasele abamelwane bakho. Oku kunokubangela ukuba baqhube ngakumbi ukuziphatha komsindo kwaye ingxabano iya kufaka isigaba esitsha seMfazwe yeCold.
Kwimeko apho iinzame zakho zokuqhagamshelana kunye nokwazisa abamelwane ngento engundoqo yenkinga, abazange baphumelele, musa ukunyusa imeko, kodwa qha ga mshelana nesigqeba somkhosi. Kubalulekile ukuba ungayifaki into yokuhlambalaza kwaye ngokubanzi ukulwa, ngoko abamelwane baya kuba nethuba lokufaka isikhalazo malunga nawe.
Kakade ke, imfazwe nabamelwane akuhlali kuphelile. Kukho abantu abangaphenduliyo kwizicelo, abenzekanga kwipolisa yesithili, bahambe ngokugqithiseleyo kwimpikiswano, baze bahlawule rhoqo iintlawulo, kodwa baqhubeke besenza isandi. Kule meko, kufuneka uzame njengezandi kunokwenzeka ukuba uphuse izandi kunye neendonga, ungayeki kwaye uqhubeke ulwa. Kwimeko ephosakeleyo, abaninzi abantu banquma ukuhamba, kodwa oku akusiniki naluphi na isiqinisekiso sokuba awuyi kuba semeko efanayo. Zama zonke iindlela zokukhuthaza abantu bakho abamelwane, omnye wabo uya kusebenza ngokuqinisekileyo. Ungazihlambi ukuya ezincutsheni ezingcolileyo kunye nokuziphindezela, ziyakwazi ukuphela kakubi kwaye zikhokelela kwimiphumo engalindelekanga apho uya kuba noxanduva. Ngaba ulungele ukuhlangabezana nabamelwane abanomsindo emngceleni wakho kwindlu yonke xa uvula umnyango?
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unendima yabaxhaphazi, xolisa kubamelwane bakho, ususe isizathu sokuphazamiseka kwaye uzame ukuphinda uphoso. Xa usenza umcimbi wokuzonwabisa okanye ukulungiswa, kunengqiqo ukubuza abamelwane ngomonde malunga nexesha elithile kwaye uxolise ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Ndiyavuya kukuba kukho imeko ezinzima xa kungekho ndlela yokuphuma kwimeko, baninzi kakhulu abo bangatshintsha into ethile.