Ukutshatyalaliswa okunjalo kunokuba ngabazali kunye nabasetyhini, abangenakuqonda ukuba yintoni intombazana eyifumene kuyo. Yaye, inyaniso-yintoni?
Ngenxa yobudala
Abafazi abancinci abathandana nabasilisa baninzi kakhulu kunabo, bavume ukuba ekuqaleni baziva beyingqayizivele kwaye bengenakwenzeka. Ngomlingani onjalo, bakhululekile kunokuba bahlobo, bobabini kunye nolwabelana ngesondo. Yintoni abafazi abayifumana kumadoda abo abathandayo, abaninzi abanakuyiqonda, kuba luthando.
Oontanga abazange baphumelele ebomini okwamanje. Ngaphezu koko, abayazi indlela yokunyamekela ngokufanelekileyo abafazi, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela. Kwaye badla ngokudumala abo bathandekayo ngokunyaniseka ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye baphuthuma ebhedeni, umnqweno wokwenza isenzo socansi ngokwawo, kwaye andinakuyonwabela yonke imiba yeentlungu.
Amadoda avuthiweyo axwayisa iiminqweno zentombazana, angamtyhila zonke iimfihlelo zesini kunye nobuqili balo. Ngenxa yoko, umfazi osemncinci onomyeni ovuthiweyo ufumana uxhulumano olunzulu lwezesondo, okwenziwa ngumlingane ongeke akwazi ukumnika. Into efunyanwa ngumfazi kwindoda ethandekayo, abaninzi bethu bazama ukufumana impendulo kulo mbuzo.
Icala eliphambeneyo
I-sexologists ixwayisa ukuba indondo ebizwa ngokuba "ngumyeni ovuthiweyo, obanjwe ngumyeni" yixesha eliphambeneyo. Ngelishwa, ithabathela ngenyameko amandla kunye nempilo yomlingane.
Ukuphakanyiswa ngokwesondo, okwenzeka kumntu oneminyaka engamashumi amane kunye nomfazi osemtsha, ngokuqhelekileyo uhlala iminyaka emibili ukuya kwimithathu. Emva koko i-ardor yakhe iyancipha kwaye phambi kwentombazana eyayingamazi yonke into evuyisayo ngayo ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, indoda ediniweyo, enzima ngeminyaka, umsebenzi, kwaye ihlala ikhathalela iintsapho ezimbini kwangoko zibonakala. Akasenako ukwenza uthando kwisigxina esifanayo njengomlingane wakhe.
Abaninzi abakulungele ukuphendula umbuzo othi abafazi bafumaneke kumadoda abo abathandayo.
Ngokwezengqondo zeengqondo, enkulu ingxaki yeentlalontle zentsapho emshadweni kunye nendoda eqolileyo iyashintsha neendima zengqondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo imeko ilandelayo.
Ekuqaleni, umfazi omncinci ubona kumyeni wakhe umkhuseli kunye noyise, othembekile ngokumfihla phantsi kwephiko lakhe, ngokukhawuleza xa ephuma kwidleke lomzali. Indoda ibona intombazana njengowesifazana, ecaleni apho ivakalelwa yintloko yentsapho yayo, engazange atshade naye.
Kodwa emva kweminyaka embalwa, amadoda, njengomthetho, aqala ukufuna ukugcinwa kwamabhinqa ngaphezulu. Sebevele bekhangela "umama" kumfazi okhulileyo, oya kubakhathalela. Ngelo xesha, umfazi oselula oye waziva ubutyebi bakhe ngobudala, udinga le nxalenye kungekhona "kwindodana" okanye "ubaba". Ufuna ukubona emva komhlobo wakhe, umhlobo, onokubelana naye ngeminqweno kunye neengxaki zakhe ngokulinganayo.
Ukuba abatshatileyo abahambelani neenguqu ezenzekayo kunye neqabane, ukuba abayifumani indlela yokuphuma kwimeko, loo mtshato uyaphula. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo indoda ihlupheke ngakumbi ... Yintoni abafazi abayifumana kumadoda abo abathandayo, xa kucacile ukuba i-satelliti ayiyona into ekhangayo? Mhlawumbi, lo ngumcimbi wothando.
Ukulwa
Kanti akufanele ucinge ukuba imitshato enjalo ayinaso ikamva. Ukuba ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi obatshatileyo, izahlulo ziza kukhangela idilesi yokudibanisa nomnye, zenze ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, zifunde ukuzilungisa ukuze zikwazi ukuhamba emxhatheni wegxalaba, kwaye ezo ntsapho ziyakwazi ukumelana neziqhumane eziqinileyo zemihla ngemihla.
Inendima enkulu idlala ngongoma kunye nendlela yokuphila. Ukuba bobabini abalingani bakhetha umculo nomculo okanye uloba kunye nokuhamba, banomdla wokuthetha kunye nokuchitha ixesha lokuzonwabisa. Ingqongileyo ibaluleke kakhulu: inkxaso yabahlobo, abahlobo kunye nezihlobo zibamba umanyano.