Ziziphi izipho onokukunika intombazana? Madoda, ungalokothi unike ibhinqa elincinci. Nantsi inyaniso, iinkcukacha ozifundayo kwinqaku lethu.
Sonke siyazi ixesha elide ukuba indoda efuna ukunqoba intliziyo yowesifazane ixesha elide, inokuyenza kakuhle ngendandatho. Yaye iya kuba yindleko kwaye ibe yindleko, ngokucacileyo iyayibonakalisa kokubili intsikelelo, kunye nakwabanye abasetyhini abasondeleyo kuye, ukuba le ndoda ilungele ukwabelana nazo zonke izibonelelo zayo kunye nalo mfazi. Kwaye nangona umntu enomlinganiselo omncinci wemali, ke kungcono ukuthatha imali mboleko kwaye uthenge intsimbi ebiza ngaphezu kokunika umfazi umhlobiso omncinci kwaye ungancinci.
Kutheni kufuneka ukuba isini esomeleleyo senze oku? Amadoda amaninzi akayiqondi le nto. Enyanisweni, isipho esinjalo sibaluleke kakhulu kumfazi. Umnini wendandatho uyamjonga njalo, ngelixa ekhumbula zonke ezo zifungo ezinikwe ngumntu. Eli bhinqa liza kumbonisa indlebe kwabanye abesifazana abathi, ngokuqwalasela isipho, baya kuzama ukuqonda umnqweno womntu wokudala umanyano. Emva kwexesha, ekudaleni intsapho, isi sibini sinokuhlala kwindawo ephantsi, kwaye iqhube imoto endala. Kodwa ngenxa yowesifazane, into ebaluleke kakhulu yinto enye into: intsimbi enhle iya kusondla umnini wakhe, kuba uthengiwe ngokukhethekileyo kwaye kubonisa ukuba uyithandwa kangakanani kwaye umntu wakhe ufuna ukuba kufuphi naye.
Apha ndifuna ukunikela umzekelo ebomini.
Indoda enegama elihle uDmitry wayesazi kakuhle ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ibhinqa lububungqina bothando lwendoda ngendlela yendandatho ebiza kakhulu, ngoko ke wayithengela iingubo ezintle kumfazi wayo, ngoxa yena engazange agqoke iingubo, ngaphandle kwengubo yomtshato kunye nesihenqo iiyure.
Umntakwabo kaDmitri uViktor wayengayazi nantoni na malunga neendlela zokuvavanya kwabafazi. Ngoko ke, wanika umfazi wakhe u-Elena iimpahla ezinqabileyo, kwaye ngokuchanekileyo, ngexesha lonke ababenye kunye naye, wamnika: iindandatho enye engabizi, ithengwe kwi-pawnshop kunye neetyunithi ezininzi, ezazisusa eThailand. Akazange aqaphele ukuba ngezipho ezinjalo wachitha ukholo luka-Elena ngesifiso sakhe sokudala ubudlelwane obude kunye naye. Emva koko, wayesazi ukuba uyakwazi ukumenza kunye nezipho ezibiza kakhulu, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile akazange abanike zona. UVictor akazange anike umfazi wakhe iintyatyambo kunye namaqhekeza, ngenxa yokuba, ngombono wakhe, iintyatyambo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ziya kubuna, oko kukuthi, ukuthenga iindidi zeentyantyambo, kwintetho kaVictor, kukuphela kwemfucuza yemali. U-Elena wacacisa ngenye indlela: zonke iintlobo zeentyatyambo ezinamaphiko zaziza kwenza uVictor ithuba lokumnika elitsha aze aphinde ambonise uthando lwakhe. Kuqonda kukaVictor, isipho esingcono kakhulu intyatyambo ebhodweni, kuba iya kuzuza kwixesha elide. Kwaye ke ngelinye ilanga wathenga uElena enye intyatyambo ebhodweni, ngeli xesha kwakuyi-rose. "Intyatyambo yothando," wamemezela ngokucacileyo. Emva kancinci wongezelela ukuba u-Elena, ukuba wayefuna, unokuthabatha izikhukhula ezivela kulo mqulu, ziphakamise kwaye zithengise. Owu, unako ukuvula ivenkile yeentyatyambo! Ukugqibela kwebali kwakulandelayo. Ngaloo busuku, xa uElena wamkela isipho esilandelayo, ugqirha wathabatha umlenze emacaleni aseVictor, kwiintsuku ezimbalwa uVictor uya kukwazi ukuhlala kwakhona.
Imilinganiselo yebali ibomi: ngulowo umntu ecinga ngengqiqo kwaye ucinga ukuba intyatyambo ebhodweni isipho esiluncedo ngakumbi kunesixhaso se-roses - umntu onjalo kufuneka alele elele kuphela. Isiluleko sethu kumadoda yilo: ungasindisa ebomini kwizinto ezininzi, kodwa akufanele uphinde uzikhange kwizinto zobungcweti ozinika kumfazi. Ukuba ekuqaleni kobudlelwane unikezela intombazana yakho ethandekayo, ekubeni unemali encinci, ngoko ngexesha, ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, kufuneka unike ibhinqa ibhinqa elibi kakhulu kwaye lihle. Ngaba ucinga ukuba oku kulungile okanye akunjalo, nangayiphi na into inokuphucula ubomi bakho. Sikucebisa ukuba uqaphele ukuba luhlobo luni lwezipho olufakekayo ukunika intombazana.