Kuyo nayiphi na inxaxheba yabantwana kukho umncinci ophendulela ekubeni kwindawo "engabonakaliyo" okanye "ukukhutshwa". Abantwana abangazange bafunde ukwakha unxibelelwano nabanye abaselula, kwixesha elizayo, banokuba nobunzima kwiimeko apho kukho ukusebenzisana neqela: kwizifundo, ezemidlalo, emsebenzini, ubudlelwane beentsapho. Bakufumana kunzima ukufumana abahlobo, abantu abanjalo bahlala bebodwa.
Kwezinye iimeko, abazali banokuqikelela ukuba kwenzeke iingxaki ezinjalo kwangaphambili: kuyaziwa ukuba iingxaki zokuthetha kunye nokuseka oonxibelelwano bezentlalo zihlala zivela kubantwana abanokwenza "ukuphazamiseka" okanye ukuziphatha kwabo, kunye nabantwana abaneziphene zokuthetha. Ukuba umntwana unempawu ezinjalo - ungalindeli kude kube lula ukuba "iingxaki" ziqale. Izifundo zonxibelelwano kufuneka ziqale ngaphambi kokungena kumaziko abantwana.
Abazali banokunceda njani umntwana ubunzima ekunxibelelaneni ukuze angamlimazi?
Okokuqala, qaphela indlela ubuhlobo phakathi kwamalungu entsapho akhiwa ngayo, kuba izakhono zokuqala zokunxibelelana ngumntwana ekhaya. Itheyibhile ukuba amakhaya athethe omnye komnye, njani ukulungisa iingxaki zeengxabano. Ngohlobo olukhululekile kunye noluthembekileyo lokunxibelelana, abazali banethuba elincinci lokuba neengxaki zokunxibelelana, kunye nesimo esilungileyo xa kuvela ubunzima obunjalo.
Abazali kaninzi bayenqaba ukuvuma ukuba isizathu sokuba umntwana akanalo ubudlelwane nabanye, kuye kungekhona koontanga okanye ngabafundisi. Umama onothando notata ubonakala ngathi abanye abantwana babantu abafundanga kakubi, kwaye ootitshala abangenakukwazi ukufumana indlela efanelekileyo kumntwana wabo. Enyanisweni, kunokuthi umntwana uphatha kakubi kwabanye abantwana, ubonisa ukucaphukisa ngokweqile, waziwa njengomnyundeli, okanye, umzekelo, uzama ukuziphatheka nje nge-barchuk encinci: uthetha noontanga ngendlela ehlelekile.
Ukuvalwa kunye neentloni kuphazamisa nokuphuhliswa kwezakhono zonxibelelwano. Ncedisa umntwana ukuba akhe ukuzithemba, umkhuthaze ukuthetha, kuquka nabangamaziyo. Mcele ukuba atshintshe kwikliniki okanye acele i-market ukuba yimalini i-cherry. Abazali bafanele bakhumbule ukuba isiseko sokuzithemba kumntwana kukumkela ngokungenasimo komama noyise. Ungayibhalisi kuye ("unqabile", "awunamdla"), musa ukumthelekisa nabanye abantwana, ngokukodwa kwintsikelelo ("Ngoku, Sveta, sele ndifundile ukuba ndifunde njani ngeelwimi, kodwa awukwazi ukufunda iileta! ").
Ukuba umntwana uthanda ukuziphatha kakubi, khumbula - ukwandisa ilizwi kunye nokusebenzisa isijeziso senyama kuyindlela engafanelekanga yokusombulula le ngxaki. Qinisekisa ukuba ubugwenxa abubangelwa ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano nabazali, kwaye akusilo ukukhala kokugqibela komphefumlo, ngethemba lokunakekelwa ngumama. Izindlela eziphumelelayo zokulwa nokuziphatha okubi: ukubonisa indlela yokukhusela ngokukhuselekileyo (umzekelo - ukukrazula izicucu ezincinane "zomsindo" ngento evelayo ebangela ukuba iimeko zintlupheko) kunye nomboniso wokuziphatha ngokuzinzileyo kwiimeko ezingqubuzanayo (umzekelo, bonise indlela yokufumana ingcamango ukuba umdla unqatshelwe kunye neminqweno yomnye umntu).
Abantwana abancinci bebodwa. Kunzima ukuba bazibeke kwindawo yomnye umntu-oku kungumthombo wenani elikhulu leengxabano. Ngezinye izihlandlo abazali bafuna ukunikela ngomntwana ukuba acinge ngendlela abaziphatha ngayo kumntu othile: "Ngoku, ukuba uVasya aphule i-kanachiki yakho - ngaba uya kuyithanda?
Amathuba amakhulu okungafunyanwa ngabaontanga kubantwana abanokuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo. Usetyenzise ukulawula aze azibheke ngcono kunabanye. Ukuziphatha okunjalo, njengommiselo, kucatshulwa izihlobo: abazali, okanye ootatomkhulu, abangaboniyo ekudumiseni kwabo, bavuselele umntwana ukuba uyona mhle kuzo zonke iziganeko, egxininisa ukuba abanye abantwana kuye "kwaye abafanelanga ikhandlela." Abantwana abayithandi "ama-dudes". Kubalulekile ukuchazela umntwana ukuba oontanga ababi nakakhulu, kwaye kwezinye iimeko zingaba ngcono. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo.
Abazali abavuma ukuba umntwana wabo unenkathazo ekunxibelelaneni bathambekele ekuboniseni ukuzimisela ukusebenzisana nabaqeqeshi-isazi sengqondo, utitshala wezentlalo, utitshala weklasi. Kule meko, ootitshala baya kuxela indlela abazali abanceda ngayo abantwana abanenkinga yokunxibelelana.
Kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha, ngokwenene, isimo sengqondo esibi kumntwana kwiqela liqulunqwe ngumntu oyedwa - umzekelo, utitshala ovakalelwa kukuba akanakukhathazeka kubazali bomntwana. Abantwana bayijonga indlela afumana ngayo iphutha kunye nomfundi, akhuphe iingcamango, kunye neemeko zakhe zenziwa kwiqela lonke. Okanye umfundi ofunda naye ophethe igunya phakathi kwabantwana kunye nokulwa nomntwana othile uququzelela ukuhlukunyezwa. Ukuba kwimeko enjalo bafika "ekujonganeni" nabaxhaphazi, oku kudla ngokukhokelela ekubandezelweni kwemeko - utitshala uba yinkxalabo ekuncincikeni komntwana, kwaye oontanga bakhe bamjonga njengento yokunyelisa, kwaye baqhubeka beyitshutshisa. Kubalulekile ukufumanisa izizathu zokungabikho komdla kumntwana kwiqela ukuze azame ukuphucula imeko, ukunika umntwana inkxaso engenammiselo nokucebisa indlela yokulungisa indlela abaziphatha ngayo, kodwa engamkhuthazi ukuba azincwinele "ngokwakhe engonwabileyo." Ukuba imeko ihambe kakhulu - umntwana uhlaselwa rhoqo okanye ahlaziswe - lixesha lokungenelela okukhulu.
Into ephambili abazali abafanele bahlale bayikhumbula kukuba abakwazi ukubonisa ukungalindelekanga kwaye baqhube ingxaki yentsana, bethemba ukuba yonke into "yenziwa ngokwayo." Umama kunye nobaba osemva bathatha imeko elawulwayo, kulula kwaye ngokukhawuleza iziphumo zomsebenzi wokulungisa ziya kuza. Uthando nenkxaso yabantu abasondeleyo kunye noncedo lwabaqeqeshi luyintloko kwiimpumelelo zokulungisa iingxaki zonxibelelwano.