I-quarrel ephupha: inkcazo yeetoliki
Ngaphambi kokuba ujikelele kwiincwadi zephupha, bekungeke kukukhathaze ukukhumbula ngokucacileyo indlela impikiswano eyenziwe ngayo: isalathisi, ngubani na umchasi wakho, owalwa nayo? Zonke ezi nkcukacha zibaluleke kakhulu ekuchazeni ngokuchanekileyo, ngoko uzama ukungaphuthelwa nayiphi na.
Ngoko, umzekelo, ephupheni, ukuphikisana nomntu onobudlelwane obukhulu ebomini bokwenene kuthetha ukuba umzimba wakho ufihla isifo okanye unengxaki ezininzi ezingaphendulwanga kwezinye iindawo zobomi. Ukuba kukho uhlobo oluthile lokuyeka okanye ukungaqondani phakathi kwakho, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, isalathiso sephupha liyingxenye engekho yobudlelwane bakho okwangoku.
Ukuxabana nomntu wangaphambili ngumqondiso wokuthi iimvakalelo zakho kuye ziphantse ziphele, kodwa intukuthelo ayivumeli umntu ukuba ashiye ixesha elidlulileyo.
Iphupha apho uhlambalaza nabazali bakho okanye umyeni wakho, uthi aba bantu banqwenela wena kuphela okulungileyo kakhulu, kodwa ukratshi lwakho nokunyaniseka akunikezi ngcebiso. Tshintsha okanye uhlamvu lwakho luza kudlala kuwe.
Kutheni sixabana nomhlobo? Ngokusekelwe kukutolika, ukubikezela akukhuthazi ngokupheleleyo. Mhlawumbi lo mfazi unomona oyimfihlo kuwe, ufuna ukukhuphisana nawe. Ukuhluleka kwakho ngamnye kukubangela ukuba uvuyo.
Iingcamango zengxabano kubasebenzi, okwenzeka ngokukhawuleza kwaba yimpikiswano - uphawu olucacileyo lokuba ufuna ukuphumla. Kubonakala ukuba omnye osebenza nabo okanye abaphathi bakho bafumana iziqu zabo kunye nokunganeliseki. Umthwalo osindayo wokusebenza, ubunzima beengxaki ezingaphendulwanga nazo zibangelwa yinkinga yokuziphatha, ekugqibeleni ixelwe ngale ndlela. Zama ukuya eholide okanye, ubuncinci, uthathe iintsuku ezimbalwa zekhefu lokugula.
Kutheni uphupha ngomntu othandekayo kunye naye ekuxabaneni kulobu bomi?
Ngasentla saqwalasela ukutolika okubhekiselele kwimeko yokuxabana nomntu omthandayo. Kodwa indlela yokuqonda iphupha apho umntu obathandayo wayekho kwaye yonke into yayimangalisa, kodwa ngokwenene sele usuhlobo okanye inyanga ekuxabaneni?
Ukuba ukhangela iinkcazo zeencwadi zephupha, ke eli phupha libonisa ukuba ekugqibeleni uya kwenza uxolo kunye nentanda yakho kwaye zonke izikhalazo zakho zizakulibaleka njengephupha elibi.
Kwakhona, unganokungathandabuzeki ukuba ukhethiweyo uqobo uyaxhomekeka ekubeni ungekho ndawonye. Umntu ufuna ngokucacileyo ukuseka ubudlelwane, kodwa akwazi ukukwenza ngendlela eyiyo, kuba akayi kuva necala. Mhlawumbi eli bali ibonakaliso lokuba kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo okuqala ekuxolelaneni.
Njengoko uyakubona, zeziphi iincwadi zephupha ezikushoyo ngxabano ngaphezulu komlingiswa wezilumkiso. Indlela yokuqhubela phambili - kufike kuwe, ngoko cinga malunga nayo yonke into ngaphambi kokuya kwiyiphi na inyathelo. Kule meko, konke kuxhomekeke kwisigqibo sakho. Inhlanhla kunye namaphupha amnandi!