Nangona iinguqulelo zesondo, okanye i-bacchanalia yemimiselo kwithelevishini nakusasazo, nangona kubonakala kubuthathaka kwegunya lentsapho, abaninzi abafazi, njengamadoda, bazame ukuphepha ukunqanda uthando. Kule nto kuvela ekuncediseni ukuqonda okulula.
Uthando lwangxantathu - iinkqubo ngokwazo azizinzile. Ingakumbi ukuba zibandakanya amadoda asetshatiweyo. Njengomthetho, bahlukana ngokukhawuleza emva kokuvela. Kakade ke, kukho imeko apho kubambisana iminyaka emithathu, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi ukutshutshiswa kweqabane liba ngumzuzu obalulekileyo ebomini bentsapho, ekhokelela ekuhlaziyweni okubalulekileyo kwemilinganiselo. Intsapho iyatshatyalaliswa, into eyenzeka kaninzi, okanye umntu eyeka ukudibanisa kwakhe kwicala, okwenzeka rhoqo kangangoko. Njengomthetho, indlela yokuqhawulwa kwexantathu ibe yinto yokufumanisa umfazi osemthethweni wokukrexeza. Kwaye kuphela inxalenye encinci yazo zonke iireveli ezitshatileyo zingaphila iminyaka.
Kwaye kunjalo, kukho imeko xa bonke abathathu beyazi malunga nexantathu, kodwa bathule. Kwiminyaka emininzi, kunokubakho umzabalazo kumntu ongekho nantoni kunye nomfazi ophumeleleyo. Kukho umqhubi omnye kuphela - indoda ngokwakhe. Akumangalisi ukuba kukholwa ukuba indlela ephumelelayo yokutshatyalala inxantathu yothando yinto yokuqala yowowo osemnye. Kwimeko yendibano enomyeni otshatileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo kuphela umntu okwazi ukukhetha nokuphelisa ubudlelwane "abathathu".
Ukuba sele ukhona phakathi kobudlelwane nomntu otshatileyo, kuya kuba nzima ukuba uyilibale uthando lomntu onjalo. Emva koko, ukunxulumana nomntu otshatileyo kutshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwamabhinqa kangangokuthi ukuphuma ngaphandle kobudlelwane naye kunzima kunokuba bahlala ixesha elide. Kwaye kunjalo! Ukuba ucinga malunga nendlela yokulibala uthando lomntu otshatileyo, kufuneka ufunde imigaqo emininzi yokwakha ubuhlobo naye.
Into yokuqala okufuneka uyiqonde kukuba akuyena onke amabhinqa anokufumana uthando lomntu otshatileyo. Kufuneka uhlalutye zakho zangaphambili, ubudlelwane kwintsapho yabazali. Kungenzeka ukuba igama elithi "uthando" linxulumene nawe ngamazwi "ingxabano," "ukuthotywa," "intlungu." Kule meko, awukwazi ukuba uphendule bonke ubomi kubantu abathandanayo, kuquka nabasetyhini, kuba ubudlelwane nabo buyakunceda ukuba uvelise umoya womoya womzali. Isiqhelo - asithethi kakuhle, kwaye kwimikhwa emibi kuyimfuneko ukuyilahla. Ukuze ube nethuba lokulibala uthando lomntu onomtshato womtshato eminwe, kufuneka ufumane amandla kunye nesibindi sokujongana nomthwalo wexesha elidlulileyo. Okuyinkimbinkimbi ngakumbi kunye nokudibanisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali bakho phakathi kwabo, kuya kuba nenjongo ngakumbi ukubuyela kwi-psychologist yezobuchwepheshe ukulungisa le ngxaki.
Into yesibili ukuba ngamnye umfazi ocinga ngendlela yokulibala uthando lomntu otshatileyo kufuneka azi, ezi ziindlela zokwandisa ukuzithemba. Ubudlelwane nomntu otshatileyo ngumsindo oqinisekileyo wokuzithemba. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abaya kwiireveli ezinjalo sele benento yokuzithoba. Bazibona bebubi, banobuwula, bengafanelanga uthando. Ukungakholelwa kuwe kukuphazamisa iingxaki ebuhlotsheni obuyomeleza kwaye buqinise le ukungakholwa. Kuvela isangqa esichukumisayo: esezantsi ukuzithemba, amadoda atyhola kakhulu.
Ukongezelela, amadoda asetshatileyo anomdla wokuba nobudlelwane kunye nabafazi ababini okanye ngaphezulu, banokuthulula kuphela ioli kwiingxaki zakho ngokuzithemba. Bakugxininisa ngayo yonke indlela abaye bazuza ngayo kwingqalelo yakho, ekulondolozeni ubunzima obungenakukuphepha. Ngoko emva kokuphela kwencwadana enjalo inkokheli ihlala ifuna inkqubo enzulu yokubuyisela amandla okuzithanda wena. Indlela efanelekileyo kwimeko enjalo ukubhala uluhlu lweentlobo ezimbini zabantu. Uhlobo lokuqala lwabantu - abahlobo bakho, abaqhelana nabo, abakuvuma ngayo yonke intliziyo yabo, njengawe. Uhlobo lwesibini ngabantu abanokuthi bangabandakanyeka kwimimpi yeemvakalelo. Bayakuvuyisa, bezama ukujonga bhetele kwimvelaphi yakho. Bangakuvuyela ukudideka okanye amava angamangalisi ngokugxeka kwabo. Ukuze ubuyisele ukuzithemba, emva kokuba uthande uthando lomntu otshatileyo, ixesha elithile - inyanga okanye ezimbini - zama ukucoca ngokucokisekileyo isangqa soqhagamshelwano. Abantu abavela kwicandelo lokuqala loluhlu kufuneka babe ngabahlobo bakho bokomoya kunye nesiseko sokuxhaswa kokuziphatha. Kwaye abantu abazibhokoxa ngeendleko zakho, bavumele ukuba bafumane ithuba lokunxibelelana nawe okwethutyana.
Inveli kunye nomntu otshatileyo ngumvavanyo omkhulu kumfazi obanika ulonwabo nolonwabo ngexesha elifanayo. Fumana amandla ngexesha lokuba uqonde ukungabikho kobuhlobo obunjalo, hambani uze uzame ukulibala uthando lomntu otshatileyo.