Iingcebiso zokunyanga ukuxhomekeka kotywala, ezichazwe kwinqaku alikho nzima.
Ukuqonda izizathu zomnqweno kuthi ukuphumla ngokuphucula igazi ngotywala kubalulekile kungekuphela kwembono yokulimala kotywala. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ukuqonda ezi zizathu kunokusebenza njengentsimbi yokuguqula indlela yokuphila ibe ngcono, ukulahla iingxaki kunye neenkolelo ezingenasidingo eziphazamisa ubomi bakho. Qalisa ubomi obutsha emva kokuba isithintelo - sichase. Kodwa ngoku kunokwenzeka - funda nje le nqaku ukuphela.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwingxoxo esithethayo "Ndicinga", "ngombono wam", njl njl. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ucinga ngako - ngokuqhelekileyo akusikho iingcamango zethu. Kungenxa yokuba uvila okanye ukungabi nako kwexesha, asicingi ngokujulile ngendaba yesifundo. Kwaye oko esikunikezela ngombono wethu ngumbono womnye umntu esiwuve ngaphambili. Ezi ngcamango, ingakumbi ukuba ziphindaphindiwe ngaphambili, zibonwa njengabantu. Ngethuba elifanayo, ukuba umntu ufuna ukucelomngeni, sibavikela ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa ndinokuqinisekisa, ukuba ucinga ngako ngokunzulu - kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuqonda ukuba awuvumelani nale ngcamango okanye uyavumelana nezinye zokugcina.
Kutheni sivumela abanye ukuba bacinge kwaye basenzele thina? Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba asazi ukuba senze ntoni ngexesha elinye? Xa kungekho nolwazi lwangaphakathi, kufana nesimo sendlela, indlela yokuziphatha, kukho isilingo esinzulu sokucinga nokuthatha ngokulandela isicatshulwa esilungisiwe okanye ngokwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha esakhuliswe ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le meko kunye nokuziphatha ziyaziwayo iingcamango, iinkqubo zokuziphatha kunye nezicwangciso zezenzo. Akukho nto yokucinga ngayo, siyabalandela ngengqondo yomsebenzi. Nokuba asiyithandi. Ngentliziyo sihlala sifuna ukwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Kodwa ngenye indlela ihlala iphikisana nemithetho, isimo sengqondo somntu okanye umnqweno womntu. Kwaye oku, ngaphezu kwenkalipho kunye nezinye iimpawu eziyimfuneko, kufuneka ukwazi kakuhle oko ufuna.
Le yilapho ukucoca ngokomoya kuvela khona, xa umntu engazi into ayifunayo nendlela yokufezekisa ngayo. Kunoko, bammisela into ayifunayo ukwenza. Kancinci, ukungonelelwanga kwangaphakathi kunye nekhondo lobomi luqokelela, luyinkimbinkimbi yiminqweno engacacileyo. Kwaye konke oku kuphuma kumnqweno wokubalekela iingxaki. Ngaphezu koko, ukuxazulula ingxaki ongaziqondi ukuba akunakwenzeka.
Ukongezelela, sonke sithwala umthwalo wezakhiwo zethu, i-neuroses nezinye iimeko. Njengomphumo wabo bonke aba vectors kwisimo sethu esiqhelekileyo kunzima ukufumanisa izixhobo ezininzi ezibalulekileyo zobuntu bethu. Umntu, ingakumbi ukuba uthanda ukukhohlisa, kaninzi akazi ngaye izinto ezininzi, okanye uyaziphika kuye. Kwaye kunobungozi kumntu ukuba angathembeki naye. Ukuba inkohliso yoluntu isenokuqondwa (sonke, ngokwezinga elithile, ukwenza oku, ukuzama ukubonakala kungcono kunokuba sinyani), ngoko ukukhohliswa akunakho ukulungiswa. Ngaphezu koko, libhubhisa umntu.
Okumangalisa kukuba, ezininzi ze mibuzo ziphendulwa ngotywala. Andiyi kuncipha ukuba uphuze utswala. Kodwa, ndicinga ukuba baninzi abanamava. Oku kunene. Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuziphatha kwakho kwinqanaba lokuxilisa utywala kunye "nesibindi sokunyaniseka nawe" unokufumana izigqibo ezifanelekileyo. Oku kuza kuba iresiphi yakho yonyango lokuxhomekeka kotywala.
Ukuba umntu ukhululeke ngakumbi kwaye akhululekile kwiinkomfa phantsi kolawulo lotywala, unokuzisa eli lizwe kwimihla ngemihla. Izibangela ezinzulu kakhulu zeengxaki aziyicombululi oku. Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba iresiphi yokuxhomekeka kotywala ayisebenzi?
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uyazivumela "ukuphumla" kwaye enze ezinye izinto ezinengqiqo ezingamkelekanga. Wenza oku ngenxa yokuba uyaziqonda-uyazifuna. Ngomso olulandelayo, utshwala kumnika "ukunyaniseka" okupheleleyo "ubuthathaka obuncinane" nezinye izono. Kodwa kuzo zombini iimeko ingxaki ingasombululwa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha kwethu okunxilisayo ngokugqithisileyo kuyahluke ekuziphatheni okuqhelekileyo, isizathu esinzima sokucinga ngako. Kwiimeko ezigqithiseleyo, xa umntu eguqula engapheliyo - umntu unokusolisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ulwahlulo lomntu. Utywala uwasusa izibilini zethu zangaphakathi, ezivela kwinkqubo yemfundo kunye nokuziphatha komphakathi. Kwakhona ibuye isetyenzisise zethu izakhiwo. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu onxilisiweyo ukhululiwe kwimpembelelo yempucuko aze abe ngumntu. Kwaye kuya kuba lunomdla. Akulona idemoni engena kumntu - lo mntu ubonakalisa ubuso bakhe bokwenyaniso.
Ungayiphatha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Abaninzi abasayi kusela. Kodwa loo nto ayikho kule nto - ingxoxo ayikho malunga nokusela okanye ukungaphuzi, kodwa ngezinye izizathu zengqondo zokusela utywala. Umgca weyona nto kukuba ingxaki, njengotshaba, iyona nto ibonisana ubuso nobuso. Unokuyicombulula. Kungcono ukwazi ngawe yonke indlela ukuya kwiinkcukacha ezingathandekiyo kwaye ngandlela-thile usebenze kule nto, kunokuba ulinde de ibe yinto eyoyikisayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuchonga nokuphelisa ezi ngxaki kuza kukunyusa kakhulu ngokukhula komntu kwaye kuza kufezekisa iziphumo ezilungileyo kuyo nayiphi na intsimi, ukusuka ebomini kubomi kunye nezoshishino.
Ukuba uhambela le nto ngokunyanisekileyo, ngaphandle kokungafuneki kwintliziyo kunye nezentlalo, iziganeko zakho zokunxila kukubakho ukubonakaliswa kwakho njengomntu "ongenasiphelo" ngaphandle kokukhohliswa kwentlalo, ngaphandle kweengubo zengqondo. Kwaye umsebenzi wethu awusayi "ukukhupha oku," kodwa ukufumana izinto ezintle zokusebenza kuthi, ukuzama ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi iingxaki zethu ezifihlakeleyo, kwaye sifunde indlela yokuhlangabezana nazo ngaphandle kotywala. Ngaphezu koko, isisombululo salezi ngxaki asisenzi nje kuphela umntu ophilileyo ngokwengqondo, kodwa sinokuphelisa isidingo sengqondo sokusela.