Ngokuqhelekileyo, ulwalamano lwabazali kunye nabantwana beminyaka yobudala besikolweni lukhula ngokwendlela yolu hlobo: inkunzi yokuqala ayinayo enye indlela yokuziphatha ngaphandle kwamalungu asekudala entsapho, ngoko ufuna ukubalingisa uyise, unina, ugogo, utata ... Okokuqala, bafunde iingoma kunye neengoma, iimbali. Ngethuba umntwana eya kwi-kindergarten, yonke into ibonakala ihamba kakuhle.
Emva koko isikolo siqala, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ubunzima bokuqala: ekuqaleni iifayile kunye nezihlomelo aziphumanga, ngoko ke amanani awanakongeza, ngakumbi-ngaphezulu ... Kwaye ngoku abazali baqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba "umntwana wabo" ungumntwana oqhelekileyo, kwaye kunokuba kwaye, ngendlela, ayikho into ephawulekayo. Ubawo nonina batshintshana, okanye kunye kunye, ukukhulisa umntwana wabo "wokulwa nomntwana," ngamanye amaxesha baxakeka intonga ephulaphula ulwalamano lolwalamano naye, oluya kutshabalaliswa ngonaphakade.
Xa selula, akukho nto inokutshintshwa. Kwaye ke wonke umntu uyamangalisa: bathi, intsapho, kubonakala ngathi, iyanceda, kutheni ikhula "inzima" intsha? Kwaye ke umntu uyakhula, kwaye asisayi kumqonda, ngokungaqhelekanga, engaqondakaliyo uba ....
Kodwa konke oku kunokuthi kugwenywe, ukuba ngabazali kuphela, xa umntwana wabo wayesesezintlu, abazange bakuthole kunzima ukumbumba abasebenzi kwiincwadi zabafundisi abasemgangathweni abaye baxazulula ixesha elide lexesha, kwaye bonke abanye malunga nokuphuhliswa okubanzi, okuhambelana nobuntu !!
Kodwa ngaba ngabazali abafanelekileyo. Ngaphezu koko, ufumene iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo kubazali abanokukunceda ukuxazulula iingxaki malunga nokuphuhliswa kwengane yakho nangaphambi kokuba kwenzeke.
Ngoko , isicatshulwa sokuqala :
- ISICELO SEMITHETHO YONKE UMNTU (NAKWANA WAKHO) UYA KULE MHLABA NGOKUSEBENZISWA KWE-MISSION. YINTONI YOKUBA MISSION - UNGAQINISELISI.
Kodwa nguwe onikwe uxanduva lokuchonga nokuphuhlisa zonke iitalente ezifihliweyo kunye nekhono lomntwana wakho, oya kuyidinga xa eqhuba umsebenzi wakhe.
IBhunga lesibini :
- THATHA UMNTWANA WAKHO UKUBA YINI.
Ngaba ungathanda intombi yakhe ukuba iye kwiqela le-ballet, kwaye liyayiphikisa? U-Sonny unobunzima ufunda ama-quatrains, kunye nommelwane uVanya (Kolya, uPetya) ufundeka ngokuthi "Borodino" ngentliziyo?
Ewe, makube njalo!
Into ephambili kukuba lo ngumntwana wakho. Okuthandayo kakhulu, eyona nzala. Kwaye ukuba kukho into engayisebenzeli yona, iya kuba yinto eyahlukileyo. Kwaye kuvela ukuba wonke umntu ojikelezayo uya kuba nomona.
Kwaye nantsi yona ngokwayo
Icandelo lesithathu:
- UNGAKHULU UKUKHULULELA KWENKOLO YAMNTWANA.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiingxoxo zemfundo, abazali basebenzisa amabinzana acwangcisa ngokwenene umntu okhulayo ukuba angaphumeleli. Apha:
- Ngaba kunzima ukukhumbula ...
- ndakuxelela amawaka amawaka ...
- ufana no ...
- Ndiyeke, andinaso ixesha ...
- uba ...
- kutheni uLena (Katya, Vasya, njl) njengaye, kodwa awukho ...
- ucinga ntoni ...
- unokuphindaphinda kangakanani ... Ukuba ungazivuyo ngokuziphatha komntwana, bhetele uthi: "Andizange ndilindele (okunjalo) ukuba umntwana onjalo uya kwenza isenzo esinjalo esibi", "isenzo sakho sandithukuthele kakhulu". Ngaloo ndlela, ulahla kuphela isenzo, kwaye inkunzi, ngokusemandleni onke, iya kuzama ukulungisa indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kwaye ayisayi kukucasula. Zama ukuthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kumntwana wesikolo esikolweni esiprayimari:- Yeka indlela enhle ukuba ndinayo!
- Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu ...
- ngaphandle kwakho andingayi kulawula ...
- mbulela ...
- ulungile kum ... - ungobuchule bam (obuhle, njl)Kodwa ngoku into eyona nto ayinakuyidlula. Ngaphandle koko, unako ukulolonga ingqalelo yindoda ekhulayo yedwa "mna", ukuba uyayeka ukuphawula abanye! Kwixesha lokufundela esikolweni, le nto ayiyi kubonakala kakhulu (ekhaya, kwimeko yakhe, uya kuthanda, enkulisa-eyahlukeneyo, kodwa ehlala epholile phantsi kobuqili bokulinda ngutitshala). Kodwa isikolo siya kuqala ukuxabana, kwaye nokuba yintoni, kuba umntwana wakho usetyenziselwa yonke into eqhubekayo njengoko ufuna!
Ngoko ukuba oku kungenzeki, nasi icebiso lakho :
Ngobudala obuhle, khuthaza umntwana ukuba ahloniphe imo. FUNDA UKUPHATHISWA KWEBANYE, UKUBHALA NGEZEKHONDO, UKUBHUBA. Yaye ukhumbule: indawo ephumlekileyo, yolonwabo kwintsapho yenye yeemeko ezisisiseko zokuphuhliswa kokuvisisana kwengane yakho encinane esikolweni.
Ngoku uyazi yonke into malunga neengcebiso kubazali ekukhulisweni kwabantwana bezikolo eziprayimari kunye neziphakamiso eziya kunceda ukudala ubudlelwane obuhambelanayo kwiqela labazali-abantwana. Naluphi na iinkqubo eziqhubekayo ozisebenzisayo, yonke into iya kuba yintlonelo ukuba indlu yomzali ayinalo uxolo kunye nentuthuzelo yentsapho. Ukufunga, ukukhala, abazali balahlekelwa igunya labo emehlweni omntwana, oya kuba nzima kakhulu ukubuyisela emva koko. Ngoko ke, kukuthanda, uxolo kunye nokufudumala, sinethemba lokuba uya kuthatha isiluleko kubazali!