Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba umsebenzi owenziwe ngokwaneleyo kunye nokutya ngokuqhelekileyo zezi zizathu ezibalulekileyo zokubonakala kobunzima obukhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ingxaki yayikuyo kuphela kwimiba yenyama, ke le nto ayiyi kuba nzima kwaye ayiyi kuhlawula loo nto.
Kutheni abantu, ngokukhawuleza kwaye bezama ukujamelana neepounds eziqhelekileyo, bahlala behlaselwa yi-fiasco? Inyaniso kukuba kukho izizathu zeengqondo ezihambelana ngqo nokubonakala kobunzima obukhulu. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba i-subconscious yomntu ayidlala indima kwinkqubo yokulahlekelwa ubunzima. Yaye ukuba ingqondo engagqithisiyo, kungakhathaliseki isizathu, ikhusela inkqubo yokulahla ubunzima obunzima, ngoko ke umsebenzi ophambili awuyikuququzelela ukutya okunempilo nokwenza umsebenzi owenziwe ngokomzimba, kodwa ukucacisa imfuneko yokusebenza kwengqondo yokuqokelela ubunzima obukhulu.
Kwinkqubo yokufunda le ngxaki, izazi zengqondo zenze iinjongo eziphambili zengqondo zonyusa ngokweqile:
Ihlazo. Ukuzama ukungabonakali, ukufihla ekuhloleni amehlo, umntu onamahloni uyazifihla emva kweepounds. Ukubonakalisa umsebenzi kumzamo wokunciphisa umzimba, nangona kunjalo, ngokungaziqondiyo akunakunqanda "ukukhusela" kwakhe. Abantu abanjalo, okokuqala, kufuneka babe nokwandisa ukuzithemba, baqale ukuzihlonipha ngokwabo njengomntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba nobukhulu obunzima.
Umnqweno wokubukeka uqina, ubonakala ubaluleke kwaye ubalulekile. Ekuqaleni, ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, ezifana nobudala, ukungabikho kwamava athile, ukubonakala okungabonakaliyo, abanye babengaqondi umntu njengomlingani oshishino. Ukufezekisa isimo esifanelekileyo kwimeko yendalo, abanye bakhetha indlela "yokucoca" ngegunya ngokuncedisa iikhilogram ezongezelelweyo. Abantu abanjalo kufuneka baqaphele ukuba ukugqithisa kakhulu nokusebenza komsebenzi akuhambelani nomnye.
Imiphumo yesifo sengqondo ebuntwaneni, ekhokelela kwingcamango yokuba ubukho obungabonakaliyo bukhusela ngokuzikhusela. Ukugqithisa ubunzima obunzima kwiimeko ezifanayo, iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba zisebenze ngokuwamkela inyaniso: akukho mntu ukhuselekile. Kwaye akukho mbonakalo, nakwezinye izinto, akunakuchaphazela oku. Ugxininiso oluphambili ekugqibeleni "izigodlo zangaphambili".
Ukungabi nemvakalelo emihle kunye nemihlali evuya. Umntu udinga ukuzinza nokuzithemba kwixesha elizayo, ngothando, ukuziqonda, ukuzonwabisa. Akulula ukuphumeza zonke ezi ngasentla. Yaye indlela elula kakhulu kwaye efikelelekayo yokuphumeza uvuyo kunye nokuphucula imvakalelo kukufumana ukutya okumnandi, okunamafutha kunye nokutya okumnandi. Abantu abaninzi bavame "ukudibanisa" iingxaki zabo, ngokungaqinisekiyo zikhokelela kwiisilidi ezingaphezulu.
Iingxaki ekujonganeni nesini esahlukileyo. Esi sizathu siqhelekileyo phakathi kwabasetyhini. Ukwesaba ulwalamano nabantu kunye nokwesaba ubudlelwane obukhokelela kwisigqibo esinqununu sokuba sinqatha, ukwenzela ukuba ungabhenxisi umdla wesini esahlukileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu opheleleyo uyathuthuzelwa ngcamango yokuba ukungaphumeleli kobudlelwane kubangelwa ngenxa yobunzima obunzima, kwaye uyesaba ukuba, ekugqibeleni iikhilogram ezingaphezu kweeyure, akayi kususa ingxaki ngokwayo. Kule meko, into ephambili kukuza kwinto yokuba abantu abanomdla kunye neentlonelo ngabanye ngokuxhomekeke ekuziphatheni okukhulu nokuzithemba.
Umtshato. Abasetyhini abaninzi, ukutshata, ukukhawuleza nokucima oko kuthiwa "umlingo wesitshi" -kwenene injongo ephambili ifumaneka (kukho indoda, umntwana, ukuzinza okuthile). Inkuthazo eyona nto yokususa kweli lizwe kukukwazisa ngobomi ngaphandle kweendonga zentsapho enye.
Ukuze ulwa nobunzima obunzima bekungenakulinganiswa, okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba uziqonde. Kungenzeka ukuba kunyanzelekile ukuba uqhagamshelane ne-psychologist ofanelekileyo oya kunceda ukulahla iingxaki kunye neengxaki zengqondo ezifaka isandla ekuqokeleleni ubunzima obukhulu.