Abaxhasi kunye nabaqalisi
Kukholelwa, kwaye uphando lweengqondo luqinisekisa ukuba ininzi yabantu (95%) ngabaxelisa okanye ngamakhoboka kunye ne-5% kuphela abaqalayo. Ukuba sikhumbula ukuba baninzi bethu, kodwa umphathi nguye - umlinganiselo onjalo awuyi kuphakamisa ukungathandabuzeki. Ukuhanjiswa kweendima zokukhokela kunye nekhoboka-akubi okanye kulungile, kodwa zimbini iintlobo zokucinga nokuziphatha, ngenxa yobukho ebantwini bezinto eziphambili kunye neempawu zenkokheli. Ukugxininisa kwindlela yokuqala okanye yesibini isetyenziswe ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ukukhokela kuthetha ukusebenza, inkokheli. Ingundoqo yokukhokela ibonisa iqondo eliphantsi lokugcinwa kwe-conservatism, ukukhutshwa komngcipheko omkhulu, ukulungelelanisa ngokukhawuleza, kunye nenqanaba eliphezulu loxanduva. Ukuba yikhoboka kuthetha ukuhlala kwisithuba esinqabileyo, ukuthembela nokuvuma, ukunika ilungelo lezigqibo okanye ukhetho komnye. Abantu abadibeneyo baxhomekeke kuncinci kwaye bazimeleyo kunezikhokelo, bancike ngakumbi kubantu abasondeleyo okanye abaphathi.
Kutheni abantu abaninzi bekhetha ukuxelisa, ukuxelisa, ukulandela umntu? Uninzi lwethu lubona indlela yokuziphatha eyiyo xa sibona abanye abantu beziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Siyicinga ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba abantu abaninzi benza okufanayo, ngoko kufuneka baqonde into esingayiyo. Ngomqondo othile, lo mzi uhambelana nomoya wokuzigcina. Ngendlela, ukunyamekela kwethu ukuxelisa kubonakala nakwizinga lokuphila kunye nemimoya. Khumbula indlela osulelekileyo ngayo ukubonakala komntu okhwaza okanye ohlekayo. Kwaye kunzima kangakanani ukuxhathisa ukuba ungayigxothi okanye uyimhle.
"Ukukhulelwa" kunamandla kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha kukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi. Ngokomzekelo, ekupheleni kwekhulu leshumi elineshumi elinesithoba, abafazi abancinci bajikeleza ngokulandelana kwindlu yaseFransi. Kwaye bafumana amanqaku ngobomi, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, ngokukodwa kwihitshi yokuhlambela. Ubhubhane bokuzibulala luye lwaqhubeka lude umntu eqikelele ukuthatha isikhokelo esilingayo eludongeni: ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ezinye iindlela zokufa kwamantombazana babonakala bengathandeki, kwaye kufuneka bathemba ukuba baphila baze bekhulile.
Ubungqina bomntu ukuxelisa lusetyenziswa ngabaqapheli beengqondo bamazinga ahlukeneyo. Ngoko ke, abaceli beengcali "ityuwa" zabo iifake kunye neentende zineendleko ezininzi, ekuthiwa sele ziphonswe ngabanye abantu, zisinxusa ukuba silandele umzekelo wazo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ezi zindlela zisetyenziselwa ukukhangisa, zibiza ukuthengwa kwemveliso ethembisayo okanye enye ivunyiwe ngabanye abathengi. Kwiimiboniso zikamabonwakude, zirekhoda ukuhleka kwesikrini, "zibonisa" apho sifuna ukuhleka khona. Abezopolitiko ngenxa yezizathu ezifanayo, nangona ubudala bezobuchwepheshe obutsha, basenokhetho lwama-rallies: isihlwele kulula ukufaka nayiphi na ingcamango kunomntu ngamnye.
Jikela i-180 degrees
Kodwa ngaba kufuneka sitshintshe? Ekupheleni, kungekhona wonke umntu onokuba yienkokheli? Kuya kufuneka sitshintshe. Ubomi bwanamhlanje bubangela imingeni emitsha kubantu, kubongoza ukuba bazive baze benze ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Okokuqala, ihlabathi lilandela indlela yedemokhrasi, ukuphuhliswa komntu njengomntu. Isizathu sesibini kukuguqulwa kwezesayensi kunye nezobuchwepheshe, kwaye ngexesha lokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza ulwazi kufuneka libe nako ukuhamba, ucinge ngokuzimela. Yaye yesithathu imeko yerhwebo. Namhlanje, iimarike zeempahla kunye neenkonzo zigqityiwe. Ngenxa yoko, kuphela ezo ezahlukileyo, ezizodwa okanye, njengoko zithini ngezoqoqosho, zongeze ixabiso, zikhuphisana. Abantu bokudala kuphela abakwazi ukudala le xabiso elongezelelweyo - ababaxelisi, kodwa abaqalisi, abaye bahamba phambili, bengakhokelwa. Akumangalisi ukuba ngoku eNtshona Yurophu naseMerika kwakukho uninzi lweencwadi, iinkqubo zokuqeqesha, umsebenzi owenziwa ukwenzela ukwandisa inani labantu abakhayo.
Ukwandisa inani lamanyathelo , abantu abazicingayo ngumbandela woqoqosho oluphuthumayo. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Mhlawumbi ikhono "lokugubha" okanye "ukuba nelungelo" kuthi lusemvelo? Omnye akufanele acinge ngolu hlobo, ubunkokheli bodwa ziimpawu ezingenasiphelo. Enyanisweni, kunye ne "proactivity gene" bonke abantu bazalwa. Ekugqibeleni, zonke izilwanyana ukuze ziququze iqanda kufuneka zikhuphule amawaka "ahlangane nabo." Emva koko uqala ukuhlaselwa kwengqondo kwi-proactivity ebonakalayo kuthi ngokwemvelo. Yintoni eyenzekayo? Le ngqamaniso yokuzimela, umsebenzi kunye noxanduva. Umntu osebenzayo ufuna ukufumana isifundo, kungekhona into enyathelo. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kugqitywe zizigqibo zakhe, kungekhona ngeemeko.
Ukuhlaselwa kokuqala kwengqondo kwenzeka kwi-kindergarten apho sihlala khona, sinyanzeliswa ukuba sidle kwishedyuli, sihlale phantsi kwiphubi ngexesha elinye kunye neqela lonke, njl. "Isiqwenga sokusebenza kwengqondo saseSwitzerland uJean Piaget, omnye wabasunguli bezezibalo zengqondo, wathi kwiminyaka, abantu bafumana iiprogram ze-80% zobomi, obunokuchaphazela isithuba sakhe. Kwaye kule minyaka, oko kukuthi, kwi-kindergarten, ukuba i-proactivity yethu idibene. Uqale isikolo siphelile. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bathululela ioli phezu komlilo, ngokuthelekisa abantwana babo "ngeenjongo zemfundo": "Kutheni bonke abantwana benabantwana, kwaye unento enjalo? "Xa abesifazana bebuza ukuba benze ntoni ukuze bangaziphinda iimpazamo zabazali babo ekukhulisweni kwabantwana, ndikucebisa ukuba ningalokothi nithi" Ungathini na! Kungcono ukwenza amabango akho kumntwana ngale ndlela ilandelayo: "Oku akufanele kwenzeke nge nkwenkwezi enjengewe!"
Nangona kunjalo, umntu akufanele atyala yonke into kwinkqubo yethu yemfundo kunye nabazali, amaxhoba okukhuliswa kwamaSoviet. Umlinganiselo we-95% wabalandeli kunye ne-5% yezikhokelo zigcinwa kumazwe amaninzi kwimbali yoluntu. Lo "myalelo" wawunyanzelekile ukuba kubekho urhulumente, owaziwayo, umatshini wokuxinzezelwa kunye nokunciphisa. Iimeko zaqala ukutshintsha nje nje. Enye into yokuba amazwe aseYurophu ahamba phambili e-Ukraine ngendlela yendemokhrasi yoluntu, imfundo yeempawu eziphambili neempawu zenkokheli kumntu. Ngendlela, ubunkokheli akufanele baqwalaselwe kuphela kumxholo wolawulo. Le ngcamango iquka ukukwazi komntu ukulawula isigqibo sakhe. Ngexesha elifanayo, unakho nawuphi na isikhundla. Indoda yokucoca, osebenza eofisini waza waya kwisigqibo sokuba ukuhlambulula i-rag endala kwindawo enqabileyo yinto engafaniyo, yaya kwivenkile yesikhwama esiphezulu kwaye yiswe kumlawuli wenkampani ingqwalasela yentlawulo-sele eyinkokeli kwindawo yayo.
Vuka, i-projectivity!
Emva kokuba uphendule umbuzo othile weklasi, "Ubani omele uxanduva? ", Kuyimfuneko ukuphendula omnye -" yintoni oyenzayo? ". Ukudala inkampani ephumelelayo kwezoqoqosho, inkokheli kufuneka isebenze ngeendlela ezimbini. Okokuqala, ukuhlakulela iimpawu zobunkokheli ngokwazo, kwaye okwesibini, kubasebenzi bayo ukuba bavuselele "imfuyo" efanayo ye-proactivity. (Ngendlela, uStephen Covey encwadini ethi "Izakhono ezi-7 zabantu abaPhezulu kakhulu" babiza ukusetyenziswa komnye wempawu eziyimfuneko zomntu ophumelelayo.). Lo akuwona msebenzi ongenangqiqo: iingqondo zeengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukuba iimeko ezintle zidalwa, emva kweminyaka engama-2 kuya kwe-3, umntu uyakwazi ukutshintsha ixabiso lakhe, kwaye ukusuka kwinqanaba labalandeli ukuya kwiikhokelo. Ndisoloko ndithi kwiikholeji zokuqeqeshwa ukuba inkokheli eyimema abantu abafanelekileyo ukuba basebenze kwinkampani yakhe ilungileyo, leyo ngezinye iindlela ingaba iphakame ngaphezu kwayo ngokweengcali, ukuqeqeshwa, njl njl. Kwaye unike abantu ukukhanya okuluhlaza, ukuze bakwazi ukubonisa ezi mpawu kwindawo yabo.
Kule ndlela iqhinga liphumelele, unokubonisa umzekelo weendlela ezimbini ezichasene nabaphathi. Ngako-ke, uMongameli we-39 waseMelika uJimmy Carter wasebenza iiyure ezingama-15 ukuya kwe-16, imibuzo eninzi ayithembeli ngamagosa akhe, wazama ukugqiba zonke izinto ngokwakhe. UMongameli we-40 - uRonald Reagan - wenza ngokuthe ngqo. Wasebenza ukususela kwiiyure ezili-10 ukuya kwezi-16, ukuxazulula kuphela iingxaki zesicwangciso esisisiseko, kwaye zonke izinto zanikwa iqela labaphathi bezemfundo abaphezulu kakhulu, ababuzwa ngokucokisekileyo kule mizuzu ezintandathu. Yayiyindlela yeReagan eyavumela iMelika ukuba iqhube phambili phambili kwezoqoqosho.
Kodwa apha umbuzo owodwa: njani unokuqiniseka ukuba aba basebenzi bokuqala "abahlali" inkokeli yena ngokwakhe, kwaye wabanika ukukhanya okuluhlaza? Inkokheli, "yayihleli phantsi", ityala. Ngenxa yoko, andizange ndibone iinjongo zabasebenzi kwaye ndabancedi ukuziphumeza ngexesha, azizange zenze imozulu ekhuthazayo. Emva koko, isininzi sisoloko sonakalisa ubudlelwane kunye nabaqalisi ngenxa yengqondo yethu ephantsi yengqondo.
Igama elithi "ingqondo engqondweni" kwiminyaka engama-90 yekhulu lokugqibela yaziswa nguMelika uDaniel Goleman. Ulwaphulo lwengqondo ngumandla omntu ukutolika iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo zabanye ukuze basebenzise ulwazi abaye bafumana ukuze baqonde zabo injongo. Emva kokufunda iikhampani ezili-500 kumazwe ahlukeneyo iminyaka eyi-15, wabonisa ukuba isimo sengqondo senkokeli, ukubunjwa kwe-microclimate efanelekileyo kwiqela lihambelana ngqo nomkhiqizo wabasebenzi kunye nokuba inkampani isebenzisa abantu abahlakaniphile abadala abangakwazi ukudala ixabiso elongezelelweyo, ekhankanywe ngasentla.
Ukunyathela kwiNkokheli
Indlela yokuphuhlisa izakhono zobunkokheli kuwe? Ukuze ube ngumqalisi, okokuqala kufuneka ugqibe emphefumlweni wakho. Kufuneka ufumane isizathu sokungakhuselekanga. Isinyathelo sokuqala kukuhlaziya amava angaphambili aholele kulo rhulumente. Oku kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu. Isinyathelo sesibini kukusekela injongo ephambili. (I-SMART isicatshulwa esakhiweyo ukusuka kwiibrari ezinkulu zamagama zesiNgesi: ezicacileyo, ezinokulinganiswa, ezifikelelekayo, ezithengiswayo, ezixesha elifanelekileyo .Ili gama lichaza enye yezindlela zokwenza iinjongo ezikhawulezayo). Ubhala phantsi kwiphepha yintoni ofuna ukuyifumana kunye nawaphi amagama. Ngenxa yoko, unjalo, njengokuba kunjalo, uzicwangcise ngokwakho ukufeza le njongo. Kwaye isinyathelo sesithathu kukuya ngaphaya komda wendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uxelele ukuba ulungele ubunzima.
Okumangalisa kukuba , ukuzicwangcisa ngokwakho ukufezekisa injongo yokusebenza. Kungenxa yokuba umntu uqala ukukhangela iindlela zokuwuphumeza. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, amatsha amatsha avela. Njengoko bathetha, bhinqa kwaye uya kuvulwa.
Kodwa ngokukhuliswa kobunkokheli, iimpawu zokuqala, ufuna kwakhona inkxaso yangaphandle, isimo sengqondo esihle sabakujikelezile. Umntu "i-arithmetic middle" yabantu abahlanu abasondeleyo. Ngoko, jonga ngokukhawuleza okukujikelezayo. " Ngendlela, ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo, kucetyiswa ukuba uhlale kude namalahleki kunye ne-whiners, ngaphandle koko baya kufuneka bafakwe "kwi-arithmetic yabo yesilinganiso. Nangona kunjalo, ukutshintsha indawo yakho, ukuthabatha abantu abaza kukuxhasa kwaye bakuchukumise, kwaye ungabhidli, umsebenzi awulula. Emva koko, asikhethi nje kuphela, kodwa nathi. Ngoko ke, ukuze ufumane abantu "abalungileyo", kuyimfuneko, okokuqala, ukutshintsha wena.
Kwaye i "brick" yokugqibela ekwakheni iimpawu zobunkokeli ngokwakho kukufunda ngokuchanekileyo, ukudibanisa ukulindela kwakho ngamabango. Ukubeka nje, ukuze ufezekise umgomo omkhulu, udinga ukuziqhayisa okungaphantsi, ukungafani, ukuhlawula. Ngaphandle koko, inkokheli enjalo iya kuba yingozi, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, iqala ukulimaza umntu. Akusiyo into abayithethayo yokuba bonke abantu abakhulu ngokwenene balula. Kwaye ukuba sinamathela kuzo zonke iingcebiso, ngoko ngamnye wethu uya kukwazi ukufikelela eziphakamileyo zethu.