Wonke umntu unayo "i-pluses" yakhe kunye ne "minuses". Musa ukuthelekisa abantwana bakho nakubani nawuphi na umntu, ngaphandle koko ubunzima obubekiweyo buya kuphazamisa nophuhliso lwabo. Kwimanyano yentsapho, ungalokothi uphawule iimpazamo, ngaphandle kolonwabo "kuya kuphuka" kwaye "ayihlanganiswa ndawonye". Soloko ufumana ulwimi olufanayo kwaye ungafihla izikhalazo omnye komnye. Ewe, izithambo azikho "insimbi", nantoni na eyenzekayo. Ukuba inomsindo utsho okuthile okuthukayo, akunandaba nomyeni wakhe okanye abantwana, qi niseka ukuba uxolise.
Enye imfihlo yemfihlo ephambili yentlalo-ntle iyona nto ibalulekileyo. Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Umtshato ovuyayo, intsapho imfuno yomntu womtshato ibaluleke kakhulu kunokuthetha nabangani, umthwalo womsebenzi, ukunxibelelana nezihlobo. Isibini esitshatileyo sikulungele ukunikela, ngenxa yentsapho, omnye nomnye, abantwana. Oko kukuthi, izinto eziphambili zibekwe: intsapho yinto ephambili, zonke izinto zisesibini. Oku kubalulekile ukwenzela ukuba abantu bangathathi izigqibo ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lomtshato, kwaye bafikelele kule ngxaki ngokucophelela, ngoko kuya kuba neentsapho ezonwabileyo. Uhlala uhlala phi nentsapho yakho yonke? Ngaba iintsapho zakho zineeholide ezincinane? Zenza kaninzi kangakanani into kunye? Ziziphi iimeko "ziba" ixesha lakho "losapho"? Ukuba intsapho ayikho ngamazwi kodwa empeleni kwindawo yokuqala, cinga ukuba uhamba ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Imfihlo ekhethekileyo yentlalo yentlalo kukukwazi ukuxazulula iingxaki njengoko ziphakanyiswayo, kwaye zingayifaki kwi-"bhokisi ende". Kwintsapho enjalo akukho ndawo yokuxabana kunye neentlanzi, yonke into ixazululwa ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuzithoba kunye nokuqonda. Amaqabane emtshatweni ovuyayo akavumelanga umtshato wokuqhawula umtshato, abaxhomekeke ngokufanelekileyo ngomnye nomnye, iimvakalelo zomnye nomnye. Ukunika isibhambathiso "ukuba kunye kunye novuyo nosizi," bafunga ngokuthembeka, ukuba umntu uyagula, okwesibini uya kuhlangula, kwaye ukuba umntu omnye uyavuya, ngoko ulungele ukwabelana nalo lonwabo ngesinye isiqingatha.
Intsingiselo yeBhayibhile ethi "inyama enye" ibonisa ukuqhubeka kobudlelwane. Yimanyano yendoda kunye nomfazi onentlalontle. Isibini esitshatileyo, njengeqela elinye, liza kunqoba naluphi na ubunzima. Isebenza ngokucacileyo kwaye kakuhle, ilandela enye inkambo. Ukuba kukho ukungavumelani, ngoko kukho ukunganyaniseki, kuba abantu bazibophelele ekusebenzisaneni ngokubambisana, kwisisombululo esisodwa seengxaki. Indoda nomfazi, ngaphambi kokuba benze isigqibo, qhagamshelana.
Iinjongo ezidibeneyo ziyimfihlo eyintloko yokonwaba kwentsapho. Badibanisa ngakumbi indoda kunye nomfazi. Ukufezekiswa okuhlangeneyo kweenjongo ezilungiselelwe kubangela ulwazi olungcono komnye nomnye, kukho ukuthembela okukhethekileyo, ukuthembela ekuthembekeni kwalo mntu.
Yazi ukuxolela iimpazamo! Ukunikezela omnye nomnye kuyimfihlo ebalulekileyo elubudlelwaneni. Akukho mntu "okhuselekile" kwiiphene. Fundisa abantwana ukuba banikezele omnye nomnye, kuba bengabambisani, kodwa abantu abemi bomthonyama. Yiba nengqiqo ekukhuliseni abantwana. Qaphela ukuba ungadlulanga yonke into. Bachaze iimbopheleleko ezingenziwa ngokuhambelana neminyaka. Dumisani abantwana bakho ngokuncedisa ngemisebenzi yasendlwini kwaye ngokukhawuleza niyibale ukuba kufuneka niyibhale. Abantwana baya kuphucula umthwalo wemfanelo, uxanduva, baya kuqalisa ukuqonda ukuba umsebenzi wabo ubalulekile kwintsapho, ukuba bangabancedisi abangenakuxhaswa kubazali babo.
Iimfihlelo zentlalo yoluntu zimbalwa kwaye zonke zifaka isandla kwizinto ezibalulekileyo-uthando phakathi kwintsapho yakho!