Abaninzi abasetyhini bakholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukulala ngesondo ngomhla wokuqala kukubonakalisa ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka. Kodwa ke le nxalenye yamantombazana ngamanye amaxesha kwintloko yam izalwe ngcamango yokuba oku kuya kwenzeka kwaye kuyathakazelisa indlela amadoda ahambelana ngayo ngesondo ngosuku lokuqala. Kule meko, wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe ngolu hlobo.
Isondo emva komhla wokuqala: iinjongo
Ngendlela indoda ezophatha ngayo isondo ngomhla wokuqala, njengomgaqo, inkqubo eqhubekayo yokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane incike. Nantsi kubalulekile ukugqamisa iintlobo ezimbini zamadoda ezihamba ngosuku, zilandele iinjongo zazo ezizodwa. Uhlobo lokuqala lunokuthi lusetyenziswe kulabo babameli bezesondo eziqinileyo, oomhla wokuqala ukusekwa ngokusondelana. Uhlobo lwesibini ngabantu abakholwanga ngesondo ngosuku lokuqala, kodwa ngaphambili banomdla kwintombazana ngokwabo kunye nokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane (ngokukulindela ukuguquka kwabo kwinto enzulu kakhulu). Kwimeko yokuqala, xa umntu ehamba ngosuku kuphela ngesondo, ithemba lokuba ubuhlobo bobudlelwane abufanelekanga, kuba loo madoda azimisele ukuhudula intombazana elele embhedeni, akunakwenzeka ukuba akwazi ukuwujonga njengento yeenqweno.
Nangona elele embhedeni intombazana iya kumphatha umntu kunye nobutyebi kunye nobuthaka, ngaphandle kweentlanganiso ezininzi ezinjalo, akayi kufumana nto kuye. Indoda yale nombolo inzima kakhulu ukuyigcina, ngoko kufuneka uhlale uyikhumbula ngoku. Kakade, ukuba umfazi unelisekile ngemithetho yalo mdlalo, ngoko yena kunye nawo onke amakhadi esesandleni, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ngoko uyaxolisa. Ukuba umntu ufuna isondo, udla ngokuthetha ngokuzwakalayo. Kodwa ukuxhoxela umlingane ngesini kunye noncedo lweengongoma zothando ngumthwalo wabantu abaselula okanye abaselula. Umntu omdala uya kuhlala ekwazi ukuba ufuna ntoni ngokwenene. Ngendlela, loo magama "ngesondo ngosuku lokuqala" kunye "ngesondo ngobunye ubusuku" kubo, ezi ngcamango zilinganayo.
Jonga
Akunabo bonke abantu abanoyikekayo kwaye banengqondo, abantu abaninzi bacinga. Kakade ke, nayiphi na indoda ayichasene nobudlelwane obusondeleyo ngosuku lokuqala. Kungenzeka ukuba oku kubangelwa ngumntu wesilwanyana, umnqobi, umqoqo. Abameleli besini esomeleleyo bafana nokuphumeza ngokukhawuleza iinjongo zabo kwaye, ngoko ke, baxhomekeke kwi-ego yabo, kodwa akukho. Ngokutsho kweengcali, indoda idinga ixesha lokuziqonda zonke iingxaki kunye nenqabileyo yowesifazane kwaye iqinisekise ukuba kuyithande kangakanani kuye. Ukuvuma ngesondo ngosuku lokuqala, umfazi unokuphazamisa umdla womntu wonke umnqweno wokuwunqoba kwixesha elizayo. Kwaye makhe sizame ukushwankathela ukuphendulwa kweentlobo ezahlukeneyo zomntu kumntu oqhagamshelana naye ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza. Konke oku kusemgangathweni siya kubahlula ngamaqela amaninzi.
Iqela lokuqala: ngokusekelwe kuphando lwamadoda, yinto eninzi kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuyangalisa kangakanani, amadoda amaninzi ayasabela kakubi kubasetyhini abagqibayo ukulala ngesondo emva komhla wokuqala.
Iqela lesibini: oku kubandakanya amadoda angaboni nawuphi na "ulwaphulaphulo" kulo. Le ngcamango ibonisa ukuba amadoda, ngokusemthethweni, azikholose kwaye aziphumelele. La madoda agqithisa ukuba ixesha liqhubeka, ukunyanzeliswa koluntu kutshintsho, njl. Yiyo ke, ukuthozama kuyasasazwa, kodwa ukunyanzeliswa kobuchule, ngokombono wabantu, akukhona nje "ukugxotha intlawulo."
Iqela lesithathu: akukhathazi kakhulu amadoda, bangaphi abafazi. Cinga ngalo, khawucinge nge mpazamo uze ubonise ukuzisola - iyamgxotha loo mntu, imphoqa ukuba athathe izigqibo ezimbi. Amadoda athande ukunyaniseka, ngoko baphatha ngokuqonda, xa uthetha ngokuthe ngqo nabo malunga nokwesaba.
Iqela lesine: ngokumalunga namadoda, ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwintombazana emva kokulalana ngesondo ngokukhawuleza xa kunokuziphatha okungalunganga (ukuguquka, ukuqonda). Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu uthandekile "ukuqoqa intombi zakhe ngesondo," uya kushiya, kodwa kungekhona kuye, kodwa uya kubalekela yena, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, musa ukumkhathaza.
Ezi mpendulo zamadoda ukuba zithandane kakhulu emva kokuba intlanganiso yokuqala ihlangane ngokubanzi nakwiindawo zanamhlanje.