Abaphengululi kwiYunivesithi yasePisa, abase-Italy, bafumanisa ukuba kutheni inzondelelo phakathi kwamalingani ikhula ngokukhawuleza. Konke malunga ne-hormone-neutrophils. Ekuqaleni kweveli, izinga labo legazi liphezulu kakhulu, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha linciphisa. Yaye umnqweno uyaqhubeka nokuhla. Nangona kunjalo, izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba ukunciphisa ubunzulu bezenzo akuthethi ukuba ixesha elifanelekileyo ebomini le sibini sele lisekho. Ulwalamano luya kumgangatho ohlukileyo, lube luthemba ngakumbi.
Uyazi ukuba emzimbeni wakho kukho "iingcambu" zamagqabantshintshi, umnqweno onokubangela isithwiba semvakalelo. Yiyo nje indlela yokuyifumana? Indoda ethandekayo sele isifunde indlela yokukholisa ngayo. Unamasu amaninzi okuphumelela ahlala ekhokelela kwisiphumo. Kodwa nantsi into engafanelekanga - rhoqo xa elandela indlela efanayo: qalela kuqala kwaye ubange, uze udibanise isifuba nesisu. Iyakwazi ukuqondwa, kuba ezi ziindawo eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo. Iqhawe lakho sele lifumene indlela esheshayo yokukukholisa kwaye uyamoyike iimvavanyo. Kodwa ufuna ukwazi into entsha malunga nemimandla yakho! Indlela yokuvuselela iqabane ekukhangela indawo ezifihlakeleyo?
Imimandla yendawo engafanelekanga ngezinye iindlela ifana neziqhumane. Kukho abakhutheleyo kwaye "bafunyenwe kwisiqingatha sokujika", kukho "ukulala" kunye "nokulala". Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho imephu eqingqiweyo yeendawo eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo kumzimba womntu kunye nomfazi. Kodwa i-sexologist iqinisekile: yonke into iyodwa. Akunakuze uphelelwe ukuba le nto okanye loo thintelo iqhuba ude ude ude uchukumise wakho othandekayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo nangendlela efanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu akakwazi ukufumana imimandla ephosakeleyo ngenxa yokuba eendawo ezingekho phantsi. Ngokomzekelo, ingaba ngamadolo, amaqaqa okanye isikhumba emva phakathi kwamagxa ehlombe (oko kuthiwa "indawo yekati"). Ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelo olumnandi lunokubangela ukuba kungabonakali ngokubetha kancinci, kodwa, ngokuchasene noko, ukuchukumisa okanye ukugubungela. Ngendlela, xa umthandi wakho ongenalwazi engakunxunguli emlonyeni okanye ekukrazeni ngokukratshi kwi-curl, ngokuzenzekelayo uzama ukuvusa imimandla ephosakeleyo. Mcele ukuba akwenze kwigumbi lokulala, kwaye kungekhona xa uhamba naye waya ekhitshini kwipani yokutshiza.
Ukukholisa umngane wakho ukuba afune indawo emilingo nje, kuba bonke abantu benziwa ngabaphandi bemvelo. Kwanele nje ukuthi: "Ukudanisa, awuboni oko ndiyakwenza ngokwenene." Masifunde, kwaye ndiya kukulungisa ubusuku obushushu! " Gcinani engqondweni: iindawo zokuzonwabisa ziguqula ubuchule babo ngaphantsi kwefuthe lotywala. Akunakuvuka xa ukhathele okanye ucinge ngenye into. Ukuze uvule imephu yemimandla yakho engafanelekanga, kufuneka uzive uthanda. Vumela ekukhangekeni kwamaphuzu "X" indoda yakho inamathela kwimigaqo emithathu:
- Qala ukuthanda uthando kufuneka kube lula.
- Ngexesha le-caress kufuneka uhlolisise zombini indawo ezivivinywa kunye nezingaqhelekanga emzimbeni.
- Musa ukukhawuleza kwisiphumo.
Zonke ezichaphazelayo maziqale zikhanyise kwaye zicoceke. Makhe akuphephe njengekati enkulu. Kwaye xa usabela kula maqhosha okokuqala, unokuzama into engakumbi. Vumela umthandayo ukuba adlule ngendlela eqhelekileyo ye-caresses yokuqala-kodwa ngeendlela ezithandekayo kwiindawo ezikuzo. Uyakubanga ehlombe, ukuze ugobe uze ufake umgqomo okhohlisa phantsi komlomo wakho. Ngubani owaziyo, ngokukhawuleza kuya kusebenza? I-Orgasm ipholile kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba uyavuma ukuba unganyangeki, uya kufumanisa ukuba i-caresses enekhono ikhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezimnandi. Musa ukugxininisa kunye kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Mhlawumbi ufumane ubunzima obuhle kakhulu ebomini bakho, awuzange ube nokumanga nje kwindlebe yakho ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Uyakwazi ukufunda omnye nomnye njengoko uthanda. Musa ukuzikhawulela ngexesha. Bobabini bazama ukubonisa ingcamango. Indlela yokudala iya kunceda ukwenza ubomi obusondeleyo buze bugcwele. Ngoko, umzekelo, ukukhangela imimandla ephosakeleyo ingaba ngumdlalo othakazelisayo wothando. Okokuqala, zama ukusebenzisa amasu alandelayo ekukhangela imimandla ephosakeleyo:
- Uphinda onke amanqaku kunye nokunyakaza komlingane wakho. Okokuthi, umthandayo ufumana kuwe into efanayo enokukunika yona. Lo ngumdlalo onomdla ngokungaqhelekanga, kuba ngale ndlela umhlobo wakho akagcini nje kukunika ubumnandi, kodwa kwaye unika ngokuzikhethela zonke iimfihlelo ezigqithisileyo zomzimba wakho.
- Vumelana ngethuba lokubambisana kuphela ngomlomo wakho, kodwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: ngobumnene, ngokuqinile, ngokubetha. Ngomso olandelayo, tshintsha imigaqo: ngoku ke kuphela izandla ezithintekayo-kwaye akukho mabanga. Ngexesha lesithathu unelungelo lokukhathazana nantoni na, kodwa kungekhona iminwe yakho. Ngaba ucinga ukuba oku akunakwenzeka? Kodwa khawucinge ngendlela enomdla ngayo isifuba sakho kwisisu sakho. Iimidlalo ezinjalo zikunceda nje ukuba zivule kwicala elingalindelekanga, kodwa zivuse kwakhona iindawo ezilalayo.
Okumangalisayo kukuba, unokufumanisa malunga nemimandla yakho exhaphakileyo ephuphayo. Ngeli xesha, i-subconscious iphakamisa isisombululo seengxaki kwiingqondo ngendlela yemaphupha, ngokukhethekileyo-isifo. Ngendlela, malunga ne-90% yamadoda kunye nama-70% wabasetyhini bajonga amaphupha aphilileyo. Kodwa ngokungafani nabameli beesondo eziqinileyo zesini kubanika ukubaluleka okukhulu. Musa nje ukuqonda umfanekiso obonwayo ngqo. Ngoko, umzekelo, indawo yesini kunye nomfokazi ayengakathethi ngokunyaniseka kwakho. Kungenzeka ukuba uziva unelisekile ngokufihlakeleyo kunye nomlingane wakho - ephupheni ingqondo engummangalelwa uyayifakela umviwa ofanelekileyo. Ubusuku obuqhwithelayo obuthandana nomntu owayesithandana naye ngaphambili uthi uzama ukuthelekisa ubudlelwane obudala kunye neveli yakho entsha.
Njengoko uyakubona, ukukhangela iindawo eziqhelekileyo kwaye ezingekho mpela zikwazi ukujika kumdlalo othakazelisayo wothando. Yiyo intlukwano esivame ukuyilahleka kwilala kunye nomlingane.