Ukukhuliswa komntwana kuncike kakhulu kubazali bakhe. Ngoko ke, ukukhuthazwa kokuphuhlisa ingqondo yengane kunokuba umntwana uya kuziva ukuba uyathandwa kwintsapho kwaye ufuna. Abazali akufanele bazame ukwenza umntwana aphumelele emntwaneni wabo, kufuneka kuqala kuqala ukuba banakekele ukuba umntwana wabo uphilile, ukhule kakhulu kwaye uqikelele. Ukukhulisa umntwana akulula umsebenzi. Indlela yokukhulisa umntwana onzima? Emva koko, ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke abazali baphupha ukuba abantwana babo babenomdla, banobuhlakani, banobubele kunye nabanobubele. Ukuze ufezekise le njongo, kufuneka unike umntanakho umzekelo omhle, mbuyisele kumhlobo wakhe, umhlobo, utitshala.
Ubani ukubunjwa komntu wengane kuxhomekeke kuye?
Ukukhulisa umntwana onzima akulula. Ngokwenzululwazi ezininzi, umntwana uphelelwe ngakumbi ngabaontanga bakhe. Kuphantsi kweempembelelo zabo ukuba ubunjani bomntwana. Kodwa konke okufanayo, ukuphendula kubantwana kunye nobutyebi kwabekwa kubuntwaneni ngabazali. Kubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana ukuba baziva uxolo kwintsapho ukuze babe nokholo lokwenene kubazali babo, ukuqonda. Kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana bakho ukuthintela, okokuqala kuqala kubantu bonke abakhulileyo. Imfundo efanelekileyo iyimfuneko kumntwana wakho. Abantwana abaye bafumana imfundo enjalo banokulungiswa ukuba basebenze kwiqela, banako ukubonisa ububele kwabanye abantu, kunye nokuqwalaselwa. Umzali omhle akuwona umsebenzi olula. Ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana nayo, kufuneka ulandele iklasi ekhethiweyo kunye nekhethiweyo. Zininzi iincwadi kwiingqondo zezingane.
Indlela yokukhulisa umntwana?
Bonisa uthando kumntwana wakho rhoqo, nangethuba. Musa ukuyifaka. Emva koko, abantwana baninzi banakekele ingqalelo kunye nokunakekelwa, ngcono ukukhula kwabo nokuphuhlisa. Ingakumbi abantwana banomdla wokunyamekela kunye nokunyamekela, baya kuba neempilweni, kokubili kwengqondo kunye neengqondo. Xa ubonisa uthando kubantwana bakho, unceda kwaye uncedise ekuphuhlisweni kwabo. Zama ukumnika ingqalelo kangako, udlale nayo, hamba, funda iincwadi. Akunanto yinto abayithethayo ukuba yonke into eyenziwa ngumntwana iba ngamava akhe. Ngomntwana wakho, udumo lwakho kunye nokukhuthazwa kubaluleke kakhulu. Abantwana babaluleke kakhulu uthando lwabazali, ukwenzela ukuphuhlisa kakuhle, nangomso wokuba ngumntu onoxanduva, oqolileyo.
Umhlobo kunye nomnxibelelwano
Ukuba ufuna, loo nto phakathi kwakho nomntwana kwakukho isinamathiselo, yichitha kunye nayo ixesha elinokwenzeka. Emva koko, ngabazali bakhe kuphela abanokuvelisa umntwana omncinci. Abantwana banezakhono ezinkulu. Ngako oko, abazali kufuneka baqhagamshelane nabantwana babo, nakumathuba, nasekhaya, nasezitratweni, nakwezinye iindawo. Emva koko, ngokwezenzululwazi, kubantwana, ixesha elichithwe nabazali libaluleke ngakumbi kunexesha achithayo kwimidlalo nasekuzonwabisa. Ngabantwana, unokuhlala uhlala kuyo yonke indawo, nangona wenza izinto zansuku zonke. Umzekelo, unokuthatha umntwana wakho ukuhamba epakini, kwaye ngexesha lokuthetha naye, buza malunga nento ethile, okanye uthetha nje. Unokudlala nabantwana, ngenxa yokuphuhlisa kwabo, imidlalo emelekileyo ibaluleke kakhulu, bayakha izakhono zokunxibelelana, bakhulise ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nengqondo.
Musa ukwenza nayiphi na indlela umntwana lolawulo lwaloo suku, ungapendeli izifundo zakhe kwaye ungazikhokeli ubomi babo. Emva koko, abazali abaninzi benza oko kanye. Bacinga ukuba abantwana babo banalo naziphi na izixhobo zokudala kunye neetalente kwaye bazinyanzele ukuba bathathe le shishini.
Nika umntwana wakho ithuba lokukhetha indlela yakhe. Yena ngokwakhe uya kuthatha ngokuthe ngqo oko kukuthandayo. Kodwa musa ukumvumela ngokupheleleyo, jonga oko akwenzayo, apho kwaye udlala ngayo, nokuba uyamlimaza.
Ixesha linye yezona zinto eziphambili ekukhuliseni umntwana. Abazali abaninzi banikela ixesha labo lokufunda iincwadi kubantwana babo. Ngokwenza oku kunika umntwana ithuba lokuba aqonde kwaye atshele okulungileyo nokubi. Xa ufunda iincwadi, zinyameke kakhulu, ungabakhathaleli. Ukufunda, khetha oko umntwana aya kuphulaphula ngokunyamekileyo. Iincwadi zokufunda kumntwana wakho kufuneka zisoloko zihlala ngexesha elifanayo ukunika umntwana ukuba alinde eli thuba ngomonde. Yilungisa umntwana, kodwa yenza ngokunyameka nangokucokisekileyo ukuze kuzuze.
Isiyalo esingabalulekanga kangako ukukhuliswa komntwana. Wonke umntwana unomdla ukwazi apho imida yayo ikhona.
Ngaba ulungisa umntwana wakho?
Xa uhlwaya umntwana wakho, kufuneka uvumele umntwana ukuba azi ukuba uyamjezisa. Kwinkqubo yokulungisa umntwana, ungenzi ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo, makabe uzikhathalele kwaye uyamthanda.
Funda ukufundisa kakuhle abantwana bakho. Ngoxa ufunda iincwadi kubantwana, yongeza ngezinye izinto. Iyakwazi ukudweba, izifundo zemculo, ukuya kwintsapho yonke kwi-zoo okanye kwisekisi. Ngale ndlela uza kufundisa umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha kunye nemilinganiselo enhle kakhulu. Umntwana kufuneka akhuliswe kakuhle, kuba oku kuyimfuneko ukuyiqonda nokumhlonela njengomntu.