1. Bathi isibuko sithatha amandla. Masenze okuchaseneyo. Njalo ekuseni, qiniseka ukuba ubukeka kwisibuko, sizibeke ngokuhlelekile, sityumze uze uzame ukukhumbula loo mvakalelo ebonakala ebusweni. Smile phambi kokulala kwaye uncumo kuyo yonke ithuba. Konke oku kuya kunceda ukugcina ingqondo yokuzithemba.
2. Asicingi ngeziphene eziphathekayo. Wonke umntu unesicatshulwa sakhe. Abantu abapheleleyo baphupha ukuba bekhuni, i-skinny ifuna ukuba yande. Ukuba izalathisi zakho azilimazi impilo yakho, ziphose zonke iingcinga ephuma entloko yakho.
3. Zama ukugxeka abantu. Ngenxa yokuba, ukugxeka abanye abantu, sicinga ukuba njengoko abantu besigxeka, kwaye nangalo mvelaphi, ukuzithemba kuya kuphela.
4. Ukuthetha esidlangalaleni, kubonakala ukuba uqala ukuphazamiseka, kwaye abantu bayakuqwalasela konke oku. Kodwa uninzi lwabantu bonke abaza kukuphulaphula, baya kungena kwiinkcukacha zengxelo yakho. Yaye iqela lakho elibomvu liya kuthetha ngombala omhle wesikhumba sakho. Akuyimfuneko ukufihla, ukuba ukusabela okunjalo kuyamnandi kubameli abaninzi besini esahlukileyo. Abantu baxhamla, abaneengxaki ngentetho, abantu abagqoke izibuko njalonjalo.
5. Ngaphambi kweyiphi na isiganeko esibalulekileyo, funda "umlingane onomdla", ukuba unokwabelana nomntu, inyaniso yokuba unenkxalabo, ngoko unokuqiniseka ukuba awuwedwa. Kwaye mhlawumbi, malunga nemvelaphi yabanye uya kuziva unethemba.
6. Musa ukusebenzisa utywala ukuze ukhulule. Xa unesimo sobungqina, uya kufumana ithuba lokuba uzuze isihawu kuwe, kanti utywala uyanciphisa umkhiqizo wezobuchopho, kunciphise ukugxeka, okukhokelela kwiziphumo ezingafunekiyo. Kwaye ukuzithemba okunjalo kunokuzivumelanisa.
7. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuthozama ngokweqile kukukhulu kunye neemeko ezahlukeneyo kunokuphulaphula ukuphuma komlomo okungapheliyo. Abantu bathanda ukuphulaphulwa, kwaye uphulaphule abantu. Xa ubalaphula, uzibeka wena. Kodwa ungavumeli ukuthula okuhlazo.
8. Zama ukuba uvule ngakumbi. Musa ukuzenza ngathi ungubani. Musa ukufihla, ukuba awukwazi into ethile. Emva kwakho konke, awukwazi ukwazi yonke into, khumbuza umnxibelelwano ukuba ungumntu ofanayo, kwaye ke uya kuba nemathuba amaninzi kwintetho evulekile, eqinileyo.
9. Musa ukusebenzisa iindlela ezinobundlobongela. Abanye, bezama ukunqoba ihlazo, baye kwilizwe elinobundlobongela baze baziphathe ngokungcolileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha okunjalo akuyi kubakho kwiziphumo ezintle. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu uya kuzibonakalisa, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukusuka kwicala elibi. Ukuba aba bantu baphenduka kuwe, zikhuphe, ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka kwifomu efanelekileyo. Mhlawumbi akukho mntu uya kukuxelela uncomo, kodwa kwimemori yakho baya kuhoxisa ukuzalisa nokukhupha. Abantu abanqwenela ukukhawuleza.
10. Into eyona nto iyakwenzeka xa uzibeka ekukhanyeni okubi xa ukungaphumeleli kokulindela kwakho kwenzeka. Kule meko kungcono ukuba ungadluli ngaphaya kwemida yokuziphatha. Kwaye kukho iingenelo ezithile kule nto. Abadlali ngeminyaka bafunda ukuzithobela abaphulaphuli, kodwa kungekhona wonke umntu okwazi ukukwenza. Unokufunda indlela yokulawula amandla amakhulu kwaye uqondise le mibutho ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Abanye abantu banikela ngcamango "yobuthakathaka emadolweni", "ukuzibetha", "ukufa", "ukuguqa phantsi komthwalo wemfanelo." Yaye imizimba yabo ihambelana ngokupheleleyo nale mpawu, kwaye ibonakalisa iindlela zabo zobuqu kunye nesimo sengqondo ngasinye. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuhlukunyezwa okungokwemvelo kwemva okanye ukusabalalisa kuvela kubazali bethu, sizuza ilifa ngale ndlela singavumelani nxamnye nathi kunye nehlabathi. Ukuze sibe nembonakalo yendalo kunye nenkululeko ekuhambeni, siya kwenza izinto ezilula.
Amanyathelo okukhululwa
Masibuyele ubuzwe emzimbeni wakho. Silala phantsi kwaye sivakalelwa indawo engqamlekileyo kunye nenye yeengxenye zayo zomzimba. Masibhale ingqalelo kwiindawo esizive sizive. Masizame "ukuphefumula" ezi ngongoma, zizalise ngamandla. Siza kuzivavanya ukuba sinokukhululeka kangakanani. Masithathe indawo ye "nkwenkwezi". Kwabaninzi abantu kunzima ukushiya indawo yokuhluma ivulekile okokuqala. Ngokuzikhethela uzive u "nkwenkwezi", unokugqiba ukuba uvumeleke kangakanani ukuba ukhululeke.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukunyakaza kwethu kuholwa yimikhosi. Khumbula indlela esivame ukuhamba ngayo xa sithengela okanye sisebenza. Sicima konke okungeyomfuneko ukulandelelana neengcinga, masithethe ngelizwi. Masithi ngexesha lokupheka, sichaza izenzo zethu: "Isandla sam sokunene sithe senyuka phezulu, ndiqala ukuhamba emva kwesandla sam, ndimi kwi-tiptoe ndivule ikhabhobho njalonjalo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda into eyenzekayo emzimbeni okwangoku, ukuzama ukuziva yonke intshukumo, ukubamba konke okungeyomfuneko kwaye ngaloo ndlela ukuphazamisa ukulandelelana kwezinto ezinobungqina.
Umzimba ubizwa ngokuba yi "Jazz body." Masizame ukushukuma nokugubha intloko yakho. Emva koko siquka kumdaniso we-pelvis, amadolo, umzimba, izandla, iziphambili, izibonda, amahlombe, iinyawo, de kube umzimba wonke uqale ukuhamba. Sihamba ngokukhululekile, njengoko sifuna, kwaye sisebenzisa indawo enkulu. Kubalulekile ukuba umzimba wonke uthathe inxaxheba kumdaniso ngokulinganayo kunye ngokuvisisanayo. Uhlobo oluthile oluthile lokuhamba luvumela ukuba kwandiswe indawo ephilayo, kuphuculwe uvakalelo, ukhululeke ekuqineni.
Ukuze sizuze ukuzithemba nokuqonda ngamakhono ethu, sidansa kwisangqa sendawo yethu. Isangqa esisijikelezile siya kutsalwa kuso, okanye sisichaza ngokubumba, sihamba kuyo, ezintathu zibandakanya ukuhamba kunye nomhlaba, umyinge ophakathi-umgangatho womzimba, kunye nomgangatho ophezulu-isikhala ngaphezu kwesithsaba. Ukusebenza okunjalo kunceda ukugcina imida yesithuba somntu, kunye naluphina unxibelelwano.
Xa kukho umzuzu wokuqina kwangaphakathi, xa imilenze kunye neengalo zibonakala zingangangqali, siya kwenza ukuphuphuma okucothayo, okunzulu. Emva koko umphefumlo omfutshane uphinde uphumelele. Indlela enjalo yokuphefumula inganciphisa uxinzelelo. Ngobusuku, xa sithatha iingubo zethu ngaphambi kokulala, siya kucinga indlela esishiye ngayo ukuxhatshazwa kwimihla edluleyo naye. Ukulala embhedeni, siya kwenza ukuphefumula ezimbalwa kunye nokuphefumula, ekuphumeni komzimba siza kucinga ukuba siphumelele ukuxhatshazwa okwenziwe ngexesha loxinzelelo, kwaye xa siphefumula, sicinga ukuba siphefumula ngamandla. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba silale, siza kucinga ngezinto ezintle.
Ukwenza ezi zivivinyo ezilula, unako ukuyeka ukuxhamla kunye nokunciphisa intloni. Into ephambili yithemba ngakumbi kwaye uya kuphumelela.