"Umntwana wokuqala uyidonsi yokugqibela" - yintoni umama nogogo ababesethetha ngayo. Kodwa le ngcamango yenziwa kuphela ngabantu abazange baphelele zonke iintlungu zesigwebo emva kokuzalwa kwamazibulo. Labo abanakho konke banikezelwa lula kwaye bamane abangazange baphumelele iimvavanyo zabo ngezigulana zabo, ukuhlushwa nokuhlushwa. Xa ungeke ulale, kwaye xa uvuka, unethemba lokuba kwakuyiphupha elibi kakhulu.
Kuye konke kwenzeka ngoko: umntwana omdala omlindeleyo ophuphayo bonke-ugogo-makhulu, oomakhulu, kunye nogogo-makhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo, thina kunye nomyeni. Ndodana, iphupha likayise, phezu kwayo "yazamazama", wayeseyilungisa kwaye wayithandayo, ngokukhawuleza ngosuku lweshumi elinesibini lobomi bakhe waqala ukwenza iindwangu ezivakalayo, ngokungekho mntu wayenokuva ngaphandle kwam. Kodwa ngubani, njengokungathi wayengunina, uyazi zonke iiseli emzimbeni wendalo yakhe, zonke zibubulayo kwaye zikhala, zingathandi kwaye zingenakulinganiswa nantoni na kwili hlabathi elikhulu. Uze ahlasele ngendlela ekhethekileyo, kungekuyo yonke into, enomnandi kakhulu kwaye enobubele. Ekuqaleni ndathatha isimo sengqondo esibi kakhulu ekuzalweni komntwana, ngenxa yam wayengelona "idodoli".
Sabiza udokotela wezingane ekhaya. Indoda yafika, ngokugqithisileyo-i-cattley, kwi-gown-gowny-dress-gown. Ukunyaniseka, xa ndidibene naye kwisitrato, ndicinga ukuba le yiplumberhi, umdwebi wecala, nabani na, kodwa kungekhona ugqirha labantwana. Wayekhupha i-phonendoscope, wakuphulaphula umphunga wam unyana wam, waphawula ngokukhawuleza kwaye .... Kwaye kunjalo. Kunoko konke: waqala ukucaphukisa ukuba ndandiphazamisekile, ukuba ndingumama ongaqhelekanga, ndiloyiko yonke into enhle kumntwana, oko kwenzeka nje emva kokuzalwa, xa umgqirha wezilwanyana aphefumula kakuhle i-amniotic fluid. Yonke into iya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza - ngoko yaqinisekisa.
Iiveki ezimbini zadlula. Kodwa, enye inokuthi, inkulu KUNYE, njengokuba yonke imihla i-wheyzing yomelela kwaye ihluke ngakumbi. Ngoku bavakala yindoda kunye nabazali bethu. Kuthetha ukuba andizange ndiphawule ngenye i-alamu. Siyaphinda sibize lo mqeqeshi ophezulu kakhulu (nguwe ngogqirha). Xa siphendula, siva ukukhubeka ngakumbi kunye "into iya kudlula."
Ngomso wam umntwana waba nzima ukuphefumula. Ukunyamezela kwethu kwaphela, umyeni wam wathatha ixesha emsebenzini kwaye samthabatha unyana wethu esibhedlele. Ngokwemvelo, asizange siye kudokotela wethu wasekhaya, kodwa ngokukhawuleza "waphula" eofisini entloko. Musa ukucinga, asiyibazali abahlekisayo, kwaye siyawaxabisa kwaye siyayihlonipha umsebenzi woogqirha, ininzi yabo iyimimangaliso, abantu abazincama kunye nabanyamekelayo. Kanye kwindlela eya kwi-polyclinic, kwenzeka into yokuba sasingakwazi ukucinga. Endaweni ethile phakathi, intliziyo yam endiyithandayo kwihlabathi, isithunywa sam saqala ukutshatyalaliswa, saphendulela i-blue. Ndememeza, umyeni wam akazange asiyeke isondo, kodwa wayeselungele ukuyeka nokuyeka imoto. Saphuma esitrato, saqala ukwenza ukuphefumla, siphendule (njengokuba umcebisi wandixelela ukuba, ngokukhawuleza umntwana uyangena ngobisi). Kwakuyinyanga ngenyanga kaMeyi, kodwa kwakusoloko kupholile, besesaba ukubamba ubanda. Andiyazi into encedayo, kodwa unyana wethu wayephefumula kwakhona. Kungenxa yoko, xa sifika kwiklinikhi, thina, ngaphandle kokugxotha, sagijimela ngqo kwiofisi ukuya kwinhloko yesebe lezonyango.
Sadibana nomfazi othakazelisayo malunga no-45, kwaye nje ngokujonga umntwana kwaye ekuphulaphule, wagqiba ekubeni ukufunwa kwezibhedlele kuyadingeka ngokukhawuleza. Kwavela, inxalenye, ugqirha owasihlolisisa kabini ekhaya, wayeselungile, uqobo lwama-amniotic fluid lwaluqhutywe ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ngenye indlela, kuyo yonke into - kwakukho iphoso lezonyango. Njengoko oogqirha bebhedlele bachazela kamva, kungenxa yamanzi ukuba nayiphi na intsholongwane yentsholongwane ingakwazi ukuhlala kwaye ikhule ngokukhawuleza.
Sakhawuleza kubhaliswa kwigumbi lokuxakeka, kwimeko engxamisekileyo. Ndimiselwe i-antibiotics, unyana wam uneminyaka engama-1 ubudala ngeli xesha (kule minyaka, ezi ziyobisi zingonakalisa kakhulu i-microestyle yamathumbu). Kodwa emva kokuba sichitha iiyure ezimbini zokugqibela, kwakuseluncinane. Ndathuthuzela, kuba kukho iingcali ezikufutshane nam, unyango lwalusigcwele. Kwakunesiqingatha semini, kodwa kwakubonakala kum ukuba unyana wayesilungisa.
Ngokuhlwa ndiya kufika kwisondlo esilandelayo, kwaye uyalala kwakhona yonke imisonto eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka aze ahluthe, ngethuba lokuqala, njengoko kuvela, kukhululekile. Kwisebe eliqhelekileyo labongikazi kakhulu kakhulu - abazange bajonge, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha baphuma. Kwaye, ukuba isondlo seyure emva koko? Kuze kube ngoku, njengokuba ndiyakhumbula, iinyembezi ziyaqhekeza phantsi kwaye zithwala. Ngokubanzi, kusasa kusasa ndaziswa malunga nokutshintshwa kwethu kwiyunithi yokunyamekela. Ndavuka ndahlala phantsi khona. Ingcinga yokuqala yayikuthi igazi lam libi kakhulu. Andizange ndimbone ubusuku bonke, andazi ukuba uyintoni na okanye yintoni ephosakeleyo naye. Kodwa ugqirha waqinisekisa, esithi baye bathunyelwa kuphela ngenxa yokuba kwinqanaba lokunyamekela kakhulu umntwana ngamnye unamathele kumsebenzi wezempilo kunye nokunyamekela, ngokulandelanayo, kuya kuba sezingeni eliphakamileyo kunewadi eqhelekileyo.
Ukususela ngaloo mini, iintsuku ezide kakhulu kwaye zinzima kakhulu. Ndibhalela ngoku, kwaye ndiyakhala. Wahlala apho yedwa, ngaphandle kwam! Kanye kuphela ngemini savunyelwa ukutyelela ilanga lethu. Emphefumlweni ulungelelanise ukungabi nalutho, ilanga likhanya - kwaye ndicinga ukuba yonke into imvifu, akukho nto yokutya, ayikho nto yokutya, andizange ndive. Ekhaya ndiya kumkela amahobe akhe, zivumba lonwabo, kodwa uvuyo lwam alukho kum ngoku. Andizange ndiphinde ndiyivuselele ukukhumbula iphunga lokuzalwa kwam kuqala. Ukuba kwakungenayo inkxaso kumyeni wam nabazali bethu - andiyazi, ndiyayimisa, nangona ndicinga ukuba ndomelele kakhulu kwaye ndingaxinwa ngaphambili. Mhlawumbi, nayiphi na umntu unokuphulwa, ethatha kuye into ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini.
Ngenye yezo sasazo, ndaliva ibali malunga nomntwana ogula kakhulu, emva kokuba ebhaptizwe, wahlaziya. Ngomso, mna, umyeni wam kunye namama wethu, inkxaso yethu enkulu nenkxaso ebomini, evumelwane nogqirha, wazisa umbingeleli kunye ...
Khawulibalekile ukuba kufuneka uwathathe oothixo. Ndakucebisa ukuba sibe ngu-godfather kunye nomyeni wam, kodwa kwathiwa icawa ayivumeli oku. Kodwa omnye wabagogo bafanelekile kakhulu indima kaThikazi. Ngokunyanisekileyo, abazange bacinge: indlela oogogo abaza kuvuma ngayo, kuba bobabini babesondeza umzukulu. Banobuqili, kwaye bathetha yonke into ngokwabo. Ngenxa yoko, mna kunye nomfana wam sinomama "," waza wazala waza waza wabhaptizwa.
Yikholwa okanye cha, kodwa emva koko isimo se-lapunchik sethu siphucule kwaye siphucule imihla ngemihla. Kwaye emva kweveki ezintathu sakhutshwa. Urrra!
Ngomnyaka wakhe wokuqala wobomi, wayehlala ebuhlungu, kodwa sonke sasinqoba kwaye samphakamisa umntwana kwiinyawo zakhe. Emva konyaka o-1 neenyanga ezi-8, isithunywa sesibini savela kwintsapho yethu. Sazala iphupha kubawo-unyana wam, ekugqibeleni ndaphupha iphupha lam - intombi yam! Emva kwamava, saphendule kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala zobomi bakhe ngengozi yomshukela. Akukho mntu unokuza kusityelela okokuqala ngqa, ukwenzela ukuba angasifaki isifo. Ugogo kunye nootata bafumana iingubo ezimhlophe ezingenasifo kunye namaski ezonyango. Ngomntwana wesibini, yonke into iyahamba kakuhle, zombini ngokoqobo nangokomfanekiso.
Emva koko, yonke into ifana nomntu wonke, i-nursery, i-kindergarten, isikolo ... Ngenxa yokuba abantwana bam banomlinganiselo omncinci kakhulu, banobungane kakhulu. Ukuba umntu ucaphukisa udadewabo, mzalwana-apha. Lezo ntsuku ezinzima ebomini bethu zazingasayi kuphinda ziphindwe, kwaye ndiqinisekile kakhulu ukuba akuyi kuba. Kuyikeka xa abantwana behlupheka.
Kule meko ndafumana isifundo esikhulu kwaye ndaphetha: kufuneka uhlale ulwela impilo kunye nenhlalakahle yegazi lakho. Ungalindelanga ukuba umntu uzakunceda, wenze ngokwakho, udibanise iingcango ezivaliweyo, ukhusele amalungelo abantwana bakho, kuba wena-abayidingi mntu, akukho mntu uya kubakhusela nokukhusela, engcono kunabantwana babo. Eli bali lichaphazelwa kakhulu ngubawo, oko kukuthi, uyise wabantwana bam. Ube sele engxhalaba ngam kwaye aphinde aqinisekiswe. Kwihlabathi lethu lanamhlanje akunakwenzeka ukufumana utata onenkathalo kunye nothando kunotata wethu othandekayo!
Ngoku abantwana banqamle umama wabo, baya kutshintsha amaphepha abo ngokukhawuleza, bafunde ngokuphumelelayo esikolweni, bathathe indawo kwi-Olympiads kunye neenkomfa zophando, zidweliswe kwirejista yabantwana abanesakhono eRashiya. Abantu abadala, abahlakaniphile, abazimeleyo, kodwa intliziyo yam nonqweno ayifuni ukuphumla, "ndizama", njengabantwana. Apha silapha - Umama onzima!