Ngexesha elifanayo, ubudlelwane obukhoyo buvumela upapa ukuba ashiye ixesha elizeleyo ebomini bakhe, emsebenzini, eshiya intombi yakhe enakekelwa ngumama wakhe, kwaye angaziveki ngexesha elifanayo kungekho netyala okanye isidingo sokucacisa ubuhlobo. Oko kukuthi, hlala ... ukhululekile! Ndixelele, akunjalo le iphupha labo bonke abantu? Kulula ukuba amadoda athande iintombi kunabantwana, kuba ibhinqa yedwa kuphela phambi kokuba ubani unokufumana uthando ngaphandle kokwesaba ukugwetywa.
Kuthiwani kumantombazana kababa?
Ngokuqhelekileyo iindima zentsapho zisasazwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: unina-titshala, umfaki-mkhuthaza. Umama ufunda intombi ukuba ibe ngumfazi, ibonisa indlela yokugqoka, ukupheka, ukuhamba, ukuxabana, udumo, uthando. Yaye ukuba umama akanako ukumfundisa nto, intombazana iya kuzalisa ngokulula le galeko. Ubaba kunzima kakhulu - indima yakhe ayikwazi ukudlalwa ngumnye umntu. Nguyise omele anike intsingiselo yokufundiswa ngumama: kutheni intombazana ingaba yintombi, kutheni kufuneka ikhwebe, ipheke, ithande? Ngobudlelwane noyise, le ntombazana ifunda ukuba ibhinqa, kwaye kunye nayo ivakalelwa okokuqala. Ukwamukelwa kwebhinqa lesibini kushiya ubungqina kwiintsebenziswano ezilandelayo kunye namadoda. Ekuqaleni intombazana ayikwazi ukucinga ukuba ayifani nePapa. Ngethuba eliqala ukuhlala eluthandweni (oko kukuthi, iminyaka emine), sele esazi ukuba aba bantu bangubani kunye nokuba luhlobo luni lolwalamano olufanele luphuhlise. Bafanele, kuba ukuba le nkwenkwe ayihambisani nomfanekiso kaPapa, intombazana ayiyi kumbona! Akayi kuba ngummeli wobulili obuhlukile, kwaye ukuba ubuhlobo babo abukhumbuzi ubudlelwane bakhe nopapa, uya kuthiwa bangenangqiqo kwaye bayamkhathaza.
Yintoni oyenzayo uyihlo ukwenzela ukuba intombi yakho ikhule ibe yindoda ethembekileyo neyonwabileyo? Akukho nto ekhethekileyo. Le ntombazana inelungelo lobukho bakho nothando, kwaye akunandaba nantoni na, kulolu thando lubonakaliswa. Intombi yakho iya kuyiva intuitively.
Ngqongqo nantoni
Kufanelekile ukuthetha ukuba u-Daddy's hardness not exactly what girls want. Yintoni eyingozi? Ngokwengxenye, into yokuba intombi ayiboni ubaba njengomzekelo wokulingisa kwaye ukunyaniseka kwakhe akumkhuthazi ukuba afunde, kodwa nje uyabuhlungu aze aphendule. Ukuba unyanzelekile nentombazana yakho, uya kuyika, kwaye oku akunakwenzeka ukumnceda ekujonganeni nesini esahlukileyo.
Olunye ukhuphiswano kunye nenkxalabo ehamba phambili yenkqoqo enamandla kunye nabanobuchule abakhoyo kungekhona nje kuphela ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda, kodwa nakwabafazi. Ininzi idla ngokukwenza ube neentlonelo, funda into kwaye uqaphele ngakumbi amathuba akho kunye nemida. Kodwa ngobudlelwane besilisa-besilisa, ukwesaba okunjalo kunokubangela ukuba intombazana ibe nomuzwa wokuthi akafanelanga uthando kunye nenkxaso, ukuba kufuneka asebenze ngokwakhe ukuze athole udumo, ukunyamekela, ukunyamekela. Kwaye nangona intombi yakho iwina le nto kwaye ivakalelwa, uthando lomntu luya kuba yinto engeyithatyathwa, kodwa luhlobo lwe-trophy.
Ukubanda kwamadoda ngokubhekiselele kwiintombi zabo kudla ngokuchazwa kukuba abayazi ukuba benzani nabo. Maxa wambi umntu uphuma kwimeko, ekhuthaza inkwenkwe yenkwenkwana. Ukuba yintombi, intombazana iyacaca ngakumbi kuyise, akayikrele ukuthetha naye. Olu lwalamano lunelungelo lokuba lukhona kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo aluchaphazeli intombazana engakumbi kunye nabameli besini esahlukileyo.
Izigaba zoBudlelwane
Kwiminyaka emi-2-4 intombazana iqala ukuqonda ukuba ibhinqa, ukuba indoda nomfazi abafani kunye nokuba kukho ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo phakathi kwabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, emva kokukufumanisa oku, intombi inika upapa ukuba amtshatile ... Le ngongoma ebalulekileyo, efuna ukuba umntu enze ngendlela eyiyo.
Enyanisweni, intombazana ikuxelela oku: "Ndingowesifazane, ungumntu, sithandana, kwaye indoda inothando nowesifazane bahlala batshata." Ukuba loo nto ubaba uyichazela intombi yakhe ukuba akayithandi njengento yesondo, kodwa kukho amanye amadoda ehlabathini angasondela kuye (kwaye oku akuthinteli uyise ukuba amthande), ngoko uya kumnika "Imvume" yothando kunye nolonwabo xa ekhulile.
Ukuba ubaba ushiya ezo ngxoxo okanye amahlaya, intombazana inokungena kwiimeko ezinzima: ifunda ukuba amanye amadoda, kodwa ayayiqondi ukuba uTata uvumela ukuba bathande.
Ukuxhaswa kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha engabalulekanga kangako kufuneka kunikwe intombazana ebusheni, xa umzuzu wokungaxhatshazi umzimba wakhe, ubuso, ukubonakala kubonakala. Ngalesi xesha ulindele ukuba uncedo "lwaluncedo" luvela kumama wakhe (kwaye kwaye kwiimeko ezingakanani ukuthetha ngendlela yokugqoka, kutheni umamotheka), kodwa uvela kwipapa, njengesiqhelo, nothando nothando. Utshutshiswa ngenguqu eyenzeka emzimbeni, akaqinisekanga ukuba ukhula kakuhle, ngoko ufuna ukuba uxelele ukuncoma kwakhe rhoqo.