Okwangoku, akuyi kuba nzima ukufunda ngemibandela enxulumene nokuhambelana.
Iingcali zengqondo kumazwe amaninzi ziye zavelisa iimvavanyo zokuhambelana ezimbini. Ngokutsho kweemvavanyo, unokufumanisa ukuba le ndoda ifanelekile kuwe njengeqabane lesini, kumdla, kwiminqweno. Ukuba loo ntokazi ayinayo indoda enokuthanda ukuyibona emva kwayo, ngoko ngenxa yemvavanyo, unokwenza ukuba luhlobo luni lohlobo oluya kuba lufaneleke ngakumbi, yintoni umlingani, uphawu lolodiac, njl. kunye nezinye.
Uvavanyo lwezinto ezihambelanayo ezimbini, okuba ngamadoda nabasetyhini, zihlukileyo kungekhona kuphela kumxholo, kodwa nakwimo. Iimvavanyo zisekelwe kwiziphumo kunye nokuphuhliswa kwezonzululwazi kunye neengqondo zengqondo. Ababhali beemvavanyo, ukuphucula nokudibanisa iimvavanyo, benze izilungiso zabo ezincinci kunye nezongezo kwizigqibo zenzululwazi, ngenxa yoluphi uhlobo lwemibuzo echaphazelekayo neyesiqhelo. Iimvavanyo ezihambelanayo zichanekileyo, zilula, zisebenzisiwe kunye "nokukhangela", njengomthetho, iimpendulo zemivavanyo mazibe mfutshane kwaye zicace, kuba ngokwempendulo echanekileyo, lo okanye omnye umfanekiso okanye impendulo kumbuzo ulungiswe. Kukho iimvavanyo ezinomdla ukukhetha ukuba kungcono ukusebenza kumntu, yintoni umgangatho ophuculayo ekufundeni kwaye yintoni enye enokuyenza.
Uvavanyo oluhambelanayo lunokuqala. Ngohlobo olunjalo lweemvavanyo, umbhali ubonisa ukuba iimbini ezivivinywayo kufuneka zicinge ukuba zinye okanye enye, kwaye njani kwimeko apho ehlola iimeko ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, cingela ukuba unomsila wakho omthandayo wesepha, ngexesha elinjengeempawu kunye nemibala oyibonayo. Ngaba akuyonto yokuqala kwaye ayimangalisa?
Njengomphumo woluphi uvavanyo, amanqaku acacisiwe kwaye iimpendulo zithathwa ingqalelo, ngoko isiphelo sithathwa, nokuba ufanelekile okanye cha, le mpendulo inokwandiswa (ingxelo), kwaye ingaba mfutshane kwaye imfutshane.
Xa ungathandabuzeki, kufanelekile kuwe kwi-parterre yakho uvavanyo oluhambelana nobudlelwane obude kunye nolunaphakade luya kulandwa okanye luye kwiintlobo zee-intanethi. Kwi-intanethi yeesayithi kunye neemvavanyo ezibonakalayo, ayibonakali, njengoko zithetha yonke into enomdla kunye nomdla. Ngenye indlela kwi-intanethi yiincwadi kunye neencwadi zokuvavanya. Ngokubanzi kwiiphephandaba, kumaphephancwadi ahlukeneyo, ngakumbi kumaphephancwadi amabhinqa, ubuncinane iimvavanyo ezimbini kwiintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo zinyatheliswa. Iimpawu ezidumileyo zihambisana nokuthandana, malunga nokuthanda, umsebenzi kunye nomlingani wakho kunye neqabane lakho.
Umfazi ngamnye emva kokugqithisa uvavanyo ufuna ukufumana umphumo omuhle, kwaye xa athe wafumana, uhamba ngokungaqiniseki ukuba ngaba izigqibo zolu vavanyo ziyinyaniso okanye cha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uthembela ngokupheleleyo kwiziphumo zokuvavanya, akukho bani ukucebisa. Xa wenza isigqibo, nawuphi na umntu ngaphezu kweemvavanyo zokuvavanya kufuneka akhokelwe ngumqondo kunye nokuqonda.
Xa kuqwalaselwe izigqibo zesigqibo sokuhambelana, kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela ubuchule bomntu oqokelele uvavanyo. Mhlawumbi uvavanyo lwaluyinto engcali yengqondo yengqondo kukho konke, kodwa oqalayo okanye owona mbono. Kule meko, uya kutshatyalalisa ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo, kodwa awufuni!
Amantombazana athandekayo, cingela, kutheni uyadlulisa iimvavanyo ezihambelanayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo ingxaki inzulu kakhulu, umzekelo, ngenxa yokungabi nxibelelwano nomthandayo, ngoko lungisa le meko ngokukhawuleza kwaye yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle.