Yiyo inyaniso yengxaki kubo bonke abahluke ngokupheleleyo, kakuhle, amaxesha okuba khona, nawo. Ngokubanzi, bonke abantwana banokuhlulwa ngamaxesha amane, nangona umntu oneminyaka eyi-17 ubudala akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuba ngumntwana, kodwa ngokwemithetho yile nto kanye siya kucinga ukuba lo ngumntwana. Ngoku siza kujonga ngakumbi kule minyaka emine. Nantsi yonke into iya kufuneka icacile, kwaye siya kuhlawuleza ukuya kumbuzo wethu oyintloko, okuthi, "Kutheni abantwana befungela ngomtya?"
Ngoko ke, siqale ekuqaleni kwexesha lokuqala. Uyintoni na? Eli xesha liya kuqondwa ngabo bonke, ngaphandle kokungabikho. Lo ngumntwana osemncane, kwaye kusasa kakhulu. Oko kukuthi, eli lixesha apho umntwana engayi esikolweni, kodwa kuphela kwi-kindergarten. Sicinga ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukuba eli xesha alikhathazeki kakhulu ngumntwana, kuba engagqibekanga nantoni na, uyaphila yonke imithetho. Ngalesi sikhathi, umntwana akaqhelekanga, onobubele, onothando. Kanye nje ngeli xesha, abazali bacinga ukuba kuya kuba ngummangaliso umntwana, oya kubaphulaphula abazali bakhe aze abonisane nabo nasiphi na imeko. Kodwa oku kuphela imbono engaphambili, ukuphuhliswa komntwana kuthintela kakhulu ubomi besikolo, esiza kuqhubeka sixoxa ngazo.
Nangu kufika ixesha lesibini. Le yithuba le "First Bell", xa bonke abatsha, abaqhelana nabo, ulwazi olutsha kunye nezifundo. Ukufikelela kumabakala 5-6, yonke into ilungile, kodwa sele ikhona kula maxesha, abantwana bahamba kude nootitshala nabadala. Apha, ngokusemgangathweni, yonke into icacile kwaye icacile. Utitshala weklasi uphawula abantwana kwaye ubafundise ngokuchanekileyo, kodwa, njengabantu abaninzi, imfundo ayihlali ixesha elide.
Unzima kakhulu, ixesha lesithathu lifikile. Iqala kwiminyaka kangangokuba ngo-10, iphela ngo-14. "Wena! Mfutshane, kungeyikho into embi "- utsho, kodwa kungekhona apha. Eli lixesha elibunzima lomntwana. Kulo nyaka unabantwana abakhutheleyo, nokuba banokuthiwa, bafungela ngokukrakra kunye neqabane. Kutheni kule minyaka? Kulula kakhulu. Eli lixesha xa umntwana efumana inkululeko, yena ngokwakhe unembopheleleko yezenzo zakhe, njengoko acinga. Oko kukuthi, ingqondo yakhe ijongene nobomi obutsha, uqala ukuzama into entsha, engafundwanga ngaphambili. Umntwana ubona ukuba abantu abadala bafungela phantsi, ngoko abantwana bayafunga nge-mat. Emva koko, "banabantu abadala". Oku kunjalo nje, bayasebenza kakhulu. Bafuna ukubonisa oontanga babo ukuba zipholile kangakanani. Kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kuba ihambelana neminyaka yabo. Benza konke ngokumelene nabazali babo. Kutheni? Ewe, kuba abafuni ukuthobela imithetho yakho. Ewe, cinga ukuba umntwana akahambanga ezitratweni, kwaye, kwaye akaphulaphuli onke la mazwi angcolileyo, yintoni na? Uzithabathaphi onke la mazwi? Kwakhona, uluntu. Isikolo sinabantwana abaninzi, kwaye ukuba umntu uyayiva kubazali bakhe okanye kwenye indawo, uya kubonisa oontanga bakhe. Oku akunakuphetshwa, kwaye oko kwenzeka. Kwaye ungacingi ukuba oko kwakungekho ngaphambili. Uyakhumbula nje njengomntwana. Ewe, phambi kokuba kungabikho iikhompyutheni, konke oku kuhlazola, kodwa amazwi ahlambayekileyo ayenjalo, kwaye, kwaye kuya kusinda. Ngendlela ekuthetha ngayo iikhomputha, kungekhona malunga nabo, kodwa malunga nenethiwekhi yomhlaba wonke-nge-Intanethi. Ngoku phantse wonke umntwana osemtsha ubhalisiwe kwiintanethi zentlalo. Unokufikelela ngokusemgangathweni kuyo yonke into ayifunayo. Bonke abo babhala kwi-Intanethi basebenzisa amatshini bahambisa le nkcazelo kubantwana. Ngokubanzi, apho ungahambi khona, fungela yonke indawo ngomtya, kwaye ungabuzi: "Kutheni abantwana? ", Siye sichaza oku kwangaphambili. Ngokumalunga nendlela yokumnqumla kumama, siza kuthetha kamva.
Ixesha lesine lilula kubazali. Laba ngabantwana, abaneminyaka engama-15-18 ubudala. Ziba zimeleyo, kodwa kungekhona ngendlela efanayo nangaphambili. UMats akayi kulahleka naphi na, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba zisetyenziswe ngabaselula kwiimeko ezichanekileyo, kungekhona. Sinokuzifanisa. Ama-Mats asetshenziselwa umntwana kwisithuba se-3, kwaye umntwana uthi ngokuzamile: "Yinto nje *****, nje *******, ******, ***, kakuhle, andiyiyo na? "- yiloo nto ibonakala ngathi. Kodwa ngoku ixesha eli-4, uthi ngentukuthelo: "Ndiyothuka, awukwazi ukubeka uvavanyo oluqhelekileyo, ****** abanye ...". Ndicinga ukuba nangoko wambona umehluko. Ixesha eli-4 - ixesha lokudala. Nantsi yonke into iqala ukwenza engqondweni, nangona kukho i-zamorochki, kodwa oku kucacileyo akukona kweli nqaku.
Ngoku ke masithethe ngeendlela zokondla umntwana kumatshini. Khawuleza uthethe, kungekho konke kusebenzayo, kwaye mhlawumbi, ungathinteli kwesi sihloko nomntwana, ukuba awuqinisekanga.
Ngoko, makhe siqale.
Okokuqala, zama ukufumanisa apho umthombo wabo onke la magama uhleli khona. Ngubani owamfundisa. Ukuba umfundi ofunda naye engacingi, mema unina uze umcele ukuba athethe naye ngokuzithelekileyo, kufuneka ancede. Ukuba, ngokukhawuleza, kwaba nguwe, ngoko, khawuleza uthathe ukuzithiba!
Ngoku ke sijonge kwenye ityala. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ngamnye umntwana unesithixo, kwaye nokuba ngubani na, umlingisa. Kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukulwa naloo gunya ngenxa yokuba uye waphumelela enkulu kunokuba wena, ngenxa yomntwana kwaye uthembele le "nkwenkwezi eqaqambileyo" ngaphezulu, kodwa kwinqanaba lesine uqonda ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani abazali. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana uyintombazana, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba isithunzi sayo sinokufana neKsenia Sobchak. Yena ekutshintsheni kwakhe kufana nokuhlambalaza kwaye uchazwe, umzekelo. Ewe, kumabonwakude, konke "kudibene", kodwa onke amagama angavumelekanga ahlanganiswe kakuhle, kwaye umlomo, ngexesha elifanayo, ubonakala ngokucacileyo, ukuze yonke into iqondwe ngokubhaliweyo. Ukuba le ntombazana iyithanda uSobchak, ngoko awukwazi ukumchukumisa ukuba wenza kakubi, kwaye ke awukwazi ukwenza oko, njalo njalo. Musa ukuqala ukugxekisa "inkwenkwezi", ngokuchaseneyo, kunokunyusa imeko yonke. Umntwana, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuqala ukusuka kuwe ngakumbi, ecinga ukuba awuyiqondi kakuhle. Kuya kubakho ukucacisa kumntwana ukuba le nto "inkohliso" yolu boniso ukuba uphoqelelwe ukuba wenze njalo, kodwa ngokwenene ayifuni. Ewe, okanye into efana nale plan.
Siyathemba ukuba zethu ziya kukwazi ukunceda kulo mbandela.