Kutheni amadoda edlala ngothando?

Namhlanje, uninzi lwezonxibelelwano zentlalo kunye neendawo ezikhethekileyo zokuthandana, apho ungakhuselekanga nje kuphela ukuthetha nomnxibelelanisi ongeyena, kodwa ubenomdlalana naye. Ngamanye amaxesha ukunyuka ngothando kunokuhlakulela ukuthanda uthando kunye nobudlelwane bezesondo, ngamanye amaxesha zihlala kwindawo enye. Ngaloo ndlela udlala ngothando, abafazi kunye namadoda athatha inxaxheba ngokulinganayo. Kodwa ukuba injongo yokuqala kukuqonda ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye uziphinde uzibonakalise eyona siseko yekhono lokukhokela "umdlalo wothando" (nokuba yinto ebonakalayo), ngoko kutheni amadoda adinga ukudlala ngothando?

Umntu kunye nehlabathi elibonakalayo

Uninzi lwababameli besondo esomeleleyo xa bephendula umbuzo othi: "Kutheni umntu efuna ukudlala ngothando?" Impendulo engenayo inxibelelwano yangempela. Uninzi lwaba bantu abaze bavumelane ngesini esingabophelanga ubungani ebomini bobomi, bethatyathwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Ngendlela, ukunyonyana okunjalo kungabangela ukuzinza kubini kunye nomntu otshatileyo. Oku, okokuqala, kubangelwa ukuba amadoda angayicingi le fomu yokudlala ngothando, ngenxa yokuba unakho ukuvula ikhompyutha uze uzicwilise kwihlabathi elithe tye, ukulibala malunga neengxaki kunye neengxaki. Kodwa nangona kukho iingxelo zabantu, iingqondo zeengqondo zixhalabele kakhulu ngale meko. Ngokutsho kwabo, ukudlala ngothando kunokuba kuthatyathele abameleli besondo esomeleleyo, kungekhona nje ukuthetha ngokubambisana, kodwa kunye novuyo lothando lwenyama. Ngoko ke, ngokwemibare, into eyenziwa eNtshona Yurophu, yaba ngumzekelo onobuchule obunokuba abantu abangama-26% abaneminyaka engaphantsi kwama-30 bakhetha ukunyonyana kunye nentombazana (kuquka ukudibanisa ngokwesondo), ukunxibelelana okwenene kunye nezinto zokudlala ngothando kunye nokuba nesondo. Yaye imeko e-US ibonakala yimbi kakhulu: ngokubhekiselele kuwo onke amanani afanayo, i-65% yamadoda ikhetha i-cyberflirt ngokubuyisela okwangoku.

Yintoni enika amadoda ukuba abe nothando?

Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda alindele ukuba ukudlala ngothando kubangenisa nje ngokutsha, iimvakalelo ezimnandi kunye nokuzibona. Kubantu abaninzi, ukunyonyana okunjalo kunenzuzo kuloo nto, ngokwenene, abazenzi nantoni na ngokuqinisekileyo ayifuni ukuqhubeka nokunyanzeliswa kobudlelwane. Indoda iyazisindisa kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kunye nokuzithemba, ukuzizama kwindima entsha "yokudukisa kwiskrini somboniso."

Ngendlela, ngokuya kuzo zonke iingcali zengqondo, ukudlala ngothando ngothando lokudlala ngothando. Indoda, engazi "ebomini bwenene" iqabane lakhe, libeka into yakhe yokucinga kunye nezinto ezikulindeleyo, ecinga ukuba, kufuneka ukuba inikwe umfazi okwenene. Ngendlela, le ndlela yileyo ndlela umfazi engamfumani umntu ngobomi bokwenene, ngoko ke isiphetho sokuba abameli beesondo eziqinileyo bahlala becinga "into yokukhwabanisa". Indoda enjalo yothando, njengomthetho, uzama ukuqinisa ngokukhawuleza, ngokuzibonakalisa kuyo yonke inkazimulo yakhe kunye nomfanekiso wenkohliso yangempela. Le ndoda isoloko ikhetha umnxibelelwano "ngeminqweno", ixesha elifanelekileyo, ukubukeka, njl. Ngaloo ntokazi, uyazibonakalisa ukuba unokukwazi ukufezekisa injongo kwaye nangona isicwangciso sakhe siphumelele, loo mntu akasayi kumela apho, kuba ufuna ukuzibonakalisa ukuba nayiphi na intombazana inomdla kuye. Nasi esinye isigqibo-inzala kunye nomnqweno.

Kwaye into yokugqibela, indoda ilula kakhulu ukuthetha nomfazi engaziyo "ebomini bwenene," kunye nomfazi onjalo akakwazi nje ukudlala ngothando, kodwa uxoxe ngezihloko ezinzima aze abelane ngeengxaki. Kunzima ukuba umntu athethe ukuba uyahlushwa ngokujonga kwindoda eyaziwayo, kodwa unxibelelwano kwi-Intanethi yenye. Ngoko ngezinye izihlandlo eziqhelekileyo zingaba ngumsunguli wenyaniso yokuba indoda ifuna ukumbeka umfazi kuye, ukuthulula umphefumlo wakhe kuye. Kodwa asiyikucebisa ukuba nethemba lokuqhubekeka kwencwadana enjalo.