Abantu abadala, ngokungafani nabantwana, baqonda bonke ubunzima bezinto ezifunyenweyo kwaye baya kucinga ngamakhulu amahlanu ngaphezu kokuba bafuna isilwanyana. Wonke umfazi wendlu ufuna ukuba ikhaya lakhe lihle kwaye lihle. Ukwenza oku, uchitha umzamo omkhulu wokucoca kunye nokudala induduzo yakhe intsapho. Kwaye kuthengwa kwezilwanyana, ikati okanye inja yomntwana, ayifaki kwizicwangciso zayo.
Okokuqala, isilwanyana sidinga ukunakekelwa kunye nokuqwalaselwa rhoqo. Umntwana onqwenela ukuba nesilwanyana endlwini uya kuhlala ethembisa ukuba uya kubonisa konke ukunyamekela kuye, oku kuquka ukucoca emva kwakhe, ukutya, ukuhamba. Kwaye ke abazali abanomdla bazisa ekhaya iilwanyana ezilindele ixesha elide. Kwakhona oko kunokwenzeka ukuba ubone ngaphezulu? Kwaye ke ukubonakaliswa kwazo zonke iinkathalo kunye nokunyamekela inkomo kumntwana okokugqibela malunga neveki. Kamva bayaxhalaba. Okokuqala, abantwana balahlekelwa ngumdla wokuqala kunye oqaqambileyo ukusuka ekubukeni kokuqala kwezilwanyana endlini, i-creation sweet, ethambileyo iba yinto eqhelekileyo kuye. Okwesibini, baqala ukuqonda ukuba ukunyamekela isilwanyana kuyinto enzima kakhulu kunye namathayi okukhawuleza. Ngoko ke, ngaphantsi kweyiphi na i-pretexts, benza konke okusemandleni abo ukutshintsha uxanduva lwabo kubazali babo, ngelixa bezenza ukuba sele belibale izifungo zabo ngaphambi kokufumana indalo exabisekileyo.
Kwaye ke, abazali abananto abaye bayishiya kodwa bayithatha yonke inkathazo phezu kwezilwanyana. Mhlawumbi le yeso sizathu esibalulekileyo sokuba abazali bangafuni ukuthenga umntwana wabo isilwanyana. Emva koko, isilwanyana ngokwawo sisidalwa esithandekayo, kwaye ngaphandle koko, singagula. Kwaye ke kwiinkathazo ezinjengokutya, ukucoca, ukuhamba, unyango olude, lugqitywa, kwaye ezi zihamba rhoqo kwiizilwanyana zezilwanyana, ii-injection kunye nezilwanyana zisadingeka zihlanjwe ngezikhathi ezithile, mhlawumbi zona (ingakumbi izinja) ziyakunqumla yonke ifenitshala, indlu. Kwaye ke wonke umsebenzi onzima womntu ohlala kuyo ukunyamekela indlu ngokukhawuleza uyanyamalala ngaphandle kokulandelelana.
Enye into apho usapho luhlala kwindlu yangasese eyahlukeneyo. Emva koko, izilwanyana ziya kuhamba xa zifuna, kwaye kukho inzuzo kubo. Izinja zenza umsebenzi wabalindi, ama-pussies aqhutyelwa ngethuba kwindlu yamagundane, akhuphe igumbi lamagundane amancinci angamenywanga. Kodwa ngeli xesha abantu abantu bahlala kwiindawo zokuhlala.
Ngokufanayo, abazali bayaqonda ukuba izilwanyana zinokubeka uxinzelelo kumntwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba isilwanyana siyafa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba, ukususela ekuguga okanye kwisifo, kufuneka uyenze ntoni. Umntwana uya kukhwankqiswa, kwaye kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukumnciphisa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali baphinda into enye, ukuqala isilwanyana kumntwana kuyintlekele kunye nomsebenzi wesihogo. Kwaye oku kuqondwa ngabazali. Kodwa ke ngubani oya kuqonda abantwana ngokwabo.
Unokujonga kwelinye iphuzu lokujonga. Ngokubonakala kwesilwanyana endlwini, yonke into ishintsha kwangoko. Intsana engenamdla izisa umnandi kunye nenjabulo endlwini. Yaye ukuba abazali babonisa umntanakho indlela yokunyamekela ihlunu eliqhekezayo kwaye yonke into iya kufundiswa kuye, kamva umntwana uya kuba nempilo enempilo, abe ngumntu ozimeleyo. Uya kufunda kusuka ebuntwaneni ukuba yintoni umthwalo wemfanelo. Isilwanyana siya kuvuyisa umntwana. Ukuba ngaba abazali behlala behlala emsebenzini, umntwana unokufumana lula kwizilwanyana ezinomusa nokufudumala, engabikhoyo kubazali ngenxa yokusebenza kwabo rhoqo. Emva koko, isilwanyana sihlala sisona sihlobo esona sihle kumntwana, emva kwayo nayiphi na umntwana, nokuba yintoni na umntu ongeyena, akayi kuva yedwa.
Ngoko ke, xa usenza isigqibo sokuba unesilwanyana kumntwana, isilwanyana kufuneka siqwalaselwe ngenyameko. Ukwenza isigqibo esicacileyo kulo mbandela, kwimbono yam, akunakwenzeka kwaye nayiphi na imbono yokujonga iya kuchaneka.