Ngaba uye waphawula ukuba kukho abantu abaphantse baphakamisa iimvakalelo ezimnandi? Kubonakala ngathi akukho nto ekhethekileyo ngabo, kodwa omnye umomothekayo, elinye ilizwi-kunye nehlabathi lonke ezinyaweni. Iyintoni imfihlelo yabo yokukhangisa? Yiyiphi le nto: ubuhlungu, ubugcisa bokunxibelelana, intlalontle, ulwazi lwethambo lamathambo okudlala ngothando okanye isithandwa esingenasisiseko? Sizame ukuphendula le mibuzo kwaye sinqume imithetho yokuheha. Emva koko, ngubani ongafuni ukukholisa wonke umntu?
I-ART YOKUPHILA
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba: ubuhlungu, oko kukuthi, ubugcisa bokuthanda nokuphumelela akusiyo isipho esivela esizalweni, kodwa umgangatho ofanelekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuxhomekeke kakhulu kwimvelo kunye nempawu (njengobunqunu / ukufihla, ukuzisa / ukukhutshwa), kodwa ukuba ufuna ukufunda ukukhawulela abanye akunzima. Njengoko ibhalwa, kodwa ukuzimela kukudlala indima ebalulekileyo, oko kukuthi, ukukwazi ukuzithobela. Kwaye akukhona nje kuphela kwaye akuninzi kangakanani ukuba ugqoke kwaye utyunyiwe (ukubonakala kufuneka kulungele i-priori), kodwa indlela oziziva ngayo. Kumntu ongenamathemba kuye kwaye uqalekisa ihlabathi lonke, akukho mntu uya kubeka ingqalelo. Abantu bayamangalisa indlela esivakalelwa ngayo kunye nesimo sethu sengqondo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna abanye bakuthande, makhe ndivumele mna. Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuphuma (kwiqela, umsebenzi, intlanganiso kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo, ukuhamba ngokuqhelekileyo), jonga ngokucophelela kwisibuko uze uqaphele isidima sakho ("Ziyintoni amehlo, imilomo, isifuba!", "Ndingaya njani le mketi! "). Yenza into efanelekileyo: khumbula ibali elimnandi, biza umhlobo wakho othandekayo, uphuze indebe yekhofi kunye ne-cognac, udle ibhanana okanye isiqwenga sothokolethi emnyama ... Kuphela ngale ndlela, ngokuvisisana nawe kunye nembonakalo yakho, unokukholisa abanye abantu uze ufumane lonwabe ngokuthetha.
IMITHETHO YOKUPHATHWA
Nangona kunjalo, ukuzithemba okunye akunako. I-Charisma kukulawula ubugcisa bokunxibelelana, enemithetho yayo yonke. Masifunde imiyalelo yentandokazi yoluntu ...
Hlonipha! Ngoko awuyi kubangela uvelwano kwabanye, kodwa uya kuba nakho ukugcina isithunzi xa ujongene nokunyaniseka. Kulo mbambano, ngaphandle kwabangaboniyo bathambekele ekutholeni ukufaneleka komntu ongaphenduliyo ngokunyanisekileyo. Ukongeza, kufuneka ufunde ukusho "amagama omlingo": "nceda", "yibani nomusa", "ndixolele". Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuthi "mbulela" kukuchaza into oyibongayo. Cacisa isizathu sokuba "uxolele" ngamagama ambalwa ambalwa (umzekelo, "mbulela ngokundisa kwangaphambili"). Ngekhulu kule ncazo eyongeziweyo uya kufumana ukumamatheka okukhulu kunye namazwi anomnene.
Gcina umgama! Awukwazi ukusondela kakhulu kumntu ongaqhelekanga, uhlasele kuloo ndawo kwindawo yakhe yengqondo, apho kuphela abantu abasondeleyo abavunyelwe ukufikelela. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa kuzo zonke iimeko ukuba zingasondeli kumntu ongaphezu kwe-50 cm, ekubeni ukuhlasela kweendawo zomntu kungabangela ukunganeliseki kunye nobudlova.
Musa ukufihla amehlo akho! Ngaphandle koko, abantu banokufumana ingcamango yokuba awuthetha oko ucingayo. Ukubukeka okubuhlungu, ukujonga kwinqanaba okanye kudlulileyo umntu odibanisayo akanakunxulumana naye. Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo kubonisa umdla kumhlangano. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba ukujonga okuqhubekayo, kungabonakalisa. Sebenzisa indlela efanelekileyo yokuhlola, ekuvumela ukuba uxoshe uxinzelelo olubangelwa yimfuneko yokubheka rhoqo kumnxibelelwano: gxininisa amehlo akho kubafundi bakhe, kodwa ngaphaya kwebhuloho yempumlo.
Smile! Ngomntu oziva evuya, kulula ukuthetha. Ulwalamano oluhle kunye noogxa kunye nezihlobo. Smile uqokelele ngokugqibeleleyo oonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu. Ukuba unqabile ukumomotheka, sebenzisa phambi kwesibuko, uze usebenzise olu buchule ebomini. Uya kumangaliswa ukuba ihlabathi elikujikelezayo kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, isimo sengqondo malunga nawe siya kutshintsha.
Ngaba uncoma! Bonke abantu bathanda xa badunyiswa (ngolwazi lwabo, izakhono, imbonakalo, iimpawu zabo). Okokuqala, qaphela yonke into oyithandayo ngabantu kunye nokuziphatha kwabo. Thetha ngezinto ezilungileyo. Ukufumana ukuncoma, umntu uyazikhangela ukuba aphile ngokubhekiselele kulindeleke, okwenza uvelwano olusisigxina kuwe, lususe ukukhusela kwengqondo kunye nokusondelana.
Musa ukukhutshwa ngokuzigxeka! Musa ukuzibonakalisa kakubi ngokwakho, ungazibhali wena: "Ndiyingozi," "Ndiyityebile," "Ndilambele." Abantu bayakukholelwa. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ufihle iimpazamo zakho. Khawathetha ngabo ngokuzolile, ngokumomotheka, ngolwazi malunga nendlela yokulungisa imeko.
Bonisa umdla onyanisekileyo kwabanye! Vumela abantu bazive bebaluleka. Unomdla onomdla kumntu osondele kuwe. Mbuze malunga nosapho, umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa. Musa ukuphazamisa kwaye ungazami ukukhawuleza, uzenzele yonke imbali yobomi bakho kunye neenkcukacha ezincinci. Ukuba umntu uthetha ngaye ngokwakhe xa edibana, uya kuhlala ewodwa. Ukongezelela, imfihlelo kunye nokuthotyelwa kwabantu kubamkele ngakumbi kunento echazwe kwaye yaziwa.
Funda ukuphulaphula! Yenza ngomonde kwaye unomdla. Zama ukuzibeka endaweni yomlandeli, ngoko unokuqonda kangcono ulwazi olutsha. Musa ukuphazamisa intetho kunye namazwana. Thetha xa iqabane lakho lifuna ukwazi oko ucinga ngako ngxaki. Umhlobo omhle ungumphulaphuli obalaseleyo. Nantsi inxeba yokunxibelelana.
Shayela umntu ngegama! Xa udibanisa, soloko uzama ukubiza igama lomntu kwingxoxo eziliqela. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uya kuqala ukukuphatha ngovelwano olukhulu nangokholo, kuba ubonise ingqalelo kumntu othobekileyo.
UKUVULA UKUBHALA.
Uninzi lwazo zonke, sithanda abanye ngenxa yeentloni. Nangona kunjalo, kulula ukuzinqoba, izazi zengqondo zithi, kuyimfuneko kuphela ukuyifuna. Nazi ezinye izabelo zasemakhaya abantu abangaqinisekanga ngokwabo. Ukuba ubhekana nazo, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukwenza ulwazi olutsha.
"Uphi i-Nophelet?" Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kudibana njani, kodwa okokuqala kuya kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuqhagamshelana nabantu abangaziwayo. Faka into engekho (umzekelo, ilayibrari ye-Semenov), kwaye ubuze abantu malunga nayo. Lo msebenzi olula uza kukubonisa ukuba abanye bakulungele ukukunceda kwaye akukho konke okuchasayo.
"Ndiya kucula ngoku." Uvavanyo olulandelayo luyiklabhu ye-karaoke. Qonda, konke kuyafana nendlela ocula ngayo, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, nethemba kunye neemeko ezilungileyo oza kuzenza.
"Omnye kwisixeko." Ekugqibeleni, hamba uhambo. Kodwa ungazongena kwiingcamango zakho, kodwa qwa lasela abantu abazungezile. Bathuma kubo-kwaye baya kukuphendula okufanayo. Ngenxa yokuba uyathandeka, ulungile yaye ufuna ukukrazula.
"HELLO, ndi-SOUNDED ..."
Yintoni enokuba yingozi kunokuba yedwa kwinkampani engaqhelekanga? Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukushiya imizuzu engama-15 emva kokuqala kweeholide? Kwaye akukho apha. Iingcali zengqondo ziyancoma ukuba zihlale zide zidide. Khangela enye i-loner kwisihlwele, mncwina uze uze, ukhangele emehlweni. Zizise kwaye ucele uncedo ngokunyanisekileyo. Yithi: "Kwenzeka nje, kodwa ndilapha ndedwa, unganditshela ngezinto ezenzekayo kwaye uzisa iintwendwe?" Ukuba uyamomotheka kwaye uyeke ukuhlazeka - umhlobo wakho omtsha ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukunceda ukuba uyeke uzive njengejuba elimhlophe kule holide yokuphila. Into ephambili - ungesabi. Ukubuza imibuzo enobulumko, akukho mntu uya kukudla aze akubulale!
IIMVIWO
UAna Karnaukhova, isazi sezengqondo:
Ngenxa yokumahluko kubalinganiswa, imibono kwizinto okanye ezinye izinto, abantu abajonga ihlabathi abanakukwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, kwaye ama-antipathies asakhulayo asemvelo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ufunde ubugcisa emizuzu emihlanu. Okokuqala, kukufanele uzijonge ngaphandle kwaye uhlole amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka. Ukuba uyaphuma njengomdlalo, nokuba kukho na isizathu, okanye ungene ngaphakathi kwaye uhlale uthule iiyure, awuyi kuyenza inkcazelo efunwayo. Ukuba ulungile, uyamomotheka, uhloniphe nabanye, ngoko ke abantu banokuthi baphendule kuwe ngokubuya. Ukongezelela, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukwazi ukuphulaphula umnxibelelwano ngaphandle kokuphazamisa okanye ukugxeka. Akufanele uhlalutye umntu, ingakumbi ukuba umbuzo wezinto ezithile ezimbi, kungcono ukuxoxa ngesenzo sakhe, isenzo, kodwa omnye akufanele abe negalelo ekugxeka ngokweqile, uthathe indima yesikhulu, ngenxa yokuba amava akho obomi ahluke ngokukhululekileyo kumava obomi bomnxibelelwano, kwaye icebiso lakho liya kumlimaza nje. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungatsho ngokukhuselekileyo: ukuba unobungane kwaye uvulekile kwihlabathi, ihlabathi liya kuvula. Nangona kunjalo, lungiselele ukuba kweli phepha ungamthandi umntu. Thetha nalo!