Akungabazeki ukuba ukuba umfazi ungatshatanga omnye ngumntu onzima, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele ukuyeka, ukukhalaza kwaye ungenzi nto. Zama ukwenza ubuncinane amanyathelo amancinci ukuze ube ngumfazi, apho indoda engayi kushiya khona.
Uhluke
UCoco Chanel uthe kwakhona ukuba ibhinqa lifuna ukungaxhasi, ngoko kufuneka liguquke njalo. Lo mgaqo, awumangalisi, usebenza kunye nendoda enezinwele ezimhlophe. Ukutshintsha rhoqo - kuba intombazana enokukhathalela kwaye ihamba nayo, kunye nomthandi onomdla okhululekile ebhedeni kwaye uyakuthanda uvavanyo lwezesondo, kunye nomfazi omhle kakhulu ogcina indlu ihlanganiswe kwaye iyalungelelanisa, kunye nenkosikazi enomdla kwaye inomdla onokumomotheka ukuze indoda ungene emlilweni nasemanzini. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ungahlali kwindoda enye ixesha elide, nokuba ucinga ukuba indima yendoda ifana.
Yamkela indoda efana naye
Musa ukuhlambalaza rhoqo ukuba akayikufeza into enokucinga ngayo indoda. Akuyimfuneko ukuba unamathele ukusilela kwayo - kulungile, ukuba awuyithandi le nto kwiqabane lakho, zama ngoko ngobuchule kwaye uthethe ngokukhawuleza malunga nalo kwaye unikezele ngesinye isenzo. Kwaye, ke, udumise sonke isidima sakhe (ngendlela, ayisebenzisi nje kuphela ngabantu, kodwa kunye nabantwana).
Yithembeke
Yakha indlela yakho yokuziphatha ukuze umntu wakho azi into onokuyithemba ngayo ngexesha elinzima, kwaye uyamxhasa ngokubili kunye novuyo. Kwaye nangona wenza iphutha kwaye unetyala le nto, ke ungayicingi ukugxeka kwakhe, kungcono ukuzama ukufumana amagama ukumkhuthaza.
Zithande
Umfazi ongazithandiyo, ngenxa yendoda, unokumela kuphela umdla woluntu-kuphela nje ngokuba ngumpheki-mkhulu, umgcini-ndlu, njl. Zinyamekele uze uziphephe, ungakhohlwa ukuchitha ixesha elincinane kunye nokuthuka.
Ungesabi ukuxabana
Kuzwakala kungavamile, kodwa iingxabano zisisisiseko samandla amadoda namabhinqa. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kwingxabano kukuxoxa kuphela ngesinye isizathu esisodwa senkqubela, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ukujika okunje ngokuthi "imihla ngemihla ..." kunye nokunye okunjalo, okokuthi, akuyi kuvelisa kwaye kungadlulanga iphoso ngokupheleleyo kumlingane.
Ungabi ngumntu kumhlobo
Phantse unyaka omnye emva kobudlelwane bakho beqalile, iinkqubo zobuchwepheshe emzimbeni obangela ukunyameka kwakho, ngokuya kwehla. Abaninzi abasetyhini ngaloo mzuzu banomnqweno wokuba ngumntu wabo, umhlobo othembekileyo kunye nomhlobo omhle, ukuba afumane iimfuno zakhe, njl njl. Nangona ukubonakala kokuqala kukucinga kakuhle, nangona kunjalo, imiphumo ingaba yi-netakimi, ekhangelwe kumfazi kumaphupha.
Okokuqala, ukuba abantu ababini baneminqweno efanayo, ngoko banokukhawuleza ukukhupha zonke izihloko zentetho kwaye bakhathazeke. Kwaye okwesibini, ngamanye amaxesha umfazi unomlutha wokufuna ukuba ngumhlobo njengomhlobo, ukuba unqabile ukukhangwa ngesondo kuye, okungenakwenzeka kukukholisa.
Musa ukulibala ngesini
Akukho mntu waxhatshaza ngesondo ngomtshato. Akabalulekanga ngaphezu kokutya nokulala. Kule meko, sebenzisa ingcamango, ungavumeli ubudlelwane bezocansi bukhathele ngokuba buhlungu kunye neziqhelekileyo. Shiya indawo yezobini ezicwangcisiweyo kunye nezocansi.
Thetha
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akunakulungeleka, xa ubona umyeni wakho, ngokukhawuleza "uphonsa" yonke into eyenzeka kuwe emini, kodwa ukuba udidekile kakhulu, ngoko akudingeki uhlale ucebile, enethemba lokuba yena uya kuqiqa malunga nale swami ukuba athethe . Thetha nomlingane wakho (nje ungayifaki kunye nomhlobo) kuzo zonke izinto ezithandayo kwaye zikunandise. Kodwa, nceda, ulibale eli binzana ngokuthi "othandekayo, sifuna ukuthetha!".
Thatha kwaye unikele ngamalungu alinganayo
Ukuba uhlala uzidela, ungathabathi nto, ukholelwa ukuba "kufuneka", ukuba ufanele uxolele - yima! Oku akukho ngaphezu kokunyaniseka kwakho kwaye inene umntu wakho usetyala. Ukuba uhlala udlala umdlalo wokuzidela, ngokuthe ngangoko ityala lingaze libaleke, kwaye ke umntu uyakwazi ukuhamba. Nangona kunjalo, akuyimfuneko kwaye ihlale "ithatha" kuphela - indoda enobungqina ngokukhawuleza iyakwazi ukuphelisa izixhobo, emva koko ubuhlobo buhlala ludibanisa. Ngoko ke, umlinganiselo phakathi "ukuthatha" kunye "nokupha" kufuneka uhlonishwe.