Umntu ngamnye ukhangele ngendlela yakhe. Kwaye kuphela inxalenye encinci yembonakalo eyaneleyo ukutsala ingqalelo, kodwa ayinelanga ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ihlabathi langaphakathi lomntu. Emva koko, into eyona nto ibalulekileyo kwintlanano yentsapho ngumntu wakhe, ingqondo yakhe kunye nemilinganiselo yakhe. Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, kungekhona abantu abaninzi bacinga malunga nokuziphatha kobudlelwane-njengesiseko seentsapho eziqinileyo kunye ezizinzileyo. Kuhlala nje ukujonga. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba akukho luleko lwentlungu, kufuneka nje ukuphulaphula kwaye uqonde ukuba kutheni kungekho buhlobo nabantu? Siza kujonga ezinye zazo:
- Ukuba ulwalamano aludibanisi, ngoko uxabisa ubudlelwane bakho nomntu, uzimisele. Uchithe kwiqabane lakho, uzibingelele. Ngenxa yoko, umntu ukhawuleza ulahlekelwe ngumdla kuwe.
- Wena, qaleni udwebe imeko engafanelekileyo yobudlelwane, iingcamango zakho kunye neengongoma: akunjalo kum, andilungele yena, ndinemilenze epheleleyo kakhulu, andiyi-stylish. Ngeengqinamba ezinjalo ezinzulu, uya kuhlala uhlala emthunzini.
- Mhlawumbi uziphatha kakuhle, ungawuvumeli kwilizwe lakho langaphakathi. Kungabonakala ngathi awukhathaleli. Uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha oluhlaselayo luyadalwa.
- Ukungafanelanga ukukopisha abazali babo. Mhlawumbi bona ngokwabo bengayazi, bafunde imigaqo yokunxibelelana nomntu njengokuba unyoko owenziwe ngumama wakho, ejikelezwe namadoda asondeleyo kunye noyise.
- Kulula kwaye ukhuselekile ukuba uzive kunye nala madoda angabonakali umdla. Mhlawumbi uloyiko lokuba ulwalamano aluyi kuhlala ixesha elide okanye liphule ngokukhawuleza.
- Ibhinqa lifihle amandla, isithunzi kunye neetalente. Ukufihla iitalente zakho kumadoda, wena, ekupheleni, uzifihla kuwe kwaye ngenxa yoko ungawalahleka.
- Umfazi kufuneka alalele indoda. Oku kuthetha ukuthotyelwa ngesabelo esincinci sothando kunye nongqalelo kunokuba ufanelwe.
- Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ayesaba abafazi abalungileyo - ukuba umntu ongaphakathi akaqinisekanga ngaye: oku, kumnandi akunjalo kum. Kwaye ucinga ukuba unqatshelwe. Kwaye uyanconywa kakhulu, kwaye yingakho bebethukile.
- Impazamo enkulu yowesifazane xa siphendula ngothando nothando kwisimo sengqondo esingafanelekanga. Sizungeze ngokufudumala kwala madoda ahlambalaza iimvakalelo zethu ukuba abonise ukuba abafazi bayabathanda njengokuba kunjalo, ngaphandle kwemaski.
- Wonke umfazi ufuna umntu ukuba azalise yonke iminqweno yakhe, landela kuphela izigqibo zakhe - kwaye uthathe uxanduva olupheleleyo kuphela. Ngenxa yoko, khumbula iindaba eziphathelele "umlobi kunye neentlanzi" kunye nomfazi omdala, ohleli kunye nomququ ophukileyo ...
Khumbula, umntu akazalwanga ngenxa yedwa. Naluphina ubuhlobo lunakho kwaye lufanele lufundwe. Ungesabi ukubonisa ukuba uthanda amadoda amaninzi, ukuba ayakuthanda kwaye ufuna. Yiba ngumvuzo oyamkelekileyo wamadoda. Nqwenela kwaye ucinge ukuba amadoda afuna ukuba uyithande uze wenze ubuhlobo nawe, ubuhlobo. Kwaye akunandaba, ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene. Ukuba ucinga ukuba amadoda amaninzi akuthandayo - ngoko, ngexesha elifutshane uza kuba nesihlwele sabalandeli. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza ibinzana elithi: "Andidibanisi namadoda" - ayiyi kulungeleka kuwe.