Kakade, akukho namnye kuthi ufuna ukucinga ngokuqhawula umtshato, ukutshata. Kodwa amanani ayinakuxhomekeka: eRashiya isibini isibini esitshatileyo sitshatyalaliswa. Akukho mfazi ufuna umntwana wakhe akhule ngaphandle kobawo. Kodwa ke, phantse isiqingatha sabantwana bakhuliswa kwiintsapho ezinomzali omnye. Sinokujamelana njani nathi kwaye senze uxhulumano phakathi kobawo nabantwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato? Indlela yokuhlambalaza abantwana ngenxa yokungabikho kobawo onganakukhula kuba ngamaziko omdala?
Ngokweengqondo zeengqondo, kukho iintlobo ezine zokuziphatha kwabazali abaqhawule umtshato: "izitha ezimbi kakhulu," "oogxa", "oogxa" kunye "nabahlobo." Ngokufanelekileyo, umama nobafanele babe nobuhlobo obusondeleyo. Ngenyameko ubhekisele kwinto yokuba umntwana ubuhlungu kakhulu. Ukwahlukana akuyona enye yezo ziganeko ezilibalekile ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye, ngaphambi kokugqithiseleyo, kuya kuthatha ubuncinane iminyaka engama-2-3. Zama ukunyamezela. Ingane okanye umntwana osemtsha, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kubuza imibuzo ngemihla - ephindaphindiweyo, ecetyiswayo, ecaleni. Phendula yonke into, zama ukufumana okulungileyo. Ngokuqonda, bhekisa kwiingcamango zabantwana malunga nokuhlangana kwakhona, kodwa ungabondli.
FUNDA NGAYO
Ukuba uthe wahlukana nomyeni wakho, ungazifakela iphepha uze uqale ubomi obutsha, ulibale malunga nazo zonke ezedlulileyo. Enyanisweni, emva koqhawulo-mtshato, kungcono ukuba abatshatileyo bade bahlangane ubuncinane ngethuba lokuqala - intukuthelo kunye nezibopho zengqondo zinamandla kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho umntwana, akuyi kuba nako ukunqumla ngonaphakade. Oomama abengenako kwaye abanakufanelekanga. Khumbula iimfuno zomntwana. Vumela umyeni wakho kwaye akazange asebenze, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umtshato wakho awuphumelelanga, kuba abantwana bakho bazalwa baza bakhula ngothando! Ungavumeli umyeni ongaphambili ukuba abone umntwana, ungammangazeli, kwaye ungabatshelanga abantwana malunga nokuxabana kunye noyise. Emva koko, ukunxibelelana kukayise kunye nabantwana kubaluleke kakhulu kumacala omabini.
Isimo 1. Unomdla kakhulu xa waqhawula umyeni wakho. Nangona kunjalo, uyaqonda ukuba unyana wakho oqhelekileyo ufuna ukunxibelelana noyise. Awuze ulinde umyeni ukuba akhumbule iimfuno zomntwana, kwaye ungalokothi unganqikaze ukumxelela malunga neembopheleleko zendodana. Ucinga ukuba unyanisekileyo.
Ewe, ukhethe isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Uchaze ngokucacileyo okuphambili kwakho: ukugcina umntwana wengane - kwaye uthathe onke amanyathelo okwenza oku, ungavumeli ukuba izikhalazo zakho zenzeke kulo mqathango. Ngenxa yoko, bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kweli bali baphumelele.
Kubalulekile ukuba awuzange uqale ukwenza intlekele ekuqhawuleni komtshato ukususela ekuqaleni. Abantwana bacinga ukuba bazizwe ngabantu abadala kunye ne "mirror" kubo. Ukuba ubuhlungu, ukukhala, ukubulawa, unyana wakho uya kuziva uxhala kunye nokudideka. Ukuba uthe wagxotha umyeni wakho (ingakumbi ngamehlo), umntwana uya kuthatha amagama akho kwiakhawunti yakhe. Umsebenzi wakho kukuchaza ukuba umama nobaba abazange baqhawule ukuze bahlukane, kodwa wonke umntu uyavuya.
NGAMI IXA LAMI
Yile ndlela i-excuse yamadoda edumileyo. Abanomdla ekutshintsheni i-diapers, ukulinganisa i-irichiki kwi-sandbox, ukujonga izifundo ... Enyanisweni, amadoda amaninzi azivakalelwa kunye nomntwana xa eba yintlalontle, xa enokuqhagamshelana naye kwinqanaba leengcaphephe. Kwaye into ephambili kumama ukushiya indoda yangaphambili ithuba lokuba ibonise umdla kunye nemvakalelo yakhe ngomntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba iminyaka yobudala ingaba yintoni.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, emadodeni, isisitho sikayise senziwe ngokuqhagamshelana nomntwana.
Isimo 2. Uqhawule umyeni wakho xa umntwana eneminyaka eyi-6 ubudala. Kwakunzima kuwe ukulibala izikhalazo zakho, kodwa uninzi lwazo zonke zomsindo ngesimo sengqondo somntu owayengumyeni kwintombi yakhe. Izihlandlo ezintathu ngeveki watyelela i-gym, ephakathi kwekhaya lakho. Kodwa akuzange kwenzeke kuye ukutyelela umntwana. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, waqala ukuphawula ukuba umntwana wakho uye waqonda ngokubanzi malunga noobawo afunda nabo - indlela ababenabo ngayo, bayivuyisa ... Uyaqonda indlela umntwana engakwazi ngayo ukuthetha noyise. Ubize abazali bakho ngomyeni wakho wangaphambili waza wabamema ukuba batyelele. Kwaye babethonya unyana: waba lula ngakumbi - waqala ukuya kumntwana, wachitha ixesha elininzi kunye naye. Uyakhathazeka ngendoda yangaphambili, kodwa awuphazamisi ukuthetha naye nomntwana, kuba uyaqonda ukuba oko kubalulekile.
AKUBA ...
Kukho izinto ongazifanele uyenze kwaye ngaphantsi kweemeko. Ngaphandle koko, usengozini yokulahlekelwa yintembeko yomntwaba wakho kwaye ubandezeleke ekuhluphekeni kwengqondo.
✓ AKUBA ufumene ubuhlobo nomntwana.
✓ UNGASIPHELELE umntwana wakho ngokufana noyise.
✓ NGAKHO uthethe amabinzana afana "Ubaba akasasithandi".
✓ MTHETHO umyalelo kumntwana oko akumele athi kubawo kwaye nini.
✓ AKUBA ukuphazamisana nokuqhagamshelana noyise kunye nabantwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Kutheni unikela isizathu sokuba bobabini babekwe icala emva koko?
UKUBA UKUBA UKUFUNA KUNYE
Bobabini oonyana kunye neentombi badinga uxhulumaniso oluninzi, ukuze ingcamango yabo yehlabathi ayikho enye. Indlela yokuzalisa ukusilela kwengqalelo yomntu kumntwana?
✓ Kubalulekile ukuba inkwenkwe ibone ukumamatheka kwakho, wazi kwaye uqonde ukuba unina ukhula, ujabulele ubomi kunye nomntwana wakhe.
✓ Ubukho bakho abufaneleke ukuba bube nolwalamano lwentsapho kuphela. Vumela umntwana ukuba adlale ngakumbi kunye namakhwenkwe namantombazana asebudala bakhe, jonga indlela abafazi abadala abakhulumisana ngayo nabayeni babo okanye abahlobo.
✓ Nika unyana wakho kwicandelo lezemidlalo. Ezinye zezona ziseko ze "umbono womntu wehlabathi" ziya kunikwa ngumqeqeshi okanye abadlali abaphezulu. Intombi kufuneka ikhethe iklabhu yokudansa, apho iyakuma khona nenkwenkwe emibini. Ngoko unokufunda ukuthetha kunye nesini esahlukileyo.
✓ Ukwakha nonyana wakho nentombi yakho izicwangciso zobomi, uphupha. Ngoko uya kuqonda oko umntwana wakho akufunayo.
✓ Fumana kunye nento enokuyenza ngayo ngoku, uvule into osuyibonga ngayo ubomi kunye nomnye. Ingakwazi ukuhamba kwintsimi yezityalo, imidlalo, ukulungelelaniswa kokutya kunye nokucoca indlu.
✓ Musa ukutshintsha imisebenzi yomntwana kwindodana yakho okanye intombi yakho kwintanda yakho. Musa ukukhawuleza - makuthandeke kakhulu kunabantu abahlobo.