Ndingenza njani ukuba indoda yam iqale ukupheka? Kungenzeka ukuba nguwe opheka yonke intsapho. Nangona uthanda ukupheka, usasafuna ukwahlula imisebenzi kwisiqingatha. Amadoda alungile ekuphekeni, ufuna nje ukuwazisa. Njani? Qala ngesicelo sokwenza isandwhi yesiqhelo. Xa udla, udumise italente yendoda yakho kwaye uthi awuzange udle isantikiki enomdla ngakumbi ebomini bakho! Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, mcele ukuba apheke amaqanda aqhekezayo ekuseni-ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhlangabezana nalo. Dumisani leli qanda eliqhekezayo ngeveki ezayo - yabona, iya kuba sesitya sayo sesithsaba. Ukwenza ngale ndlela, ngokuthe ngcembe uya kuza kwinqanaba lokuba umthandi wakho uzakufumana italenta yecalinary. Le ndlela yokwandisa ukuzithemba isekelwe kwinto yokuba abantu badunyiswa imihla ngemihla. Akukho nto isishukumisela ukuba senze into encinci, njengokholo lokuba senza okuhle kwaye akukho bani oya kwenza ngcono kunathi. Ungamenza njani ukucoca? Ngokuqinisekileyo umntu wakho ekuqaleni kokuphila wabhidliza i-vase, usula uthuli, ukuze uqiniseke ukuba akufanele kuvunyelwe ukuba ihlambuluke. Ukongezelela, wena ngokwakho ukwenze ngokukhawuleza nangcono. Ukutshintsha imeko enjalo yobulungisa, kufuneka kube nomonde. Musa ukukrokra kwaye ungakhononda ukuba kwezinye iintsapho yonke into iyahluke. Yenza nje ukuyeka ukucoca kwindlu. Ngokuqinisekileyo ujwayele ukuyilalisa endlwini, kwaye ngoku uya kukhwankqiswa yinto engcolileyo. Emva koko mxelele ukuba mhlawumbi waqala ukuguqula uthuli, kuba xa uthe waphuma, uya kugula ngokukhawuleza. Mcele ukuba ahlambulule indlu. Vala amehlo akho kwi-vase ephukile, kodwa udumise ukunyaniseka okwenziwe ngumyeni wakho konke.
Qeqesha kuphela ekhaya
Ukuba ukwesaba ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukuphumeza zonke iinkcazo kunye neendlela ezithile, qhelana nabahlobo. Kule ncwadana uza kuncedwa ngeencwadi eziyaziwayo malunga nokusetyenziswa kweendlela zokuphatha: uRobert Chapdini "I-Psychology of Influence" kunye ne "Indlela Yokukhuthaza Abantu" ngoDale Carnegie. Lo mqathango ngumgaqo wesifazane obuthathaka. Amadoda afana nokuba luncedo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo enze into esibacela ukuba bayenze. Kuphela apha sinenkinga - asikwazi ukubuza, sikhetha ukwenza konke. Yaye le mpazamo enkulu. Emva kokuba ubuze indoda yakho nokuba yinto encinane, umxelele ukuba uyamdinga. Amadoda afana nale ntliziyo kakhulu. Ubugcisa kukucela ngokukhawuleza, ngelizwi eliphantsi kwaye kukuxelela ukuba unobuthathaka kangakanani. Kholwa, kusebenza! Ungamenza njani avuke ebhedeni ngempelaveki aze achithe nawe ngendlela ofunayo? Ngomhla oshushu okhanyayo, uya kuvuya ukuhamba. Uceba ukulala embhedeni yonke iMgqibelo. Ungamkhwelisa njani endlwini? Nantsi indlela: mnike ngenye indlela ekuhambeni into enokuthi ayibangele ukuba nomdla. Ngokomzekelo, bathethe ukuba bamema uMama ukuba amtyelele ngoMgqibelo okanye ukuba kuyomfuneko ukuba adibanise i-mezzanine. Xa ubhekene nombono onjalo, nayiphi na esinye isiphakamiso siya kubonakala sikhangelekile. Mnike ithuba lokuba "uloyike", kwaye emva kokudlulayo, uthi, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuba ngcono ukushiya indlu elangeni, kunokuba udabule kwiindonga ezine. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuginya ikhonkco kwaye ukhawuleze ukupompa iivili ngeebhayisikili. Le ndlela yindlela ebonakalayo ngakumbi kunokhenkethi kunye nesethi efanelekileyo yamabango "asizange nanini", "njalo". Kutheni ufuna ukulwa? Ingxaki engaphantsi kobudlelwano, ngcono. Ungayenza njani, ekugqibeleni, ukulungisa itompu? Ukuba indoda yakho ayinayo yezandla zegolide, kwaye ingcinga yokuba yonke into ejikeleze indlu ingenziwa ngaphandle kokuba i-masters ibonakale yinto ehlaziyileyo, unento eyodwa kuphela-ukuyikhohlisa. Sifanele sifike ngendlela yokuba umyeni athathe isando kunye neenkomo ngesilumkiso, oye wabuza kuye inyanga. Musa ukuphazamisa isimo sakho sengqondo kunye nolunye uhlazo. Ukusetyenziswa kakubi umgaqo wokhuphiswano, obizwa ngokuba ngumgaqo wokubamba i-cockfighting. Akukho mntu unokunyamezela ukuba kwicala lakhe kukho umntu ongcono kunabo, owazi ngakumbi kwaye uyazi njani.
Lo msebenzi usebenza njani? Tshela umyeni wakho ukuba udibene nommelwane othembise ukuba uza kulobu busuku kwaye uqhube isikhonkwane. Okanye kwinkampani yabahlobo babuza malunga nalokhu kumntu owaziyo. Kwiimeko zombini, ngokuhlwa kusixazululi ingxaki: indoda iya kwenza konke. Lo mgaqo usebenza rhoqo. Kodwa ayikwazi ukusetyenziswa xa kuthelekiswa nomyeni kwabanye. Ingongoma kungekhona ukuyihlambalaza, kodwa ukudala imeko yokhuphiswano oluphilileyo. Kwaye enye into: mdumise umyeni wakho nayiphi na, nangona isenzo esingabalulekanga. Kwaye akukhathazeki ukuba uyabetha isikhonkwane. Ungamenza njani agcine ilizwi lakhe? Uyavuma ukuba umyeni wakho uya kubiza ngemini kwaye akuxelele ixesha eliya kubuyela ekhaya. Ufuna ukwazi, kuba upheka isidlo sakusihlwa. Kodwa akabizi kwaye akayi kubuya. Ubeka isidlo kwifriji kwaye, ukucaphuka, ulale. Ngomso olandelayo uyamenza uhlazo, kwaye ukhuselwe yizo zonke iinyaniso kunye neenkwenkwezi, uthi uyazidela ngenxa yentsapho, esebenza kude kube sebusuku. Kutheni ungazange ubize? Ndikhohliwe, akukho ntanethi, inkulu yayihleli kufuphi nam, kukho izizathu ezininzi. Kodwa bathetha into enye: akazange axabise imizamo yakho. Indlela yokujongana nale nto? Sebenzisa umgaqo wokulingana, oko kukuthi, "njengawe kum, ngokunjalo mna mna." Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezizayo, musa ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa. Kwaye emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, cwangcisa ukudibana naye emva komsebenzi uze ufike emva kweyure. Ewe, uya kukuhlambalaza. Ngoko yintoni? Sebenzisa zakhe iingxabano!
Awazi ukuba ungathini okanye awufuni ukwenza oku, kuba kubonakala kungakufanelekanga kuwe? Kulo mzekelo, lungele ulungelelaniso lwaphakade. Uya kukuphatha njengendoda ehlala ilinda kwaye ibekezelela yonke into. Kodwa awufuni ukuzivakalelwa njengexhoba. Umgaqo wokulingana uya kumnika ithuba lokuziva ngathi unguye ngexesha apho engagcinanga isithembiso. Akayi kuphinda akwenze oko, kodwa uya kugxininisa kuyo. Ndingamenza njani umnxeba ngakumbi xa ephuma ekhaya ixesha elide? Umyeni wakho uhambo loshishino. Wathembisa ukuba uya kubiza, kwaye nonke ulinde umnxeba, kodwa ngeze. Akayi kululela iintsuku, kwaye iselula iyacima. Unenkxalabo ukuba kwenzeka into ethile. Umyeni wakhe ubiza ngosuku olulandelayo, umangaliswe kukuba ukhathazekile. Le meko yenza ube nomsindo. Ngexesha elizayo xa ehamba, ungalindeli ucingo lwakhe kwaye ungaphenduli ifowuni xa ebiza. Yiza kuphela okwesine, uzibuza ukuba kutheni wayekhathazekile. Ndixelele ukuba unento eninzi yokwenza kwaye uyalibala ngoku. Kuya kukwanela ukuba abize ngaphezulu. Kutheni? Okokuqala, umgaqo wokulawulwa kwemeko usebenza apha. Nangona umntu eqinisekile ukuba ulinde umnxeba wakhe, uya kukhwela ixesha. Ukuba ulahlekelwa yintembelo enjalo, uya kubiza ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyazi ukuba unqamile ukulinda. Endaweni yokukhathazeka, sebenzisa ixesha lokuzinyamekela. Masibe yintloko yakhe, ukuba uyamkeleka njani. Ungayenza njani ukuba uqale ukulahlekelwa isisindo kwaye uzibukele? Amadoda ayabunqabile, azigxeka kubo - ngokungafani nathi, abaphazamisi isisu. Kwaye ingxabano yokuba inobungozi kwimpilo, ukuba ukukhuluphala kungabangela isifo sikashukela, ingozi yomshukela, kunye nokungabi namandla, indoda ayithathi ingqalelo. Yintoni enokuyenza, ukuba idliwayo idla iinqunqa ezine, uze ulale phantsi kwesofa? Mxelele ngomnye osebenza naye emsebenzini olahlekelwe ubunzima kwaye ngoku ukhangeleka kakhulu. Sebenzisa kwakhona umgaqo wokunyusa, oko kukuthi, ukwandisa ixabiso lakho emehlweni akhe. Njani? Ngomso olulandelayo, gqoba ngokugqithiseleyo ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo, kwaye ngokuhlwa, uthethe ngesiganeko esilumkiso esichaphazelayo kunye nomnye osebenza naye. Mxelele ukuba uthanda amanye amadoda! Ukuqonda oku, uya kukhulula ngokunciphisa umzimba.
Ukuba ufuna, kuba uluvo lwakho. Uceba ukuhamba ngeeholide kunye nabahlobo, kodwa umyeni wakhe uneengxabano eziliwaka ukwenqaba. Ungamqinisekisa njani? Sebenzisa umgaqo wokuhambelana-ngethuba-ngxubusho eziphatha ngayo. Hlala nje, gcina izandla zakho, wenze izinto ezifanayo. Kule meko, umnxibelelwano uqala ukukholelwa ukuba phambi kwakhe ngumntu ocinga ngathi. Kungcono ukuba uhlale ecaleni kwesafa - ngoko umgama phakathi kwakho uya kuba ngaphantsi kokuba uhleli ngaphambana nomnye etafileni. Ngexesha le ncoko, faka isandla ehlombe lakhe, thintela izandla uze ukhangele emehlweni akhe. Sebenzisa amagama: "Ndiyakuqonda ngokugqibeleleyo," "Ndiyavuma ngokuqinisekileyo nawe," "Ndicinga ukuba ufana nawe", ngoko ungeze ngokucophelela "kodwa ..." kwaye uhambise iingxabano zakho. Incoko enjalo iya kugqiba ngokuphumelela kwakho!