Intombazana idla ngokuncoma njengento efunekayo, isabelo esibalulekileyo sokuba nesimo esihle, kwaye indoda ifuna nje ukuba iyakudunyiswa kwaye iyanconywa ngabo. Emva koko, ukufunda intombazana indlela yokwenza ukuncoma kwindoda ayinzima kakhulu, into ephambili kukuba amazwi athethayo kufuneka abe kwindawo kunye nakwixesha.
Intsi ngiselo yamandla . Akusiwo onke amabhinqa ayazi ukuba azincoma, nangona aphelelwanga ngqo nendoda ethandekayo. Kubalulekile ukuba ubuncinane bakwazi ukwenza into enyanisekileyo kwizihlobo kunye nabantu abajikelezile. Emva koko uzame ukulungisa iingcebiso kumlingane wakho. Emva kwakho konke, kuye kubaluleke kakhulu nakwezinye iintombazana. Amagama entle aphulaphulayo angaba uhlobo lokutshatyalaliswa komntu. Ingatshekishwa lula kumntu osondeleyo, nokuba ngaba utata, umzalwana okanye umalume. Kubalulekile ukuthetha ukuncoma kumntu, nangona oko kuqhelekileyo okanye kuphelile, njengokuba unokubona ukuguqulwa komlingo kwindoda enokuzithemba kunye nomntu olwabelana ngesondo. Kodwa kulungile ukukhumbula ukuba kuyimfuneko ukhethe amagama afanelekileyo ngengqondo nangokuchanekileyo, ukuze ungakhubekisi othandekayo nangayiphi na indlela. Emva koko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba azi ukuba uyona nto ebalulekileyo kuwe phakathi kwamanye amadoda.
Inxalenye yolonwabo . Akunjalo kuphela umfazi onokukwazi ukuncibilika njengeqhekeza leqhwa elangeni kwindoda enomthendeleko kunye nokuncoma, kumntu uyakwazi. Ngokukodwa ukuba la magama abonakaliswa ngokungalindelekanga kuye, kuba kuloo meko umphumo wabo uya kuba likhulu ngokuphezulu. Kodwa kulungile ukukhumbula ukuba ukudumisa kakhulu akuninzi kakhulu ukudumisa nokuhlamba ngokuncoma. Kufuneka ukuba, njengomvuzo woluphi na umcimbi ochaphazelekayo. Oku kungafaniswa nesahlulo esithile se-candy (ulonwabo), esikhutshwe kwimeko. Ukunyanzela rhoqo ukwenza umntu aphosakele, kuba oku kuya kufezekisa umphumo ochaseneyo, xa onke amazwi athethwa nje angabonakali njenginyani, kwaye kungekudala aphelelwe ngamandla.
Amazwi alungileyo . Indlela yokwenza okunconywa okufanayo kumntu, kodwa ufuna nje ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo kunye namazwi afanelekileyo. Oku akuthethi ukuba intombazana kufuneka iqokelele loo mazwi ayenokumnandi ukuyiva yona, kuba imbono yamadoda nabasetyhini ngokubhekiselele kumagama amnandi iyahluke. Inyaniso yokuba intombazana, kuya kubonakala, iya kubonwa njenginconywa, isenokungaqondwa kakuhle ngendoda, mhlawumbi ize ikhubekise isidima sayo. Kungcono, ukuba ukunconywa kuya kuba nayiphi na indlela yokuthintela ulwalathiso lwabesilisa, ngokukodwa xa begxininisa ubukhulu bakhe. Intombazana ibhetele ukufunda uhlobo lomntu othandekayo, ukuze aqonde imilinganiselo yakhe, imilinganiselo, imigaqo. Ukuze ufumane ngqo umgca onokulula ukuchaza zonke iinkxaso zawo ezifanelekileyo. Amazwi alungileyo akufanele akhathazeke ngokubhaliweyo, kuba umntu, njengengqondo yeengqondo, unokubanokukugweba ngokulula, uya kukwazi ukuba nje ukhahlela intonga.
Amazwi avela entliziyweni . Oku mhlawumbi enye yeendlela eziphambili zokuncoma amadoda. Amagama afanele abe ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kwaye, ngaphandle koko, ngaphandle kokungacingi. Kungcono, ukuba amagama athethiweyo aya kuba nolwalamano-oluthile-olunezilwanyana, ngokukodwa, oku kubhekisela kwisigama. Amagama anjalo adala umntu kwisityhilelo nokubulela. Kulungile kodwa, ukuba awunjalo, oko kukuthi, ungabathi. Emva kwakho konke, unokwenza ukuba kucace ukubaluleka kwendoda yakho ngokujonga okukhethekileyo kwindlela yakhe, okanye nje kumthinte, okanye ubencoma ngendlela yokumangalela.
Umlingiswa womntu . Nawuphi na umntu oqhelekileyo kunye onokwaneleyo lowo uthandekayo wakhe uthethe kakhulu kuye kwazisa amazwi amnandi kunye nodumo, uya kuzama ukulinganisa nabo. Uya kuzama ukulungelelanisa uluvo oluphambili lwentombi yakhe ethandekayo yentliziyo. Kodwa ngoncedo lwamanconywa olwenziwe ngenyameko, unokujonga umntu, oko kukuthi umlingiswa wakhe. Kwimeko xa ephendula ngamazwi anjalo ngendlela efanayo, oko kukuthi, ngokugxekwa kunye nokuhleka usulu, ngoko sinokuthi phambi kwakho umntu oqhelekileyo enomdla. Kodwa kwimeko echasene nayo, xa umthandayo engabi nhlobo kunye nohleko, kuyafaneleka ukufunda ukuqonda ngexesha lithile kwaye ngaluphi indlela le ndlela ayifanele ayithinte enye okanye enye impawu zakhe. Kwaye ukuba indoda leyo iyicala kwaye ikhunjulwe yilezi zinto, kwaye ngakumbi nakakhulu, zithatha idilesi yakhe, kulungele ukucinga nje ngemfuno yeso qabane.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, bafazi abathandekayo, baqonde into enye, ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba benze ukuncoma, ngakumbi kumntu othandekayo kunye nomntu osondelene nawe. Banokukunceda ukugcina uxanduva lwakho kunye noxolo, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukonwaba ekhaya lakho.