Kwaye kunzima kangakanani ngezinye iinkhathi ukuvuma ukuba umntu othembela kuye kuzo zonke iimfihlelo zakho, obeminyaka emininzi eyaziwayo ngawe ngaphezu kwanoma yimuphi umphefumlo ophilayo kweli hlabathi uye waba ngumthwalo. Kukho izizathu ezininzi ukwenzela ukuba oku kwenzeke. Abahlobo bahlala benxulumene neminqweno efanayo, ukuqonda, ukuthembela kunye nomvakalelo wokuthembela ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, utshintsho ebomini komnye wenu maxa wambi luvelisa imiphumo engathandekiyo. Isalathiso saziwa ngentlungu kwaye siphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ebomini, kodwa nakwimisebenzi yeencwadi kunye ne-cinema.
Intombi zivuyayo kwaye zihlala, njengoko zithetha, umphefumlo emphefumlweni, kwaye ke omnye wabo ufumana insizwa, kwaye yonke imeko iyatshintsha. Abasasebenzisi ixesha elifanayo kunye, ukuzithemba kobudlelwane buyancipha, kuba omnye wabo unento engenayo enye. Okona ngakumbi, xa intombi iqala ukuba nomona ngale nsizwa, ngamanye amaxesha inenjongo "yokugubungela" isisiseko sayo, ukuzama ukuphinda ibuyele kwiminyaka yakudala, xa yayingundoqo. Uninzi lwabantu lujamelana nale ngxaki ngendlela engokwemvelo, kuba oku kuphepheki kwaye kwenzeka rhoqo. Ingxoxo engenangqiqo yokuba indawo yomhlobo entliziyweni yakho isele indawo yakhe, kwaye le nsizwa iyona ndlela ehluke ngokupheleleyo yeemvakalelo kunye nolwalamano, njengommiselo, ngokwaneleyo. Kuvaliwe kuvaliwe kumntu obenomhlobo naye ixesha elithile kwaye wabelane nawo onke amava akho kunye naye, kubi kwaye akabi. Ewe, kwaye kukho into eyenzekayo ebomini bakho, apho ininzi lethu iyakhala isikhalazo? Fumana ixesha lokuthetha naye, uchaze imeko yonke, kwaye ukuba wenza konke okulungileyo, uya kuhlala kunye nentombi yakho kunye nomntu oyithandayo, ngokulungelelanisa ubomi bakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha kukho ezinye iimeko xa kunomdla kwiintombi zamakhwenkwe ukuba zixubushe ukuxubusha iingxaki zabanye, zixubushe ngokuphuma kwiimeko ezinzima, zifuna inkxaso evela komnye nomnye. Kwaye kwakhona, ngokukhawuleza ukuba omnye wabo unobomi obuqala ukuphucula, omnye uqala ukuzivakalelwa kwaye akafuneki. Kule meko, ukhetho oluninzi lunokwenzeka. Omnye wabo kukuba intombi yakho iyayizikhethela yona indima "umcebisi" kunye "neengxube" ebomini, kwaye ayikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle komntu onayo yonke ixesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu belo hlobo abanalo ukuhlelwa ebomini babo kwaye kubalulekile ukuba bazive befunwa ngokwabo kwimimandla yengqondo kubalulekile. Kwaye xa nonke nibi, baya kuba nani, bejongene nani ngokunyaniseka nokuncedisa ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiphepha lakho.
Yaye xa uqina, kwaye urhulumente wakho uphucula, awuyi kuyidinga inkulumo eyayiqhelekileyo malunga nenxalenye engonwabanga. Kule meko, akufanelekile ukukhawuleza ukugqithisa ubudlelwane nomhlobo, kuba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, lo mntu uncedo lwakho kwaye wunceda, kwaye akulungile ukuhlawula izinto ezinjalo. Zama ukuzisa into entle kwintombi yakho, bonisa ukuba akukho macala amnyama emhlabeni. Makhe azame ukuziva evuya. Emva kokulondoloza umhlobo onjalo, ukumxhasa ngexesha elilukhuni kuye, uya kuzuza kuphela kwixesha elizayo. Kwenzeka, kunye nomnye, xa umhlobo engagxininanga nawe kuphela, kunye nokuva malunga nobunzima bakho neengxaki, ufumana ukwaneliseka kwangaphakathi ekuqinisekiseni ubukhulu bomntu. Oku kwenzeka kwakhona, kwaye akufanele ukhuthazele kwiimeko ezinje, ngaphandle kokuba uvuma bonke ubomi bakho ukuba ube ngumxholo wokuqinisekisa umntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba xa uphuma ubunzima besikhashana, umntu onjalo uya kulahlekelwa ngumdla kuwe kwaye yonke into iza kuzinyulwa ngokwayo.
Nangona kunjalo, akuyiyo yonke into ehlala ibuhlungu kangaka. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ubunzima obubudlelwane bokwethutyana kwaye buyenzeka kubo bonke abantu, kungakhathaliseki ubudala kunye nemo. Ubungane luhlobo olusondeleyo ubudlelwane, abahlobo basoloko behlala bexhaswa kunye ne-outlet, ngamanye amaxesha bahlala kwindawo engakumbi kwiintliziyo zethu kunezihlobo. Sinokuzithemba kubo bonke, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukukhonjwa okanye ukuhleka, izigqibo zabo zisoloko zisinceda siphume kwiimeko zobomi ezinzima. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukuwaxabisa ngesithunzi, kwaye ungasasazeka ngobudlelwane bokwenene buntu ngenxa yentlekele yesikhashana. Yaye ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umhlobo wakho unxunguphekile kuwe, kodwa usengumntu ofanayo owamthembayo ngeemfihlelo zakho kwaye unokuncedisa amawaka amaxesha kwimeko enzima, uze uzame ukuqonda okokuqala oko kwenzekayo. Mhlawumbi, usuke ukhululekile nje omnye kunye kwaye kulungile ukuya kwixesha elithile ukuze uphumule kwaye ufumane ezinye iimvakalelo. Unxibelelwano ludinga imimoya emininzi kwaye kuyacaca ukuba omnye wenu unokuziva elele, ungesabi ukumxelela malunga nalo.
Kuthekani ukuba umhlobo wam waba ngumthwalo kuwe? Ungaze uphuthuthelele ngezigqibo kwaye ungenzi izigqibo ezinzima malunga nomntu obaluleke kuwe, kuba amazwi nezenzo azikwazi ukubuyiselwa emuva, kwaye ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo omhle kulula ngakumbi kunokufumana entsha.