Kukho 2 ukugqithisa. Waba ngumdla ngakumbi, unomonde, uhlamba umntwana, unqabana, uhamba naye. Awuboni umlingane wakho, kuba awuzange ucinge ukuba unokuba ngumnene kwaye unomdla, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ucinga ukuba ungcono kunokuba ujamelane nomntwana. Ewe, kulo mzekelo, unokuvuyela kuphela le ntsapho kwaye unomdla kuthiwa unoyise obalaseleyo! Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, zonke izinto zihamba ngenye indlela ... Kuze kube kutshanje, ujabule kunye nokuhamba kokuqala komntwana kwisisu, umyeni wayehamba kunye nawe kwi-ultrasound kwaye ubambe isandla sakho, ubukele umfanekiso kwisondlo, wavuma ukuba aye esitolo ukuze akhethe udoro lomntwana kunye nokuzonwabisa okukhulu bahlanganisa isikhalazo somntu oyindlalifa yekamva (i-heiress). Kwaye ngoku kwafika umzuzu othakazelisayo - umhlangano osinde ulinde abazali kunye nosana! Kwaye umfazi wakho ubonakala ethathelwe indawo ... waba nomsindo, ufihlakele, uhlala ehlala emsebenzini okanye akakwazi ukuza ubusuku bonke, kwaye akufanelekile ukuthetha ngoncedo oluvela kwicala lakhe! Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Unokukunceda njani ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obufudumele? Emva koko, umntwana ufuna abazali bobabini!
Okokuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka? Ubuhlobo bakho bukhula njani ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe?
Yonke ingqalelo yakho yahlawulwa kumyeni wayo, yonke imisebenzi yasendlini yayidibene nayo: "Yintoni eyayiza kupheka isidlo, ukuba indoda yam yayithande?", "Ngaba uya kuyithanda ukuba ndiyipende iinyawo zam abamnyama?", "Hayi, siya Elinye ivenkile, kuba uthanda ikhitshi apho! ".
Kwaye ngoku? Yonke indlela eya kuchasene nayo - yonke ingqalelo ijoliswe ilungu elitsha lentsapho, kwaye kumntu othandekayo kukho imizuzu embalwa ukuchitha iibinzana ezimbalwa ngexesha lokutya.
Ukuze ungabi yintlungu yentsapho, iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba, ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana, lungiselele ezi ngongoma ezilandelayo:
- ukuthatha uxanduva lomntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa, ukwenza izigqibo ezinxulumene nophuhliso lwakhe lwempilo kunye noluntu oluqhelekileyo;
- funda indlela yokuhlela ixesha lakho, ziba zimeleyo, zithembele kuwe kuphela;
- ukwamkela ukuba ngoku uzinika ixesha elincinci lokuzanelisa iimfuno zakho;
- ukuphatha ngokuzinzile ukunyanzelisa iimfuno ezivela kwiintsapho zomyeni, kuba awukho nje umfazi, kodwa unina womzukulu wabo (umzukulu);
- ukufumana ukungonakaliswa kobudlelwane nomyeni wakhe;
- khuthaza ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo phakathi kwamalungu entsapho.
Kuninzi ... Kodwa into ebalulekileyo kukuba wenze isigqibo malunga nokugcina intsapho.
Ekuqaleni kwimizana kwiintsapho ezinabantu abaninzi abantwana, abantwana abancinci babebandakanyeka kubantwana abadala. Ngoku iimeko zesimo sabantu zitshintshile ngokuphawulekayo. Ngaphandle kwintsapho enokwenza kakuhle, kunqabile ukuba abantwaba babini okanye abathathu bazalwa, ngoko ke oomama abancinci bancinci ukulungiswa kwengqondo ekukhuliseni abantwana, kwaye abanye baye bakuva kuphela ngezalamane okanye kwiintombi.
Ngokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabafazi bafika kwinqanaba elitsha. Kwaye ukuba inxaxheba yunina ingenakukuphepheka kwaye awukwazi ukuyiphepha, ke indima yisebe yindoda "yinto yokuzithandela", kulula ukuba abaleke kwiinkathazo zeentsapho-kubazali bakhe, ukusebenza, kubahlobo. Ngoko ukuziphatha njani kule meko, ukuze kungabikho ubuhlobo?
Kubalulekile ukuqonda into ephambili: umyeni utshintshile kwaye uyaziphatha ngenxa yokuba unomona! Kwaye kubalulekile ukubakho ukunyusa iimeko ngokugxeka kunye nokungafanelekanga, kodwa zama ukulungelelanisa imeko kwaye uphume kwimibango. Iingcali zengqondo zinika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwenza oku:
- Ukuxelela umlingane ngokungakhathali ukuba ngoku uzalisekisa umsebenzi ongowomyeni kuphela, kodwa noyise. Yaye ungafuneki kuye ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zikayise ngokukhawuleza. Mhlawumbi kuya kuthatha iinyanga, nokuba neminyaka. Ngokutsho kophando, utyalo lukayise lubonakaliswa kuphela ngomnyaka wesithathu wobomi bomntwana wakho;
- Ungazami ukubeka zonke iingxaki kumagxa akho, kwaye uthumele ngokuthula ubuncinci inxalenye encinci yenkxalaleko kuyihlo: uye kwi-pharmacy kwi-diapers, uthenge ukutya kwezingane, uye kwi-polyclinic yabantwana, ubambe intloko xa uhlamba. Emva kwexesha, ubaba omncinci uya kubandakanywa kwinkqubo. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza oku kwenzekayo, ngokukhawuleza ukuvusa iimvakalelo zikayise;
- kunika umyeni wakhe ingqalelo, khuluma ngezinto ezikukhathazayo kunye nemixhala. Akunakuxinezeleka, kuba ubomi bakhe buguqukile. Tshela umyeni wakho ukuba uyamthanda, ukuba uyakudinga ngoku ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili;
- Musa ukunyanisela okanye ukulinganisa iziganeko. Ukuba indoda yakho ibuya ekhaya isuka kwisiqingatha somsebenzi weeyure kamva, oku akuthethi ukuba ukopela kuwe;
- Musa ukuphazamisana nolwalamano lwabazali. Ingxaki zakho ziingxaki zakho nje. Inani elikhulu lemitshato liyahlukana ngokucacileyo kuba izalamane ziphazamisa ubudlelwane. Ewe, banqwenela wena kuphela, kodwa umphumo usapho oluphukileyo, ukudandatheka, uxinzelelo kumntwana;
- khumbula ukuba wena nomyeni wakho baneengqondo ezahlukeneyo! Kwaye oko kubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, akunandaba naye - luhlobo luni lwezinyo lebhokhwe elinalo neyokuqala, xa kuyimfuneko ukuhamba kunye nosana, ukuba ukhululekile ... le ngcaciso iyatshintsha ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko kutheni uzikhumbuze?
Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - nokuba kukho imeko, bobabini bayasimangalela. Kwaye kufuneka ulungise imeko yempikiswano kunye nawe, ngokuhlalutya kokuziphatha kwakho. Umntwana wakho wazalwa ukuba akhule ngokuvisisana nothando, kwaye oku kunokwenziwa kuphela ngabazali abonwabileyo abangathwali ukucaciswa kweengxabano zentsapho. IMF. Dostoyevsky inegama elichanekileyo: "Akukho nto ibaluleke ngakumbi ebomini, akukho nto ibaluleke ngakumbi kwaye inomsebenzi kunememori ekhanyayo nefudumeleyo, ecacileyo kwaye enomusa. Kubekwa kwintsapho kwaye kunceda ngexesha elinzima. " Kukho kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi ukuba umoya ohlala kwintsapho unempembelelo ebalulekileyo ekubunjweni kobuntu. Ngoko kuphela intsapho enobubele inako ukukhulisa umntwana onobuchopho, nangona indoda ishintshile emva kokuzalwa komntwana.