Ukutywala utywala kwabesifazana kuye kwaba yingxaki yelizwe lethu iminyaka emininzi. Kunyaka ngamnye abaninzi besifazane baqala ukusela rhoqo, kwaye ekugqibeleni, abanakukwazi ukunqoba ukunqwenela kotywala. Ngelishwa, utywala obusetyhini buba yingxaki nje kuphela kubafazi ngokwabo, kodwa nakwiintsapho zabo kunye ngakumbi nabantwana.
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Ubunxila obunxinxileyo kunye nobudlova kwiintsapho azinxulumene ngokuthe ngqo. Kunzima ukucinga, kodwa ngo-2011 ezandleni zabazali babo abangama-728 babulawa. Kwaye kuphela abathathu kulaba bantwana bamkelwa. Bonke abanye babulawa ngonina okanye ooyise. Kwaye phantse zonke iimeko kwiintsapho zabantwana abanjalo, abazali basebenzise utywala obuninzi.
Ubundlobongela kubantwana kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwiintsapho ezingasebenzi. Oku akumangalisi, kuba kwimeko yokuxilisa utywala, umntu uyeka ukuphendula ngokwaneleyo kwizinto aze azibonele izinto ezahlukeneyo. Ukuxiliswa koxinzelelo koomama kunye nogonyamelo lwasekhaya yisona sizathu esona sizathu sokuba abantwana bangene kwizibhedlele baze baye kwiinkedama. Ngelishwa, umthetho awukwazi ukuyeka kakuhle izinto ezinjalo, kuba ngumthetho onjalo abazali bafumana ixesha elifutshane okanye baqedwa ngabasebenzi bezohlwayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama abanalo abanomdla kubantwana babo nonke. Nobudlobongela kumntwana kubangelwa zicelo ezilula ezifana nokunika ukutya okanye ukulala.
Ukubetha kukaMama kwabantwana
Uninzi unina bahlaselwa ngabantwana abangenako ukuzimela-oko kukuthi, iintsana kunye nabantwana abaselula. Akuqhelekanga kwiimeko xa ugonyamelo olunjalo lukhokelela kwi-coma. Umfazi onxilisayo unomsindo, ngoko akaqondi into akwenzayo. Oku kubangela ukulimala okuninzi okwenzelwa umntwana ngezandla, inyawo kunye nezinto ezahlukeneyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, nguye ongekho ngaso sonke isikhathi obangela ukulwa kwintsapho yowesifazane oselayo. Kukho iimeko ezininzi xa abantwana behlekwa ngamanye amaqabane okanye abahlobo bokusela. Kule meko, abafazi ngokwabo babandezeleka ngokubetha, okanye bangabikho abantu abaphikisanayo, kuba abafuni ukufumana "phantsi kwesandla esishisayo". Kwiimeko ezinjalo, akuqhelekanga ukuba abantwana batshaywe, kodwa nokudlwengulwa.
Iimeko ezinjalo aziqhelwanga ngokuqhelekileyo kwiintsapho, kuba ukukhala kunye nokuxhaphazwa zivame ukuva kwiindawo zokuhlala zotywala. Abamelwane abayithobeli ingqalelo, kuba sele sele iqhelekile. Ngenxa yoko, unyaka ngamnye ngaphezu kwabantwana abayizinkulungwane ezilishumi baxhatshazwa okanye bafe.
Ubundlobongela kwintsapho yowesifazane ongeyiphuzo kunokungenzi ngokuzithandela. Oku kwenzeka xa umntwana emazi ngenxa yongamela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iintsana ziwela kwiibhedi, zichithe izixhobo ezinxilisayo ezitshatileyo okanye zishiye ngaphandle kweefestile. Kule meko, umyalelo uchaza umsebenzi wezohlwayo okanye imiqathango enemiqathango. Ngendlela, ukuba kukho abanye abantwana kwiintsapho ezinjalo, abazali abaphantse banqatshelwe amalungelo omzali. Bafumana isibonelelo somntwana kwaye baqhubeke besela ngaphandle kokuchitha ipenki kumntwana.
Ubunxila obunxinxileyo bubunzima ngakumbi kunowesilisa, kuba abantwana boomama abanxilisayo bahlala bengenabawo kwaye akukho mntu uwathabathela endlwini abaxhatshazwa ngayo. Ewe, kulungile kakhulu xa kukho oogogo okanye oomakhulu abakhulu abangasindisa umntwana kumama ongenakulungele ngexesha, ongayiqondi into akwenzayo nhlobo. Ngomfazi obunxila kakhulu kunzima ukuxoxisana ngaphandle komntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uwela ezinkwenkcweni aze aqale ukugxotha umsindo kwi-irritant, eyona mntwana.
Umntu oseburhulumenteni uyaxakeka, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuqhuba ingxoxo efanelekileyo kunye naye, ukumkholisa nantoni na, njalo njalo. Yingakho kungenakwenzeka nayiphi na indlela yokuqhelanisa ubudlelwane kwintsapho apho kukho umntu onxilisayo, ngakumbi xa bengumama. Isisombululo esisodwa kukuba ukukhawuleza okanye ukukhawuleza ukuphika amalungelo omzali. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akukho miqathango enjalo kumthetho, ngoko amashumi amawaka abantwana ahlupheka kwaye afe ezandleni zabazali babo ngonyaka.