Ingxaki yokunyaniseka.
Ingxaki yeentloni kufuneka ixazululwe kwaye akukho mfuneko ukuba umntwana ashiywe yedwa kunye nokoyika. Iimvakalelo zabantwana zibuqili kwaye zingabonakali, zitshintsha ngokulula. Unako ukukhawuleza ufune ukubonisa italente yakhe kwisigaba okanye phambi kweembononongo ezimbalwa kwaye uloyike ukubonakalisa uvulekile, utyhafile, uzive uhlekisiwe okanye ukungaqondi. Ukwesaba ngakumbi kuphazamisa ingqondo yomntwana, kucinisa imeko. Kwixesha elizayo, ukubonwa kuncinci kubantu abadala kubangela ukuba umntwana uvale yena ngokwakhe, ufihla impumelelo yakhe, uyeke ukuqeqesha, ukuba nje kungabangeli ukungazinzi. Abantwana abahlazileyo bahlala besincinci, bengenakukwazi ukuphumelela, banentlonelo kakhulu kumazwana. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukunceda umntwana ukuba ahlangabezane nale ngxaki kwaye uyeke ukwesaba ukuthetha nabaphulaphuli.
Iingcebiso.
Okokuqala, kufuneka wenze konke okusemandleni ukutshintsha indlela umntwana asabela ngayo kwisimo sengqondo sabanye abakuye, ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali baqaphela kuphela izinto ezimbi zabantwana, bamgxeka zonke iimpazamo. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo abazange badunyiswe ngenxa yento ayenze ngempumelelo, kuthatha njengendlela yokuziphatha kakuhle. Le yiphutha elikhulu kwinxalenye yabazali. Kubalulekile ukunika umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba unokufanelekela indumiso, kufuneka aziva uthando lwabazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba aziphathe njani. Kumele aqiniseke ukuba impumelelo yakhe iyabonwa kwaye iqondwa ngabazali, ukuba umgudu awuyi kuchitha.
Abantwana abanamahloni bayesaba yonke into emitsha, umzekelo, phambi kwabaphulaphuli ukwenza - lo luvavanyo olunzima kubo.
Ukuze unqobe ukwesaba okukodwa kokuthetha phambi koluntu, kubalulekile ukuba uzame kakhulu kwaye ukhuthaze ekhaya. Vumela abaphulaphuli bakhe babe ngabantwana bokuqala, kwaye abazali kunye nezihlobo. Kumele baxhase umntwana, bamnike ithuba lokuqonda ukuba wenza konke okulungileyo, ukumdumisa. Kwaye oko kuthethwa kwangcono kukuqala ukuba kuguqulwe kwaye kufakwe "utshintsho olutsha kwinkqubo yomcimbi". Ukuba umntwana usenamahloni - abe nxaxheba kwiintetho. Makuve uhlangothi lwenkxaso yakho ecaleni, kwaye kungekhona ndawo ukusuka kwicala. Abantwana, njengokwaziwayo, njengesihlunu sithatha iimpembelelo zokuziphatha kwabazali babo. Ukujonge kuwe njengendlalifa kwinkulumo, uya kuthatha umzekelo kuwe, ekuxelisa.
Ukungabi nxibelelwano.
Abantwana kaninzi banamahloni ngenxa yokungabi nxibelelwano, bobabini nabantu abadala kunye noontanga. Awazi nje ukuba aziphathe njani kule meko. Umsebenzi wakho ukufanisa iimeko ezifanayo, ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ahambe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye akhe umgca wokuziphatha ofanelekileyo. Ukuba intsapho yakho okanye abahlobo bakho banabantwana abaneminyaka efanayo, bazise kwiimidlalo ezidibeneyo. Bavumele ukuba baqhube phambi komnye, bedlala imidlala eyahlukeneyo, umzekelo, kwirejista, apho umntwana eya kuba ngutitshala, isikolo kunye nabafundi kunye notitshala nabanye. Kubalulekile ukuba le midlalo inendima ebonisa ukuthetha koluntu. Ngaphandle koko umntwana wakho uya kuba neentloni kwaye ngenxa yoko woyika abantu abadala ukuba bathethe okanye bathethe nabo.
Ukuba le nqanqo ibinqotshwa, ungaqhubeka. Emva komsebenzi ophumelelayo phambi kokuba umama akathethi ukuba umntwana akayi kulahleka emehlweni abantu abaninzi abangaziwayo.
Izizathu zokwesaba.
Zama ukuthetha nomntwana uze ufumene isizathu sokwesaba kwakhe. Mhlawumbi akayiloyiyo intetho ngokwayo, yokulibala isicatshulwa okanye amagama wengoma okanye indlela ophendulela ngayo ukusilela kwayo. Kule meko, kholisa umntwana ukuba isimo sakho sengqondo asiyi kutshintsha nayiphi na isiphumo senkulumo. Iimpazamo zenzeka kuzo zonke, nakwii-professionals zeklasi eliphezulu. Phinda uhlaziye intetho ngokucophelela ngokunokwenzeka, ukuze umntwana enze yonke imisebenzi ngaphandle kokungabaza, ngoko uya kukwazi ukunika amandla angakumbi kwiimvakalelo kunye noqhagamshelwano nabaphulaphuli. Chaza umntwana ukuba aziphathe njani kwimeko xa kwenzeka imeko engalindelekanga. Umzekelo, ukuba uyalibala loo mazwi okanye umise umculo. Musa ukugxila kulo, ukuze uvuse ukwesaba ngakumbi. Misele ukugqiba amacebo okuziphatha, umzekelo, ulibale amagama, khumbula oku kulandelayo uze uqhubeke ufunda okanye uhlabe. Oku kuya kumvumela umntwana ukuba abe nokuzithemba okongezelelweyo kwaye azinikezele ngokupheleleyo ekusebenzeni, engakhathaleli malunga noko kwenzeka. Tshela umntwana ukuba awukwazi ukuthanda wonke umntu ngokukhawuleza. Kulo hora kuya kubakho abo baxabisa kakhulu ukusebenza kwakhe kwaye kuya kuba soloko bengabathandiyo (umntwana wakho naye unokukhetha kwakhe). Oku akufanele kudibanise okanye kumise abantwana. Eli likarhulumente eliqhelekileyo kunoma yimuphi umculi, ngakumbi oqalayo, akukho nto eyikisayo ngale nto.
Amabhunga abaculi.
Abanye, mhlawumbi, baya kunceda iingcebiso zabaculi abanamava. Bahlala bethetha ukuba ukwenza umsebenzi ophumelelayo kuyimfuneko ukufumana umbukeli kwiholo, uze uthethe naye ngexesha lokuthetha. Kubantwana kungaba ngumama, uyise okanye abahlobo. Xa ebone ehholo, umntwana unokuziva unokholo olongezelelweyo, inkxaso, uya kuzuza umqondo wokuzinza. Kukho nokuba kungenzeka ukuba umntwana ngokuchaseneyo kufuneka abe nolwazi oluncinane kwiholo, ngamanye amaxesha longeza untloni kwaye luvimbele ukubonisa yonke into eyenziwa ngumculi omncinci. Umsebenzi wakho kukuqinisekisa ukuba yintoni imeko eya kuba yinto ekhululekile ngayo ukusebenza komntwana kwaye uzame ukubonelela.
Musa ukudimazeka xa usenakho ukuphumelela. Njalo xa uhlalutya imeko kunye nomntwana, zama ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni eyayikuthintela ngokucacileyo intshumayelo eyimpumelelo. Hlaziya, jabule, zama ukuzenza iimpazamo endala. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - thandana nokuxhasa umntwana wakho. Uqeqesho oluqhubekayo, ukunyamezela okunyamezelayo kuya kuba neziqhamo.