Kunzima ukucinga into embi ngaphezu kokufa okanye ukulimala komntwana owayephelile kwiminithi edlulileyo. Ukuxhatshazwa kwamhlanje akuqondanga nje kuphela, kungekhona ukuqonda ngokucacileyo kwaye kunentsingiselo, kodwa kubaluleke nokuba yingxaki ebalulekileyo yezoqoqosho, yezonyango nezentlalo. Phakathi kwezimbangela zokufa, ukuxhatshazwa kwimiqathango yesithathu. Kwaye, nangona kukho imisebenzi emininzi, uphando olunzulu kunye neenkqubo zokuthintela, akukho zinguqu ezibonakalayo ezilindelekileyo. Indawo ekhethekileyo ihlala yingozi yabantwana. Unokukhusela njani umntwana ngokulimala ngengozi? Kwaye kwenzeka Mhlawumbi! Uya kuqiniseka ngoku ngokufunda eli nqaku.
Izibalo, okwangoku, zibuhlungu: e-US, umzekelo, abantwana abangama-10 000 ngonyaka bayafa ngenxa yengozi. E-Rashiya ngo-2009, izibangela ezibalulekileyo zokufa kwabantwana abangaphantsi kwe-18 zalimala kunye neengozi. Babenama-34%, kwaye phakathi kwabantwana ukusuka kunyaka ukuya kwiminyaka emine-47%. Kwimeko yesifo sokuqala sabantwana, izingozi, ukulimala kunye neetyhefu zithatha indawo yesine (izifo zokuqala zentsapho zokuphefumula, izifo zesibini ezithathelwanayo kunye nezilonda ngeepasites, i-pathologies yesithathu yenkqubo ye-nervous). Ngomnyaka ngokulinganayo, ngamnye umntwana wesixhenxe uyalimala, enye yeyesithathu idinga unyango olude lwexesha elide, esinye kwishumi-esibhedlele. Yaye la mabhaliswe kuphela!
Ukuziphatha kufuneka kufundiswe!
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuxhatshazwa okwamkelwa ngumntwana akusiyo yimeko nje, kodwa umphumo, ngokuchanekileyo, isiphene semfundo. Iingcali zeengqondo zezingane eziye zafunda indima yentsapho kunye nokwenzeka kokulimala, ziye zachonga eziliqela izinto ezichaphazela ukuvama kwenzakala. Phakathi kwabo - utywala phakathi kwentsapho, ukungabi namdla kumntwana, ukungabi naluphi na ulawulo phezu kwabantwana nokulawula ukuziphatha kwabo.
Abantwana baseSixeko, kungakhathaliseki ubudala, basendaweni ephazamisayo kakhulu, indawo yabo yokuhlala igxininiswe ngokukhawuleza ngokuphuhliswa okukhulu, ubuninzi bezithuthi ezitrato nasezidibaneni. Ngaphandle kwendawo yokuhlala yomntwana omncinane ulinde izingozi ezininzi: ngengozi eshiywe kwisikiti esiphezulu sendawo, inaliti elahlekileyo yokuthunga, iphantsi. Indlu enhle yaseMpumalanga, ngokufanelekileyo ukuzalisekisa ngaphakathi, iphendulela kwisixhobo esinamandla, ukuba ikhutshwe ngumntu oneminyaka elilodwa eneetafile ekupheleni kwetafile ...
Izindlela eziqhelekileyo zabazali - ukuba bangaqhubi, bangathathi, bangazithinteli, ukuba bangasondeli-kuba ukuqonda kwabantwana akunakufikeleleka, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bakwenza izinto ezichasene ngokupheleleyo. Umfundi uphando kwihlabathi, ungumphandi: yonke into ejikelezileyo kufuneka ihlolwe, ifuthe, ihlolwe kwaye ifakwe kwinto ethile. Akunakwenzeka, akunakuncedo kwaye kuyingozi nokuba ugcine umgca umntwana kwaye unqande yonke into.
Indlu ephephile.
Xa umntwana eqala ukuhamba, zonke izinto anokufikelela kuzo, kufuneka zisuswe okanye zilungiswe kwakhona. Kubalulekile okwethutyana ukususa kwizinto ezixabisekileyo, izinto ezincinci, amayeza, iiglasi kunye nezitsha zeekheram, izixhobo ezibukhali, iikhemikhali zendlu. Iincwadi kwiibhalulo zifuna ukuba zinyanzelane kunye kangangokuba umntwana akanakuzikhupha. Iziseko ze-Electro kufuneka zivaliwe ngeeplagi ezikhethekileyo. Ngomntwana, nayiphi na into yasemakhaya ukufumanisa, ukufumana ukuba ngokukhawuleza iba yinto yokudlala. "Iimathoyilo" ezinjalo zingabelana ngamaqela amathathu.
1. Eyona nto imathoyilo yabantwana. Zifanele zifikeleleke rhoqo, zihambelana neminyaka, zikwazi ukuzinyameka kwaye zomelele ngokwaneleyo. Imfuno ebalulekileyo kubo ukhuseleko! Musa ukunika abantwana amathoyizi ngeengalo ezibukhali, ngokungadibanisi kwiindawo ezincinci. Khetha ezo ziza kuhlamba ngokulula: ukusuka kwi-rubber, iplanga, iplastiki. Yenza amalungiselelo e-shelves esezantsi ukwenzela ukuba ukuba ufuna ukudlala, umntwana akayi kunyuka ukuya phezulu.
2. Izinto zezindlu ezingathathwa phambi kobazali: zonke izinto ezincinci, ii-ceramics, ipensela, iisisi zezingane.
3. Izinto ezingenako ukuthathwa ngesandla: izicathulo, iinaliti, imimese, iifayili zeeil, iiinaliti ezibukhali, i-awl. I-glass beaker engekho yingozi, insimbi, imifino, iployka. Ukuba usebenza nale nto kunye nomntwana wakho kufuphi, qaphela!
Inkcazelo kubazali.
Kukho umgangatho omhle wobuKristu: "Kubalulekile ukuvelisa umntwana xa ihambelana nebhentshi." Ungabi nexesha, ushiye ngomso - umphumo awuyi kukugcina ulinde. Kukho umthetho ongabhalwa phantsi we "isandla esifutshane" - umntwana kufuneka ahlale esondele, phantsi kolawulo: ukuba awuyi kumbona - kufuneka uve, ukuba awuyiva - kufuneka ubone!
Amava abonisa ukuba indlu ecocekileyo necocekileyo iyisiseko sokukhusela umntwana. Iimangalisa ezingathandekiyo, izingozi kunye nokungonwabi kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo xa izinto 'zingazazi indawo yazo.' Ngoko, soloko ususa loo nto ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyisebenzise. Ukuze ufikelele umsebenzi womntwana, kunokwenzeka ukuhambisa zonke izinto ezinobungozi kumashalofu kunye neekhabhinethi ukuya phezulu, kwaye ushiye yonke into ekhuselekileyo, ithambileyo kwaye ayinakucacisekanga kwii-shelf ezantsi. Kwitheyibhile yekhofi kwigumbi eliqhelekileyo unokulungiselela amaphephancwadi amandulo, iincwadi zezingane kunye nemifanekiso.
Ukungenelela ngokukhawuleza komzali kuyadingeka ukuba umntwana enze into engavumelekanga: uphakamisa umtya wesigarethi, uphonswe ngumntu, iqela leglasi. Ukuhamba komntwana akufanele kubangele ukukhathazeka okanye ukucaphuka. Oku kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yokuphuhliswa kwayo. Ukudlala umntwana ohlala emzimbeni, ovalwe kwaye othulileyo kufuneka abone ukwesaba okungaphezulu kunefidget.
Ukulimala kunye nobudala.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukholelwa ukuba ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu, ukuthintela ukulimala kwabantwana kuphelelweyo kuphela ngokulawulwa ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo, ukususwa kwezinto ezinobungozi kummandla wombono. Isohlwayo le ngxakini kule minyaka ilala ngokupheleleyo nabazali kunye nootitshala. Ngexesha elifanayo, uxinzelelo olunzulu, uvavanyo olunzulu kunye nokungabi nkululeko ngaphandle kokwenza ukuzimela akukwenzeki ukuba kubekho ukulimala okuphantsi. Ukususela kwiminyaka emithathu, uhlobo kunye neemeko zokulimala zitshintshile. Umntwana sele sele efuna ukuzimela, kwaye ukubeka esweni ngokungqongqo ngoku kwamkelekanga. Ngenxa yoko, umsebenzi oyintloko kukuhlanganiswa kwemigangatho kunye nezakhono zokuziphatha ezifunyenweyo. Esi siqinisekiso sokubaluleka kwezenzo zabantwana kungekhona kwimeko yentsapho kuphela, kodwa nakwiqela lezingane.
Umntwana waya esikolweni. Ngoku ininzi ixesha elichitha kwiqela, ukufumana ubuntu bobukhosi. Ukufikelela kuma-30% okwenzakalo kwabantwana abafumana izikolo ezikolweni, kunye no-61% - emva kweeyure-, emva kokutshintsha, kwisikolo esikolweni. Ukuxhatshazwa kweemidlalo zonyaka wesikolo kuchazwa yinto yokuba umdlalo uhlangene, akuyena inkqubo ngokwayo ebalulekileyo, kodwa umphumo. Ngenxa yoko, ukuziphatha komoya, umngcipheko, ukuzithiba okuphantsi. Ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza imeko yemidlalo kunye nento yokothusa (ixesha lokubaleka, gxuma kude, ulwe) yenza ukuba ukulimala kungabi nakwenzeka.
Xa uneminyaka eyi-14-15, ubomi bubetha intloko! Abantwana basabela ngokukhawuleza kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo, bahlula, banomdla, bahamba kakhulu. Ewe, ukuba umntwana usemidlalo, kwaye ukuba awuyiyo-i-outlet iba sitrato ... kuye inkululeko, ukuzimela, ukuzimela. Ngako oko, amakhwenkwe amakhwenkwe akhulelweyo aphindwe kathathu ngokuphindaphindiweyo-ngokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yokuphathwa ngokungakhathali kwezinto ezibukhali, ukuchithwa kweekhemikhali ezahlukeneyo kunye nomlilo ovulekileyo. Okuqhelekileyo kule minyaka, ukunyanzeliswa kwesibindi kunye nomngcipheko kunokubonakaliswa ngokungalunganga kunye nokungabikho komthetho. Kwaye umphumo ukuwa kwi-projectile yezemidlalo, ukusuka emthini, ukuqhutyelwa kwizantsi lomlambo kumanzi angatye.
Kulo nyaka, kukho umnqweno wemvelo wokuzimela, ukubonakalisa amandla, ukugqwesa, ukufumana amathuba, okungazibonakalisa kwiimeko zokugonyana, ukuchithwa kwezinto, ubudlova kunye nosizi olwenziwe ngabaontanga. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukukhula okuqhubekayo kunye nophuhliso lomzimba, ukunyuka kwengqondo nengqondo yengqondo ngokukhawuleza kuphelisa abantwana, kwaye ukungabi nako kwexesha lokuphumla kubathintela. Ngenxa yoko, ukunciphisa ingqondo, ukunganaki, ukuxhamla, okuthetha ukuwa, ukuvuthwa, amanxeba, ukutshisa. Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yezinto ezingaqondakaliyo kwizenzo zabantu abadala zixhuma ukusuka kumgangatho wesibini, zihamba ngokukhwaza kwinqanaba lebhuloho, zimi ekuphezu kwephahla kwakhiwo esenyukayo, njl njl. Ngaba indlela yokuzimela, ukucacisa umda wokukhuseleko komntu. Ngelishwa, i-intuition ngamanye amaxesha iyakhohlisa.
Intsapho ngezindlela ezininzi kudala olu khetho, uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha oluqulethwe ngamava kunye nemikhwa yezizukulwana ezidlulileyo. Kwaye ukuba kukho imeko ethile engozi ukuqonda "akusebenzi", ngoko ngokukhawuleza ujoyina lo mboniso wokuziphatha (ulwaphulo, ukubuyela emuva, ukuhlaselwa, ukuhlaselwa, ukungabikho komsebenzi), okwakhiwa ngokukhuliswa kwintsapho. Ukusuka kwindlela umntwana akhuliswa ngayo, yiziphi iimpawu ezibalulekileyo aziphetheyo, kungekhona nje kuphela impilo yakhe yokomoya exhomekeke kuyo, kodwa kunye nesimo somzimba, kunye nobomi obulandelayo.