Yintoni okufanele ibe yintokazi efanelekileyo?

Mhlawumbi, ngamnye wethu ebomini ebomini bam ubuza lo mbuzo: "Ndiyazibuza ukuba yintoni na ukuba ibe ngumfazi ococekileyo?" Esi sihloko sinomdla, kwaye sinquma ukuqhuba uphando oluthile phakathi kwamadoda. Ekubeni amadoda, kwiimeko ezininzi, azicingela ngakumbi kunengqiqo yecala elingenamandla, akumangalisi ukuba uninzi lwabo ba dliwano-ndlebe bavakalisa ukuba akukho nanye. Ayikho ibhinqa efanelekileyo kwimvelo, kwaye ke akukho nto ikwazi ukuba nayo. Kodwa yile nto esikuphumelelayo ukuyifumana kwindoda enothando kunye nephupha. Njengoko kuboniswa ngophando, babiza ngokuba ngumfazi ozilumkileyo owaziyo oko amadoda ayifunayo ukuba abone kwaye aziphathe ngokufanelekileyo. Yaye yileyo ndlela esiza kukuxelela ngayo ngoku.

Ngoko, ibhinqa elifanelekileyo ngumfazi othi:
1. Ungaze uzame ukubonisa ngokuthe ngqo kwaye ngokusobala into engaphezulu kwendoda kwaye ufuna ukubeka igunya phezu kwakhe.
2. Kufuneka ukuba nako onke amaxesha ukuba abe ngongoma-ncinane (ngokuqinisekileyo ngokumodareyitha!).
3. Ukwazi ukutshintsha nokulungelelanisa neemfuno zabantu.
4. Uthemba kakhulu kwaye ukhululiwe ngesondo.
5. Ngaba unako ukudlala ngothando kunye nokwakha amehlo.
6. Ukuphucula rhoqo izakhono ekukhohliseni nasekugcineni amadoda.

Ukususela kwininzi yoluntu uphando kwakhona kwafumanisa ukuba imbono yombono otshatileyo kunye nabangatshatileyo kule ngxaki iyahluke. Into eyenzi kukuba baqala izinto eziphambili ngokuphathelele amantombazana nabasetyhini. Yintoni ekumele ibe ngabasetyhini abafanelekileyo, ngokwamadoda ashatileyo? Okokuqala, uqoqosho, olusebenzayo nolunzulu malunga nabo kunye neengxaki zabo. Zizo zi impawu zijonga iimpawu ezifanelekileyo zowesifazane oyinyaniso, kwaye ziyakhumbula ngobuhle kangangoko. Ukungatshatanga ngokuchasene nomtshato, ubuninzi bebhinqa bayawuxabisa ubuhle bakhe, ubunqunu, ubufazi, kunye nobuchule nokukholisa indoda.

Le yoluvo lwababalandeli bethu, kodwa ngaba abafazi bacinga ntoni ngale nto? Yintoni okufanele ibe yintokazi efanelekileyo kwimbono yabo? Iingqungquthela zibonise ukuba kubasetyhini kwindawo yokuqala, iimpawu ezifana nobuhle, ubuntu obuqaqambileyo, ubulili kunye nesitayela zibalulekile.

Kwaye uthini umbono ovelele ngendima yabasetyhini ekukhuliseni abantwana? Apha, uluvo lwabantu abaninzi nabasetyhini badibana. Abasetyhini banqabile kwaye baninzi kunobume kunabo madoda, kwaye ngoko ke inxaxheba ebalulekileyo ekukhuliseni kwabo akungabazeki kubo.

Ewe, kwimbono yefilosofi, ibhinqa elifanelekileyo kufuneka kuqala liphuculwe kwaye lihlale liphucula ngokwengqondo nangokwengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, nje ngomntu.