Ngaba abantwana bakho bakhupha ngaphandle kangangokuthi kufuneka ukhwaza phezulu kwezwi lakho? Ngamanye amaxesha awunakufumana enye indlela yokubabiza ukuba ulandele? Sincoma ukuba uzimisele ukuqeqeshwa endlwini ngaphandle kokuphakamisa izwi lakho. Uxolo kwintsapho aluyinto elula njengoko kubonakala ngathi ukuqala. Kodwa kunenzuzo kuwe ukuseka ubudlelwane nomntwana, ukuba yonke into ibe yinto ephakamileyo ngokukhawuleza ngayo: amalungu entsapho azivale kakuhle kwaye bonke bayavuya!
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- fundisa umntu ofanelekileyo kwihlabathi elikhohlakeleyo kwaye ngamanye amazwe. Wonke umntu uzama ukukwenza ngendlela yakhe: ezinye zixazulula yonke imibuzo ngokukhala, abanye bahlale bezolile, kodwa banqanda umntwana wenkululeko, abanye bathanda ukugcina iingxaki zabo kwaye bahambe kude nomntwana. Owesine akafuni ukuhlangabezana nokusilela kwabantwana babo, kwaye endaweni yokuzicoca rhoqo kwiindawo zabo zokucoca, ukugaya amazinyo abo, ngokwabo bazisa umyalelo apho. Kodwa zonke ezi ndlela zokusebenzisana nabantwana ziphosakeleyo.
Into ephambili ekufuneka uyiqonde kukuba uya kuwufanelekela igunya lomntwana kuphela xa uhlala uzinzile kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele ube nomdla kuyo yonke into. Yenza ukuba umntwana azi ukuba unika iingcebiso, kodwa akukho mzekelo ungena emphefumlweni - ngoko uya kumnika inkululeko yokuzikhethela kwaye uya kuba nethuba lokuva. Utshaba lwakho aluyintsana, kodwa iimvakalelo zakho ezingalawulekiyo.
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Ukuba umntwana wakho nayiphi na imeko unokukwazi ukukukhupha ngokukhawuleza, oku akunakubizwa ngokuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka iqondwe kukuba nguwe kuphela, kwaye ongeyena oonyana bakho. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso:
1. Ukuqonda okukukhathazayo
Ngamnye wethu uyazi ukuba yiyiphi into esicasula ngayo. Kodwa oku kulungele konke oku kwaziwa kubantwana. Babona ubuthathaka bethu. Ngoko uthathe umoya okhulu kwaye uvale umlomo wakho xa uva, umzekelo: "Ndiyakukuthiya!", "Emuva!", "Umsebenzi wakho ubaluleke ngaphezu kwam!" - ngokukodwa ibinzana elitsho ngqo: "Kuya kuba ngcono Ndandinomnye umama! "
2. Musa ukungena kwintsimi yomntwana
Wonke umntwana unendawo yakhe kwindlu. Igumbi elihlukileyo yindlela yokuphuhlisa ubuntu bomntwana wakho. Ungabi ngumtyholi kwaye uhlale umba kwizinto zakhe, ukhumbuze ukucoca nokuhlambalaza. Ekugqibeleni, ngolunye usuku kusasa uya kuvuswa kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba lixesha lokuba afune ukufumana lakhe igumbi. Njalo naxa ufuna ukukhumbuza umntwana malunga nokucoca, qala uhambe kwaye uhlambulule igumbi lakho.
3. Musa ukubuza imibuzo jikelele
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukuphendula ngokunyanisekileyo. Kwaye ukuba impendulo ibonakala ingenangqiqo, uya kuqalekisa ukuba, ngenxa yoko, iya kukhula ibe yinto embi. Inyaniso kukuba kunzima ukuphendula imibuzo: "Unjani?" Okanye "Uziva njani?" Uninzi lwethu aluyithandi impendulo "Yesiqhelo", kuba ngokuqinisekileyo ayithethi nantoni na - ayinakuthetha nto. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukwazi malunga nomntwana womntwana, yiba ngakumbi ngakumbi kwaye uzame ukugcina izinto ezihambelanayo nemicimbi yakhe. Akayena mzini kuwe.
4. Mvumele umntwana angavumelani nawe
Oku kunzima. Kodwa inkululeko yomgwebo iya kubeka intlonelo phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho. Mamela iingxelo zabantwana kwaye akukho mzekelo ungawugwebi le ngongoma yokujonga. Zama ukuchaza "okulungileyo nokubi," ngoxa ugxininisa ukuba awuzami ukunyanzelisa into.
5. Hlonipha ukhetho lwakhe
Ukususela kwiminyaka ethile umntwana unelungelo lokuchitha ixesha lakhe lokukhulula ngendlela afunayo. Yithi, endaweni yokutyelela intombi yakho, ufuna ukuhamba nabahlobo kwi-ice rink - ngoko makenze. Uluntu lwabahlobo lungumnandi ngakumbi kunokuthetha nabantu abadala ngomsebenzi. Iindleko zePocket nazo zibaluleke kakhulu. Nika kakhulu njengoko unako, umfundise ukugcina. Khumbula: ukuba uthethi kwaye yintoni umntanakho ayichitha imali ye-pocket, akaze afunde ukulahla.
6. Zama ukumbamba umntwana ngamehlo akho
Ukuba ngethuba lencoko ukhangeleka ngqo emehlweni akhe, umzekelo, ukuqonda ukuba ulala okanye cha, umntwana uqala ukuxhalabisa, nokuba unembeza wakhe ucacile. Ungazami ukumbona umntwana wakho ngqo, ufanele uyiqonde kwaye ungayesabi.
7. Musa ukumkela ifowuni
Inkunzi eneminyaka emibini ithatha umkhonto wekhitsane emva kokuba unina avimbele. Intombazana ithi kumama: "Wena unina owonayo kakhulu emhlabeni. Ngenxa yokuba andinakukwenza oko wonke umntu angakwenza. " Abantwana bakho bazama ukukuthabatha ubomi, kodwa uyazi ukuba lo mkhosi awusayi kuqalisa uze ufune ukuthatha inxaxheba kuwo. Endaweni yokuthatha ifowuni, thabatha ixesha lokuhamba. Vala ngokukhawuleza amehlo akho uze uye kwigumbi lakho. Ixesha liyakunceda upholile, uphazamise. Kwaye umntwana wakho uya kuqonda ukuba le nombolo ayiyi kusebenza nawe.