Xa umntwana wam elele e-stroller, ndifuna ngokwenene ukuza ixesha apho sinokudlala khona kwi-sandbox. Ixesha lifikile, kwaye ndandilungelelwanga ngokupheleleyo ukunxibelelana nabanye abantwana. Indlela yokuziphatha xa umntwana efuna ukudlala nentonti yomnye umntu, kwaye omnye umntwana akafuni ukunikela? Kuthekani ukuba sithatha into yokudlala kwaye umntwana uyakhala? Ngaba kukufanelekile ukubuyela okanye ukuvumela omnye umntwana ukuba adlale? Kuthekani ukuba omnye umntwana ulahle isanti kwaye unina akaphenduli? Ngaba umntwana kufuneka afundiswe ukunika utshintsho okanye cha? Ngubani ongachaza, afundise aze abonise umzekelo wakhe kumntwana indlela yokuziphatha nokuthetha nabanye abantwana? Ewe, abazali, okokuqala, unina.
Indlela yokuziphatha kwimpikiswano phakathi kwabantwana? Sijonge imeko. Mhlawumbi omnye umntwana akafuni ukucaphukisa umntwana wakho, kodwa kwenzeka. Ngokomzekelo, ukukhubeka ngengozi kwaye uphoxise umntwana wakho. Ngoko ke, umntwana wakho ufuna ukuchaza ukuba intombazana ayifuni okanye inkwenkwe ayifuni ukumcaphukisa.Ukuba yonke into yayingamabomu, ke uhlale phantsi phambi komntwana womnye umntu kwaye usho yonke into eyenzekayo. "Andiyithandi ukuba uthathe amathoyizi aseAndryusha. Ukuba ufuna ukudlala ngeemidlalo zakhe, kufuneka ucele imvume. Ukuba u-Andryusha akayiqondi, uya kubelana nawe. Kwaye ngoku kufuneka ndizithabathele imoto kuwe, kuba u-Andrew akayivuyo (umntwana wakho uyakhala). " Kwakhona, sichazela umntwana wethu ukuba simele sicele imvume kumnini weetoyiti. Xa umntwana wam efuna ukudlala nentonti yomnye umntu, sasiya kumnye umntwana, kwaye ndathetha into enje: "UAndrew wayeyathanda ukudlala kunye nomatshini wakho wokubhala, kwaye unika umshini wakhe wokubhala. Ukuba awunakucingi, makhe sitshintshe. "
Ukuba umntu womnye umntu akayikukhumbula, ke utshintshiselwano, kodwa, kwisicelo sokuqala somnye umntwana okanye sakho, amathoyizi abuyiselwa kubanikazi. Emva kwakho konke, ngenxa yomntwana, ithoyiyonto ayiyona nje itayiti, yinto yakhe, ihlabathi lakhe, elilodwa kuphela elinelungelo lokulidla. Ndiyaxolisa kubantwana kwibala lokudlala, oomama bathi, musa ukukratshi, vumela omncinci ukudlala. Ngaloo nto bayinika umntwana ukuba baqonde ukuba kweli hlabathi akukho nto, kwaye akakwazi ukulahla izinto zakhe. Khawucinge nje ukuba ukuba lo mama unxunywe ngamacici okanye ikhonkco, ngenxa yokuba unina akabiyo, ngaba wayeya kunika? Andiyicingi njalo.
Ukuba omnye umntwana uphosa isanti kuwo onke, ngoko sibonisa ukungafuni. Ukuthobela umntwana ngesandla uze uthi ungayithandi xa uphosa isanti, ukuba ufuna ukuhamba, unokukhangela ibhola eludongeni okanye udlala nomnye kwibhola.
Xa umntwana wakho efunda ukuthetha, unokuthi akuthandi. Okwangoku, uvakalisa. Ukuba umntwana ushaywe, kufuneka uxelele umoni lowo ongathandi ukuba umbethe umntwana wakho, uyabuhlungu.
Ukuba oomama bayazi ukuba abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-8 abanakukwazi ukulawula kakuhle indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha banokuzenza izenzo ezingafanelekanga, abayi kuthululela intshutshiso yabo kubantwana abadala. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwaneleyo kubantwana ukuba umntu uchaze kubo ukuba kule meko akayiyo ngokufanelekileyo. Abantwana bayamkela imigaqo abantu abadala abasetyenzisiweyo kwisayithi, umzekelo, ukuguqula kwi-swing kuyimfuneko ngokukhawuleza, misa i-carousel, ukuba incinci ibuze, njl njl. Nangona kunjalo, imfundo yomntwana womnye umntu akufanele ibe yinxalenye yemisebenzi yakho, ngumsebenzi wabazali bakhe.
Ayikho nayiphi na indlela onokukwazi ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba anike utshintsho. Akuyiyo yonke into isombululwe ngamandla. Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba axoxe.
Ukuba umqalisi weengxabano wayengumntwana wakho, ngoko sichazela umntwana wakho ukuba kukho izenzo omele uphendule ngazo. Kwaye, ukuba kukho nabanye abadala abakwazi ukubonisa ukunganeliseki kwabo, ukukhawuleza, ukukhala.
Xa umntwana engakwazanga ukuthetha kwaye kuphela umama onokuqonda oko umntwana akufunayo, umama kufuneka akhulume iimfuno zomntwana wakhe. Abantwana bakopha indlela abaziphatha ngayo yabazali, njengesihlunu esithatha ulwazi kwilizwe langaphandle. Akukho mntu uphikisana nenyaniso yokuba umsebenzi wabazali ukufundisa umntwana ukuba asebenzisane neli hlabathi, akhethe, athathe inxibelelwano, afumane ukunyaniseka.