Yintoni eyenziwa ngabantombazana bethu?
Amantombazana kaninzi anesisindo esincinci kunye nokuphakama ekuzalweni kunamakhwenkwe, athola ubunzima ngokukhawuleza. Kukholelwa ukuba amantombazana athuthukisa intetho ngokukhawuleza, izakhono ezininzi ezisebenzayo zifundwayo, kwaye oku kunjalo.
Inyaniso kukuba ukusukela ekuzaleni ukuya kwixesha elithile umsebenzi wobunqamlezo obunxele bentliziyo (obangela uxanduva olukhulunywe ngayo) kumantombazana unamandla kakhulu kunomsebenzi wolungileyo. Yingakho kulula ukudibanisa, kulula ukuhlaziya entsha, kulula ukuyichaza.
Kungatsholwa ukuba amantombazana aphulaphule kwaye anenyameko kunamakhwenkwe. Nangona kunjalo, lo msebenzi unenkcazelo yakhe-bafuna ukufumana imvume. Amakhwenkwe, ngokuchasene, ngokuqhelekileyo, "ngenxa yobubi" okanye "nangona". Kule nto baboshwe ngumbuso wolawulo olufanelekileyo lweengqondo, olujongene neemvakalelo.
Kwiminyaka yenguqu, imeko iguquka ngokubanzi. Amakhwenkwe, awathabathe wonke umntu onobuqhetseba ngokuziphatha kwawo okubi, ukunyamezela ukutshintshwa kweendawo ezizimeleyo kolunye uhlanga kunolula, kodwa amantombazana ahlala eneqhankqalazo. Umntu othobekileyo uqala ukuguqula "ngokungacwangciswanga", abafundi abazukisayo baba yiminyaka emithathu ubudala, njalo njalo.
Intombi kaTata okanye umama we-ponytail?
Ngokuqhelekileyo abapapa bacinga ukuba imfundo yamantombazana inomsebenzi wesisu kuphela. Ndingenza njani ukuba utata wam adlale nendodakazi yam ngamadonki okanye athande iindlokhwe zam? Kodwa oku akuyimfuneko! Ubaba onomdla ngokwenene uya kuhlala efumana into enokuyenza nentombi yakhe. Into ephambili kukunyamekela umntwana.
Indima kayise, njengomkhuseli olungileyo kunye olungileyo, kubalulekile ukuba intombazana ibe nolwazi olufanelekileyo lweentsapho. Kwixesha elizayo, umyeni wakhe, uya kuqhathaniswa noyise.
Sekuneminyaka yobudala, le nkwenkwe iya kuqala ukudweba ngaphezulu koyise. Kwaye intombazana umzekelo omkhulu uya kuba ngumama. Amantombazana kunye nokuvuthwa badlala nezinto zamamama, izimonyo, bafunde ukunceda ngeenxa zonke zendlu, badlale ngamadonki, bezama indima yomama. Ubaba onobubele nolungileyo ubalulekile kwiinjongo ezininzi, kodwa kwimfundo yobuntombi, intombazana ayikwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komama!
Iintlobo zabalingani bamantombazana
Amantombazana ahluke. Bahluke kwiimeko, imbonakalo, ukuziphatha. Kwaye imfundo, eqinisweni, inefuthe elikhulu ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni komntwana. Musa ukuchasene nendalo yomntwana wakho kwaye ungaphuli. Jonga nje indlela kwaye ungayikhombisi ngokucacileyo kwindlela efanelekileyo.
Imfundo kunye neentlobo zobuntu - izinto ezingafaniyo. Ngokomzekelo wokuziphatha, singakwazi ukwahlula iintlobo eziphambili zeentlobo zamantombazana:
The Princess
Olu luhlobo lwangoku luninzi. Ubudala bomzali buyanda, abantwana kwintsapho bavame ukuvela xa unina ujikeleze okanye iminyaka engama-30. Ukuba ibhinqa lizalwa intombi, ngoko ke uzama ukukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Bavuzwa ngayo yonke into. Ngoko ke, kwintsapho apho "ikhosana" enjalo inyuselwa khona, igama lokugqibela kunoma yintoni na kumntwana. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba into engekho phezu kwayo, ngokukhawuleza iqala ukuba yinto engabonakaliyo kwaye ihlaziywa.
Kwiintombi ezinjalo, ixabiso eliphambili libonakala ngathi lihle, lithetha kuphela ngee-oda kunye nokugqitywa. Ukuba umntwana wakho ufanelekele le nkcazo - kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza! Okokuqala, intombi yamantombazana, ejwayele ukufuna, akuyi kuba lula ukuhlala kwihlabathi elidala, apho kungekhona wonke umntu ozama ukumkholisa. Ngubani oya kuthanda olu unyango? Okwesibini, ungavumeli ubuhle bangaphandle bube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kumntwana. Emva koko, kwixesha lokuguquka, amantombazana ahlala ajika "ngodada olubi" ixesha elithile. Oku kuya kuba ngumsindo onomntu umntu ongeyena ongaphandle ngaphandle kwayo yonke into. Okwesithathu, intombazana kufuneka iqonde ukuba i-princess ayiyona idonki enhle kwaye enhle. Lo ngumntu, ngaphezu kwayo yonke inceba, efanelekileyo, enenkathalo nechanekileyo.
"Ubhedu olubi"
Lo ngumzekelo weengcamango ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba le ntombazana ingakhange ibonakale njengodonki ococekileyo, oku akufanelekile ukuba abazali bakhe bamhlambele ngale nto! Ubunzima benkqantosi ekhohlakeleyo isoloko isetyenziswe ukususela ebuntwaneni (ikakhulukazi ngumama).
Ukuba esemntwaneni intombazana ihlala iva ukuhlaziywa okubuhlungu okanye ihlekisayo malunga nokubonakala kwayo, yenza i-inferiority complex. Akunakwenzeka ukukulungisa kamva! Intombazana enje kwixesha elizayo iza kuba neengxaki ezininzi, akunakwenzeka ukuba uyonwabile ebomini bakhe.
Nika ingqalelo kwimimiselo emininzi yabasetyhini abadumile ehlabathini, ekuthiwa yi-frank kubi. Nangona kunjalo, baye baphumelela empilweni, bayavuya ngokuthanda kunye nokwaneleyo. Imfihlelo kukuba ukuzithemba kwabo akunakucatshangelwa ukususela ebuntwaneni! Umntu othembekileyo uhlala ephumelela. Ziqonde oku ngokwakho, uze uvumele intombi yakho iqonde.
"I-Peppy yindawo yokugcina impahla"
Aba bana bantwana abakhutheleyo. Lo ngumzekelo wenkwenkwe yamantombazana, kunye namadolo aphukileyo ngonaphakade kunye nobuso obungcolileyo. "Hooligan! Drachunya! Intombazana! Ngaba iintombi ziziphatha ngale ndlela? !! "- ukuba loo mazwi uhlaziya rhoqo intombazana yakho, ke lo ngumntwana wololu hlobo.
Khumbula, awukwazi ukutshintsha umntwana ococekileyo! Ukulungelelanisa amandla akhe ngendlela efanelekileyo. Imidlalo ehamba phambili, isangqa sezingane zasenkulisa, icandelo lezemidlalo. Akukho nto iqhuba ngayo intombazana enjalo kwisikolo somculo, bhetele mnike isifundo apho unokuhambisa khona, ukugalela amandla.
Cinderella
Okumangalisayo kukuba, ngexesha lethu kukho namantombazana anjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo bavela kwintsapho enkulu, apho kufuneka uhlale unceda unyoko ekhaya. Ukungalingani kwempahla kubandakanya ukukhuliswa kanzima. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana banceda ngokuzithandela, kodwa kwintsapho yakho iyajika kumntwana osemsebenzini - kufuneka utshintshe into ethile.
Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde umntwana ukuba asebenze, kunjalo, kodwa kuzo zonke izinto umlinganiselo ubalulekile. Ukuba uphakamisa intombi yakho iCinderella, lumele ukuba uya kusebenzela ubomi bakhe ngomntu, musa ukulungisa ubomi bakhe, akayi kuvuya ngokwenene. Kodwa kuya kuhlala kusekho umntu okhawuleza ukuqonda ukuba intombazana ngumqeshwa wesikhathi esigcwele kwaye uya kuhlala entanyeni yakhe!