Ewe, intsapho ayinikiweyo njengesithintelo kumthando omkhulu kunye onomdla, kufuneka ukuba yenziwe. Kwaye kufuneka kufundwe oku. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba yeyiphi intsapho abayeni abakhulayo, kwaye yintoni isimo sabo sengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuthetha phakathi kwabo ngoku kwintsapho entsha.
Ngethuba lethu lokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, sixakekile kwaye sisoloko siphuthuma. Ithelevishini igcwalisa lonke ixesha lethu lokuphumla, saqala ukuthetha kunye. Wonke umntu uyedwa, uxakeke kunye nemicimbi yakhe, neengcinga zakhe.
Kwaye abantu babuthana ngokuhlwa ukuba bangabi ndawonye, bathethe omnye nomnye, kunye neTV ukuvala ndawonye. Yile ndlela ukugqithwa kwembambano kuqalisa ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane beentsapho . Ubuthakathaka ulwimi oluthetha ngolunye usuku. Kwaye ukuhluleka ukuthetha nomnye kubangela ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho.
Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano kubangela ukuhlukana kwabatshatileyo. Ukunxibelelana okufanayo, baqala ukuqonda kakuhle kwaye bhetele. Izinto eziphambili zenkcubeko yokunxibelelana zi: ukuvelana, ukunyamezela, ukuthobela, ukunyamezela. Kwaye oku akuyona into ebalulekileyo yokuthetha, kwaye kubalulekile ukuva umntu kwaye uve.
Inkcubeko yokunxibelelana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ichaphazela kakhulu ukungahambisani nokungaqondi kakuhle kwintsapho. Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokunyuka kobudlelwane kukuba ukungakwazi kwabatshatileyo ukuba baziphathe ngokuzimeleyo kwimiba engxaki. Kukho na ukuphikisana, faka isikhundla sakho ngaphezu kwesinye.
Umgangatho ophezulu ekunxibelelaneni kukukwazi ukuqonda ixabiso lenye, nokuba izikhundla azihambelani. Zama ukuqonda nokwamkela okuthandwa ngumhlobo wakho. Mhlawumbi kubaluleke kakhulu kuye ngoku.
Iingcali zengqondo ziphikisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ukuxabana kwintsapho ngokuqhelekileyo kuba ngumphumo wobomi bokuqala bobayeni, ukungathandi kwabo ukucinga ngomthandi. Iminqweno yakhe kwaye ifuna ukubeka phambili.
Ukungabi nokuqonda ngokubanzi kwintsapho kuholele ekudakaleni, ukuhlukanisa, ukuwohloka kwesimo sengqondo kunye nomzimba, ekunciphiseni okukhulu kumsebenzi womntu. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, ukungonakaliswa kobudlelwane, umgama ukusuka kumlingane. Kwaye kukhokelela ekutshatyalaliswa kwintsapho.
Yaye le mpi zikhokelela ekuphazameni kwe-neuropsychiatric, ngoku abafazi abanakuzibamba, bakhawuleza okanye bazikhala. Kwaye, ngokuthetha ngamaqela amaninzi ahlukileyo, bayanyanzelekile ukuba balandele oko kuthethwe. Kodwa kwachazwa emoyeni, kwaye ingacatshangwanga. Yiloo ndlela abazibophelela ngayo kwizenzo ezinganeleyo, ezizibuhlungu zona ngokwazo.
Kodwa kwakufanelekile kuqala ukuphulaphula ingxaki yomntu othandekayo - kwaye ke awuyi kuhlawula ngeentsholongwane zakho, impilo, ukungonakaliswa kwentlalo-ntle, isimo sengqondo kunye nemvelaphi yengqondo kwintsapho.
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