Ulwalamano lweentsapho lubonwa njengenye yezinto ezidume kakhulu namhlanje. Kwizinto ezingento zanamhlanje, kuya kwenzeka ukuba ukuthandana nomyeni nomfazi abakwazi ukufumana into ephambili - ukuqonda. Ngenxa yoko uninzi lweengxabano luya kutshatyalaliswa kwintsapho. Iintetho "siqondana ngaphandle kwamagama", namhlanje ungakwazi ukudibanisa kakhulu. Amazwi anjalo anokuthiwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngootatomkhulu, owamkela ngesandla ukuze abone ixesha elibalulekileyo, ngakumbi abo baphumelele ukugqithisa ixesha lokulwa. Kwaye thina, isizukulwana samanje sabantu abaselula, abahlala behamba kunye nokugqiba imibuzo eninzi, badinga kuphela ukuba baqhotyoshelane, badlule kwiinkalo zeengxabano zentsapho.
Izizathu zokungquzulana kwintsapho
Mhlawumbi ukuqala kukuxabisa ukucinga nokuvavanya ngenxa yeziphi iingxabano ezenzeka kwintsapho? Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zafumanisa ukuba iingxabano phakathi kwabatshatileyo zivela ngenxa yokungangqinelani kunye ne " iwashi ye-biological ". Kukho abantu "amaqabunga", kukho "iinqununu", kwaye mhlawumbi wena kunye neqabane lakho ninamacandelo ahlukeneyo, ngelixa omnye evuka ekuseni, evuya kwaye esele ehlalutya, kwaye uceba izilwanyana ngosuku olulandelayo, ngenye indlela, elele kwaye Musa ukucinga malunga noko kuya kwenziwa namhlanje. Kodwa oku kucinga nje, okungafanelekanga kuncitshiswa kuzo zonke iingxaki ezivela kubomi bentsapho. Mhlawumbi ahluke - uhlala ungahambisani nezikhundla zobomi, umzekelo, kwimfundo yabantwana, ukungavumelani kwimicimbi yezezimali.
Sithanda ukuvula amehlo ethu kwindlela ukuxabana kuvela ngayo kwintsapho ngokoqobo "kwindawo engenanto" kwaye ngokudabukisayo, kaninzi. Khawucinge nje, imeko efanelekileyo. Uvela emsebenzini, indlela yekhaya ayizange imnandi, umntu washiya, waqalekiswa, kwaye imini yayinzima. Kwaye ke umyeni ohleli phantsi kwesofa aze abukele ithelevishini ngokukhawuleza, umntwana ocela uncedo kwizifundo. Kwaye ubonakala ngathi uqothulwe ngumsindo oye waqokelela kuwe. Yaye xa intsapho ixabana nayo ifikeleleka, uyaqonda ukuba akukho nxalenye yokuqhubeka nencoko. Ekugqibeleni, uye emacaleni, wenze ishishini ngalinye.
Usuku ludlula, okwesibini, kusihlwa kusenziwa ngokuthula, akukho mntu uthetha nabani na, kwaye ifowuni ithule ngokuthula. Sele ucinga:
- "Mhlawumbi ufanele uze uze uthethe?"
- "Hayi, kutheni, okokuqala, ndilungile (a), kwaye okwesibini, kutheni ndimele (kuqala) kuqala?"
Uncedo kwengcali yengqondo yokuxazulula iingxabano zentsapho
Ukuvela kwindlela entsha - ukubonisana kweengqondo zeengqondo ezizithandwa kakhulu kwamanye amazwe, ngamanye amaxesha zichonga iimeko zabantu abaninzi. Ewe, mhlawumbi, le ngenye yeyona ndlela echanekileyo yokuxazulula imeko yezobambano eziye zavela kwintsapho.
Yintoni elungileyo ngale ndlela yokulungisa imeko enzima, ubuza? Impendulo iphezu komhlaba, ekukhangela indlela engcono yokuphuma kwimeko enzima eye yavela, ujikelele kumntu ozimeleyo ngokupheleleyo, ungatsho nakwiinkwenkwezi, onguchwepheshe onobuchule kwimizi yezengqondo kwaye akusiyo isihlobo esiseduze okanye umhlobo wakho. Ingcali yengqondo iza kukunceda wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Kodwa kuthi ngelixa lingaqhelekanga, kwaye iindleko okanye zimi dorogovato, kungekhona wonke umntu ongenalwazi unokukwazi ukujongana nobuchwepheshe. Ngamanye amaxesha abafuni nje ukwenza oko - balahlekelwa ixesha, imali, njl. Kodwa unokuhlala ukhumbula ngokubonisana kwengqondo yengqondo. Umzekelo, ifowuni ye-hotline, apho unokuhlala ubiza khona kwaye ufumane impendulo kumbuzo onomdla kuwo.
Kwabaninzi, ku funeka kucace ukuba xa kukho ukungqubuzana phakathi kwamalungu entsapho, kuya kuba ngcono ukuthetha nomntu onolwazi kunokuba (njengokuba senza) ukugijima kumhlobo osondeleyo ekukhangela inyaniso. Ukongezelela, ngaba uye wacinga ukuba xa ucela umcebisi wakho ukuba ucebise, unganokuzikhubekisa ngesigwebo esingenabulungisa kulabo onokubambisana nabo. Mhlawumbi, kwinqanaba lakho elincinci, intombi yakho inomona, umzekelo, ngubani onobomi bentsapho, kwaye uhlala ezama ukuthetha kwakhona, "Yintoni indoda yakho embi, uVasya, owenza oku."
Ukususela kwingxabano kwintsapho - ukuvisisana ubudlelwane
Masicinge ngako kwaye sihlakulele imeko ngokuhlukileyo. Emva koko, ingxabano kwintsapho kunye nezinye iinkalo zobomi ayisoloko iphethe icala elibi, kuba lihlala lizisa nayiphi na inguqu. Kwaye nakwezinye iimeko kunokusebenza njengoluhlobo lwe-antidiprester kwizinto ezizimeleyo, ezithandekayo.
Ngquzulwano oluvuthayo, abafazi basoloko beqala, ngoko kuthetha, ukuba bahambe kwisihloko esasiyimbangela. Kwixesha lempikiswano, kukhunjulwa ukuba yonke into abayifumene nayo, into endiyifuna ukuyithetha ngaphambili, yayiyikhohliwe ngandlela-thile okanye ihlehliselwa kude kube yimva, inethemba lokuba "mhlawumbi iya kuphucula?". Ngoko ke akunjalo! Yenza kucacile entloko yakho-oko uzama ukuyiqonda nokulungisa ingxaki enye evelele kule meko okwangoku. Yaye kungekhona konke oye waqokelela ixesha elide waza wagqiba ekubeni ukhulule konke oku ngobunzima obufile kumyeni ompofu (umfazi). Musa nje ukungena ezinsongweni, umzekelo: "Ukuba awuyikucoca namhlanje, ndiya kushiya usuku lonke, ndikushiye umntwana omncinci kwaye andiyi kuphendula iindwendwe" okanye "Ndidiniwe konke, ndifuna umtshato." Vumelani, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zingaphi na izihlandlo ezithethayo oku, okokuqala, kuyayeka ukusebenza kwixesha elizayo, okwesibini, ngolunye usuku kuya kufuneka uzalisekise lowo uthembisiwe.
Sicebisa ukuba senze ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ukuxela ingxabano elandelayo kwintsapho, cinga malunga nokuthi uza kuthetha njani na. Emva koko incoko ayiyi kuzisa ingcamango engalunganga, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, uya kufumana ubudlelwane, ngokukhawuleza, ekunciphiseni amathoni. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuyibiza ngokuba yimpikiswano nonke? Akunjalo. Le ngcaciso nje yeqabane lakho, yintoni enokuthanda ukutshintsha kule meko, kwaye zeziphi izisombululo ezinokufunyanwa ngokusebenzisa imizamo ehlangeneyo. Sebenzisa, ngoko kuthetha, ukuzihlola ngaphakathi kwakho. Ewe kunzima, uya kuthi, ngakumbi xa yonke into ibilisa ngaphakathi kwaye ifuna ukuthulula. Kwaye ngubani owathi ubomi bulula? Oko ucinga ngaphambi kokuba uthethe - kulula? Ngokukodwa xa kwenzeka ngexesha lempikiswano: kufuna umzamo, ukukhusela iimvakalelo, kodwa uya kubona - kuza kuba neziqhamo. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo uya kuqonda ukuba ukuphepha ingxabano kwintsapho kulula kakhulu kwindawo ezolile, ngokucacileyo ukucacisa ukunganeliseki kwakho kwaye ufuna iindlela zokuzixazulula. Ngaloo ndlela, uthumele omnye "I - imiyalezo", bevalelana ngelixa beqonda ukungaxhamli kwicala ngalinye.
Ngoko ke, usebenzisa yonke imigaqo echazwe ngasentla, awuyi kubuza ukuxazulula ukungquzulana kwintsapho ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza. Yintoni na eya kukuvumela ukuba ukhulise ngakumbi ubudlelwane bakho kwaye usombulula ngokukhawuleza iingxaki eziqokelelweyo, ngokugqithisela "iindwendwe zentsapho."
Inhlanhla kunye nentsebenziswano ebomini bakho!
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