Amaninzi amaninzi okufakela i-introspection afana nemidlalo, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele uwathathe ngokungathandekiyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi na izikhokelo zengqondo, bonke bayavumelana ngento enye: sizinikela ixesha elincinci nakwiminqweno yethu, sikhetha ukugxila kwiimbono zabanye kunye neengcamango ezivela ngaphandle. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhlalutye ngokukhawuleza "umhla" kunye nawe udlule, umzekelo, iimvavanyo ezilula. Banceda ukuhlalutya ngokucophelela indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwaye benze ukhetho kwiimeko ezinzima. Ngendlela! Ingxaki yokukhetha? Zibuze umbuzo: zingaphi ipesenti unelisekile ngolu hlobo okanye eso siphakamiso? Omnye "kodwa": ebomini kwiminyaka eyi-50 ukuya ku-50 ayenzekanga. Ubuncinane 51 kwi-49.
1. Indlela yokwenza ukuzithemba
Ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kukubalulekileyo ekuphumeleleni ebomini bakho kunye nomsebenzi wakho. Le ngqungquthela yamkelekile kwiinkampani zaseMerika: umntu ophantsi kokuzimelela kunye nokuzimela kwakhe akunakwenzeka ukuba adlulise iimvavanyo xa eqesha. Kutheni? Impendulo iyabonakala: akayi kukwazi ukufezekisa imisebenzi yakhe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye angaphumele umqeshi. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, nathi ngokwethu asikwazi ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo indlela esizihlola ngayo. Dweba kwiphepha lesilinganisi, ekupheleni kweempawu ezichaziweyo. Cinga ukuba ekupheleni kwesilinganiselo esinye - umntu obuthathaka kakhulu emhlabeni, kwaye ekupheleni kwesinye - unamandla kunabo bonke. Uya kuba phi? Ukuchonga le ndawo uze uyiphawule kwinqanaba. Emva koko thabatha umlawuli uze ubale, kukuphi umgama ukusuka kumda osekhohlo womgca kukho uphawu. Ubude bomgca ngamnye ngu-10 cm (elilingana namaqondo angama-10). Bala ukuba mangaphi amaphuzu enayo kwisikali ngasinye, kwaye ke ubale i-arithmetic ithetha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ibhinqa kufuneka libe namaqaku angama-5-8, indoda-amaphuzu angu-7-8. Ukuba isiphumo sakho siphezulu kunesiqhelekileyo, ngoko unesidima sokuzithemba. Abantu abanokuzithemba ngokuzithemba ngokuqhelekileyo bayaziqhayisa, abahlali behlala kunye nabanye abantu, bahlala behlanjalazwa ngenxa yokuzingca, okukhokelela kwiingxaki zobundlelwane obuhlukeneyo, kwaye kaninzi kubunzima kwimisebenzi yabo. Ukulungiswa kwinqanaba lokuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo kuya kunceda ukwazi ngokulula ukuba ungeyena mandla onke, kunye nenkqubo "Ngubani na ukumkani wezilwanyana." Ukuba uqikelelo lwakho lusezantsi kunezinto eziqhelekileyo, ngoko uyazithoba. Zama ukufumana indawo yobomi onokuphumelela kwaye uzame ukuqonda ukuba unako ukufikelela. Ungesabi ukufuna uncedo kubantu abasondeleyo: baya kukuxhasa xa kunzima. Jonga ngokwakho ubuncinci buza kunceda ubuchule bokuthi "Fumana ukungafani."
2. "Indoda Emvula"
Le ndlela inceda ekuqaliseni indlela onokuyitshintsha ngayo ubunzima bokuphila. Ngaba ulahlekelwa inkxaso kwizona nkxwaleko? Okanye uqhubeke usebenza nzima ukuxazulula ingxaki, nokuba ngaba ngokwenene sele ulahlekelwe ukufaneleka kwayo? Xa sele ufumene iimpawu ezizimeleyo zokuziphatha kwakho kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo, uya kuba nako ukunquma okokuthintela ngokuchanekileyo isisombululo sabo sokukhawuleza. Thatha amaphepha amaphepha amabini. Kwisitho mnye umntu (ngeenkcukacha ezininzi njengoko ufuna), kwelinye - umntu emvula. Ngoku uthelekisa le mizobo. Ngokusekelwe kwiziphumo zophando lwezesayensi, abaphathi abakhulu abanokuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo basebenze kakuhle kwaye banokuthi bazise inkampani yabo ukuba igqibe i-bankruptcy. Ukuboniswa. Ukuba umntu emvula ubonakaliswa ngokushiya, ngoko uzimisele ukushiya iingxaki ngaphandle kokuzixazulula. Ukuba uye wathumela phezulu kwiphepha, uzama ukulibala malunga neengxaki ngoncedo lwefantasti. Ukutshintshwa kwizantsi kweqabana kubonisa ukutyekela ukudandatheka. Ukuba umntu omncinci uya kutshintshela ngakwesobunxele, unxibelelene ngokuqinileyo nexesha lakho elidlulileyo. Ukuba kukho ukutshintshela ngakwesokudla, ngoko uluvo lwabanye lubalulekile kuwe. Ukuguqulwa komfanekiso. Ukuba umntu emvuleni mkhulu kunomntu osekuqaleni, ngoko ubunzima bunika ithemba kuwe. Ukuba ungaphantsi - unesidingo esikhulu senkxaso yabantu abasondeleyo. Ubuninzi beengubo zeengubo zithetha ngeemfuneko zokukhuselwa kwangaphandle; indoda ehambayo ibonisa ukunyanzeliswa kokuziphatha kwakho. Umfanekiso womntu kwimvula, oboniswe kwiprofayili okanye ngasemva kwakhe, ubonisa ukuba xa unengxaki ufuna ukushiya ihlabathi, zihoxise. Imvula ibonakalisa iingxaki ngokwazo. Ukuba lincinci, lithetha ukuba iingxaki zisexeshana. Ukuba imvula icwecwe emigqabeni enqabileyo, i-fat fat - iingxaki zakho zibonakala zingenakunceda kuwe. Misela apho imvula ivela khona: ngakwesokudla (iingxaki ezisuka kwihlabathi langaphandle) okanye ngakwesobunxele (iingxaki ziveliswa ngumntu ngokwakhe). Amafu - isimboli sokulinda ingxaki. Iifumba kunye nodaka yimiphumo yezimo eziphazamisayo kuwe. Iinkcukacha. Izindlu, imithi, iibhentshi, kwakunye nezinto ezibanjwe ngumntu, zibonisa imfuno yokweseka inkxaso. Umbane ufukisele utshintsho oluphawulekayo ebomini bakho, umlambo-ukufuna ukuphela kokugqwesa. Umbrella - ukukhusela kwiinkathazo. Ukuba umntu uyayibamba ezandleni zakho, ngoko unayo ingxaki kwaye kukho umntu onokukuxhasa.
3. Ngubani na ukumkani wezilwanyana?
Emva kokuba uqinisekile ukuba uyingqayizivele, kulungile ukuqonda indlela abantu abasondeleyo bakubona ngayo. Iingcali zengqondo zibiza le "ngxelo". Ngokuqhelekileyo kungenxa yokungabikho kwayo kwaye kukho ukungavumelani nokungaqondani. Emva kwakho konke, oko kubonakala kukucacile kuwe, akunakwenzeka ukuba kubonakale kubonakala komnye umntu. Kungenzeka ukuba ukujonga kwakho ngabantu abahlukileyo kuya kuba yinto eyahlukileyo. Musa ukumangaliswa: kubonisa kuphela ukuba ungumntu onobugcisa. Emva kokugqiba olu vavanyo olulula, uya kuqonda kakhulu malunga nawe kunye nobuhlobo kwintsapho yakho. Ukuxhotywe ngamaphepha kunye neepati. Dweba onke amalungu entsapho ngendlela yezilwanyana ezithile. Cela amanye amalungu omndeni ukuba enze umsebenzi ofanayo. Lo mdlalo - akukho mntu uya kukwenqaba! Kwaye ngoku uhlalutyo olunzulu. The lekisa imidwebo ephumo. Ukuqwalasela ezi ngongoma zibalulekileyo: Ziyintoni uhlobo lwezilwanyana: ngaba zixhaphaza okanye zithandekayo, zasemakhaya okanye zasendle, zikhuselayo okanye zihlasela, zizilwanyana okanye zingekho, zihle okanye zingekho. Yintoni ubukhulu bezilwanyana ezinxulumene nomnye. Ngubani omkhulu, okubaluleke ngakumbi! Ziziphi izilwanyana ezinxulumene nomnye, ngubani obeka kuqala, ngubani ekupheleni, ngubani osondeleyo kuye, njl njl.
4. Iileta ezinemibala
Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nayiphi na ingxaki okanye imeko, awukwazi ukufumana indlela yokuphuma okanye nokuba uqonde indlela oziva ngayo malunga noko kwenzekayo, "bhala iileta". Ngoko awugcini nje ukuphosa iimvakalelo eziqokelelwayo, kodwa unokukwazi ukucacisa ngokucacileyo into ongayithandiyo, into ongathanda ukuyifumana ekugqibeleni. Ukuzama ukugqwesa kuyingozi. Emva koko, akunakwenzeka, oko kuthetha ukuba ukudumazeka akunakupheka. Kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuba uyamkele ngobuqotho. Kwaye uthathe, sele sele uzimisele ukuba ungathanda ukwenza ntoni ukuze wenze ubomi bukhulu ngakumbi.