I-Sexologists ibone into enomdla ukuba emva kweminyaka engama-30 ibhinqa idinga ngokwesondo, oko kukuthi, ukuphakama kwezenzo zakhe zesondo kwindawo ephakamileyo. Ngoko ke, phakathi kweso sihloko siya kuba yintokazi, isidingo sesondo emva kwe-30 esiza kuxoxwa ngazo.
Akucaci ke ngoko, kubaphi abafazi abaselula kwiminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwimi-40 babuzwa imibuzo malunga nokuxazulula ingxaki, enxulumene nendlela yokonwabela ubudlelwane bezesondo? Ngaba zikhona izizathu zokungabikho komdla wesini? Ngaba kukho iindlela zokunyusa i-libido? Ubomi kunye neengxakini zentsapho, ukuzithemba ukuzithemba-esinye sezizathu eziphambili. Isizathu esinokwenzeka, ngaphezu kwezinto eziye zatshoyo, kukuhlambalaza iqabane. Umda weemfuno zesondo zobabini amaqabane angeke uhambelane, kuba le nto yenzeke kwi-35-60% yabasetyhini kumazwe ahlukeneyo. Awufuni ukuzisola oku? Ngaba wayephikile indoda yakhe? Emva koko kufuneka uqale ukusebenza, ixesha lokuba uthathe izenzo ezilungileyo.
Ukuphumla ngokuchanekileyo. Olunye ugqirha, ongobuchule kwiingxaki zesini, uxela ukuba malunga nama-40% wabasetyhini emva kwe-30 ababa ngongxowankulu. Ukuphumla okuhlelekile kukunyathelo ekufumaneni ukuba ufuna ntoni kwisini. Zonke ezinye iziqu ziquka ukuphumla komntu othile, nokuba ngumzimba, okanye ingqondo, okanye ngokomoya. Ukuphumla kwezentlalo kunokuba kuchazwe nje ngokuthetha nabahlobo. Ukuphumla kwengqondo - ingcamango ethile kwimibono yakho, iminqweno. Imizuzu emibini ngosuku kufuneka inikwe imemori efudumalayo, okanye amaphupha. Ukuzilolonga kuyimvelo, nje ukuyibeka-iphupha elifutshane elifutshane. Iphupha, njengoko laziwa, lihlala malunga neyure emva kokuba i-hustle and bustle inceda ukunyamekela. Ukuzilolonga ngumoya - iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokucamngca ezinceda ukuba zitshintshe.
Nika ixesha. Ngaba isondo esicwangcisiweyo singanikela ngaphezu kokufunayo kunokuba senzeke ngokukhawuleza? Kuvela - ewe. Emva kweengxaki ezahlukeneyo zasekhaya, umnqweno wesicwangciso sezesondo unako ukusinda. Iingcali zikwacebisa ukuba ukhethe ukulayishwa kweentsuku - ungapheki nonke, ngaphandle kokuphuma emva kokuhlwa kwasemini. Ukukhathala yiyona nto eyona nto, eyona nto ibangela ukuba kunokwenzeka ukwandisa i-libido. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane umonakalo ekwenzeni uthando xa kuhlwe "ukukhathala"? Iingcali ezivela eBrithani zicebisa abafazi abancinci ukuba bathabathe izinto ezithandwayo ekulawuleni kwabo, ukufumana ixesha lokulala ngokwesini ngokufanelekileyo. Kwaye ukukholisa umntu ukuba ahlanganyele kwiminqweno yesondo kuyisigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Sizama ukuphumla . Abanye oogqirha beengqondo baye bahlakulela inzululwazi ethile yokufumana okufunwayo ekuthandeni. Iingcamango zale ngcali kukuba ukuba intombazana ayikwazi ukufumana umnqweno omuhle, ukutsho ukuba ayikwazi ukufumana ulwalamano nobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Phumla into yokuqala, oko kukufanele ukwenze. Amanye amantombazana amancinane athabatha eli cebiso njengesenzo esingathandekiyo. Ukujonga ngesondo njengomsebenzi, akunakwenzeka. Kungcono ukuyiqwalasela njengesikhumbuzo kumntu othandekayo. Indoda ifuna ukubeka ingqwalasela kwimo yakhe, ukukhokelela ekubeni uhlanganyele kwizesondo zesini. Abathandwayo okanye amadoda nje kufanele ahlale ebona ukubaluleka kwawo. Ubomi bentlobano yabantu - isiphumo sokukhumbuza, ukuba oko kwakumnandi, vumela nakwezinye ixesha.
Siyazifunda. Ukuzama ukuqonda okokufunayo kunye nokukhethwa kwintlanzi kuyimfuneko kumntu wonke. Xa ufundele ngokwakho, yichaphazela inxalenye yeendawo eziyingozi kwiintanda zakho. Bonke abafazi abaselula bayakholelwa ukuba indoda elungileyo kufuneka yazi ukuba ngabafazi bafuna ntoni ngesondo. Kwindlela yokuphila, iindawo ezinokuthi zitshintshe zikwazi ukutshintsha indawo yazo, apho izicwangciso zesini zilahlekelwa yimpumelelo yazo yangaphambili. Ukunikezela ixesha lokufumana umntu ofanelekileyo emzimbeni wakhe kubalulekile. Ukwaneliseka ngothintelo kumzimba wakho ukuze kubangele ukuba iimvakalelo ezihlaziyiweyo. Emva kokufunda "ngeengxenye" kuyimfuneko ukuchaza ngokucacileyo iqabane elifumana imimandla ephosakeleyo. Eyona nto ibone indlela yokuphatha ngayo. Ufuna ukufumana into oyifunayo kwizinto zokuziphatha zesondo, uthetha ngabo ngomntu.
Sifuna ukunyamezela. Abaphandi besibhedlele esinye bafumanisa ukuba izinto zokuzonwabisa zesini, xa kugxininiswa kwindoda yesini engama-30-45 iminyaka, iwele ngenxa yokuba abazange banike isisa. Ibhinqa ifuna kwakhona kule minyaka, kodwa xa kuthe ubuhlobo obude kunye nesiqingatha sesilisa, uyancipha kancane kancane. Emva kweminyaka emine yobundlobongela kwi-60% yabasetyhini abanesidingo sokulala ngesondo, kwakukho 47% kuphela. Ubomi bomtshato obeminyaka amabini aneminyaka engama-20 kuphela. Abaninzi abasetyhini bakholelwa ukuba ubomi besondo buya kuthatha indawo ngezinye iindlela kunye nobubele, ngoko ke bavuma ukuzonwabisa ngezinto ezinqwenelekayo ngaphandle komnqweno. Kodwa le meko yimiba inokukhokelela ekubeni inxalenye yesibini yomphakathi iphelile "ukuba neyodwa" ukukhangwa ngesondo. Kwiimfuno zokuthetha isiqingatha sesilisa siyimfuneko, kunye neminqweno.
Viagra kubasetyhini. I-ejensi yeViagra yinto enokunyusa ukuhamba kwegazi kwizitho zomzimba zesini. Uninzi lwemveliso, ekujonganeni nokukhululwa kwezinto ezinjalo, "uzonqoba". Kukho abaphandi abacebisa ukuba ne-hormone testosterone, kunye nobukho bayo kukho ukunciphisa umnqweno wesini. Ngokukhawuleza, kwindlela enomdla kwaye ekhuselekileyo yokufezekisa okufunwayo ngesini-into encane phambi kwayo. Ukutya yonke into ayilandelanga, sifuna kuphela iimveliso ezithile - ezinye i-aphrodisiacs, eziziimifuno kunye nezilwanyana. Abagqugquzeli bezityalo zokukhanga banothando banobhanana, okanye imihla, okanye i-almond. Phakathi kweentlobo zezilwanyana zingabizwa ngokuthi ushizi webhokhwe, okanye ubisi, okanye amaqanda ezinqatha. Into ephambili akuyi kuhamba kakhulu neli shishini ukwenzela ukuba ungafumani umphumo ochaseneyo.
Ibhinqa emva kwe-30 livula kuphela iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphila, kwaye akufanelekile ukuyeka kwingxaki yokukhangwa kwesondo. Yithatha nje kwaye ufumane indlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma kule ngxaki. Emva koko zonke iingxaki ziya kuhlelo lwesibini.